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ok i just turned 13 a week ago and i'm in 7th grade, and i havn't had a boyfriend yet...i'm pretty sure its because... i'm ugly, i mean i wear glasses i'm 5'0 or 5'1 and i'm fat... (135) waht do i do??i cant talk to a friend or cousin or aunt, and my mom passed away. so i live with my dad. what should i do?? please please please help me.
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There is no rush for a biyfriend though. Im 16, ive never had a boyfriend, many people havent had realtionships and there is no rush for them. They are complicated and people make such a big deal out of them. You might as well wait for the right person........... someone who loves you just as much as u love them. You dont want to be with just anyone, you want someone special.
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Lots of people your age haven't had their first boyfriend yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get their first boyfriend when they're 12; others when they're 16 and some even only have their first boyfriend when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first boyfriend, yet. You're only 13, hun. You have tons of time for boyfriends!
As for you being ugly, I'm sure you're a very beautiful girl. Everyone is beautiful in his or her own way. EVERYONE has something gorgeous about himself or herself. You need to be more confidence about yourself. Don't be down on your looks. So what, you have glasses. A lot of people have glasses and they're still beautiful. And you weight and height doesn't matter one bit. It is what is inside that counts. And I know that not a lot of people know that and a lot of people just judge others on their looks. But I assure you, that one special guy will find you and he'll love you for every single flaw you have. And no matter how ugly you feel, he'll be the one telling you you're beautiful everyday.
But for now, just have fun with your friends and doing things normal teenage girls do. Don't be down on your looks. Be yourself and if people don't like that they don't deserve to be your friend. Don't change for anyone but yourself. Cheer up a little, hun. If you feel like you're beautiful, you ARE beautiful; inside and out.
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Im sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.
You are still only 13 - just give guys a chance to get to know you. It's not because your ugly - i'm sure you are very pretty.
You shouldn't change who you are just to fit in!
However, everyone has room for a little change...For example:
1. try experimenting with a few different hair styles
2. try wearing a little bit of make-up to give you an all-over, even complexion and bring out your features
3. decide which colours compliment your skin tone and work on that a bit too.
Don't change thinking that it will get you noticed, because it wont...or at least not for the right reasons...Let guys get to know you for who you are and you will find someone soon!
I hope i have helped you!
xxx
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Aww! I'm sorry about the loss of your mother.
But listen, confidence is key! If you're confident in yourself, that's all that matters. Guys love confidence. And if you feel negatively about yourself, and they see that, they're not gonna wanna be with you. Besides, girls don't usually get boyfriends til about 8th grade or highschool. And you still have plenty of time to grow [height & body], so don't put yourself down about your weight. You only look that way because you're short, and it shows more than it does on a tall person. And glasses aren't really all that ugly, but if you hate them so much, ask your dad about contacts. Try to change a litle. If your hair is long, layer it, or give it a trim. Wear makeup.
But never, ever put yourself down. I'm sure you're pretty. =] Besides, you don't need a man to complete you.
♥TiNA
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People usually get boyfriends in 8th grade or in highschool. If you get a boyfriend now, it would be setting yourself up for a "heartbreak" because guys at that age are immature and they dont know what they want.
You aren't ugly. Everyone is beautiful. Some people just expect everyone to look a certain way. [Those people are stupid]
I'm sure some guy likes a girl with glasses. It's pretty cute. And..Who's short. A guy likes someone shorter than them! And you aren't fat. You have skin on your bones. Guys like that! It's unattractive to be all bony and super skinny. It's not cool to hug a girl and feel like you are going to BREAK them.
You dont need a boyfriend right now. If a guy doesnt ask you out, it's because he's a loser. Haha. Some guys are shy too.
If you want to lose weight, jog every day and eat healthier foods. Eating speeds up your metabolism. Not eating makes you gain weight and it's unhealthy.
If you need someone to talk to, there's a lot of people on advicenators willing to.
Just write to their inbox or get their AIM SN, msn, etc.
Btw, High confidence is a good thing.
So think better of yourself. :]
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It's alright!
most girls at age 13 also think they are fat, ugly, short...but then once they look at themselves in the mirror, they can see the good points of view about them. Right now you lack self confidence. You need to stop hanging your head and lift your chin up! You're actually lucky to be short... I'm 14 and 5'7!!!!!! So when you go through puberty you'll start getting taller, lose a few pounds, maybe its baby fat. As for the glasses- I know so many girls that wear glasses and they dont care. Girls 'think' that guys like girls without glasses..... but that's not true. Guys actually ((sometimes)) like girls with glasses because it makes them look smart. Don't think no guy want's to be with you because you're ugly... every girl is a princess. And if you change into those snotty girls who wear tons of make-up and flirt with guys 24/7 and go shopping everyday... I garuntee that your life will suck! Part of growing up is experiencing changes. Just keep your head high... and the right guy will come for you. All of the guys right now that dont like you are really stupid guys, because a true man would love you for who you are... not who you are pretending to be.
I hope I helped!!!!!
-volleyball2150
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hey there!
sweetie, you need to be more confident and dont bring yourself down. your only 13 years young yes young..please enjoy being 13 because you only get to be it once. its normal that for young girls and boys not to have a girlfriend or boyfriend yet. trust me, girls and boys dont know why they want a girlfriend or boyfriend and its not about wanting its about how you feel. things cant be forced just let things happen. i bet your not ugly, fat or short. your 13 dont worry your going to grow taller and you probably only have baby fat and thats going to go away too. not all people that are short, fat and wear glasses are ugly or disliked by people because yea i have glasses and i'm 5'3 and yes i am thick but im not fat. you just need to be confident and love yourself. hope this helps!
-manda
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This might sound generic but the best thing you can do is be yourself. Judging by what you said about yourself you're probably not the most confident person in the world, just like myself. Glasses, shortness and weight aren't ugly. The only thing ugly in this world is personality and as long as you have a good personality you have everything you need. Focus on being 13 and having fun with your friends. Trust me, boys aren't as great as they sound.
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you're not ugly unless you tell your self you are and who cares if your big-boned just believe in your self and here's a qote:
Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
-kikij
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don't think so low of yourself! guys like a girl who is confident, but not to the point of being conceided. and not having a bf yet isn't bad. i was 16 when i got my first real bf but he broke up with me after a month. after that i just got to the point of desperation and it got me in a lot of bad situations that could have been worse. but the guy i'm dating now, was sooo worth the wait!! keep your eyes open because the right guy is out there, it's just takin him a little bit to find you!!
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don't be so hard on yourself! i'm 15 and 5'3", wear glasses (sometimes, i have contacts though) and i've never had a boyfriend. and i'm a freshman. it's not that uncommon. i'm sure you're not ugly, and as you get older, whether you get taller or not, you thin out a little bit. like, two years ago i was chubbier than i am now. basically, with time i kind of changed. because every year up until this year i would go up a size in jeans, but i would never get taller. i can't explain how/why that happened. but then this year i grew like an inch and my pants size stayed the same. and i can't explain that either. if you want to get control of your weight, start exercising. i have a friend, and you remind me of her... she lives with her dad, she's kind of short, and she used to be concerned with her weight. this summer she started eating healthier and exercising and stuff, and she lost two pants sizes. if you don't have any exercise equipment at your house, just go running around your neighborhood or walk or something. do crunches or situps or pushups. there's always ways to control your weight. you can even quit drinking soft drinks and it will help tremendously! not only do you look better, but you feel better about yourself. don't do anything drastic because in a few years you probably won't weigh that much and you will probably be taller. if you're worried about the glasses thing, then get contacts. or get cuter glasses. i mean, i know a lot of guys that love girls that wear glasses. seriously, they make us look really cute. so embrace the glasses. believe it or not, a lot of people wish they had eye problems so they could wear glasses. if you need somebody to talk to, go to a teacher or guidance counselor or neighbor or family friend. they'll listen to you, for sure.
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first of all 135 isnt even fat alot of kids thin out as they get older, dont go looking for a boyfriend because all the kids at school have one wait until you find someone you actually like other wise you will always remeber you frist boyfriend as some you didnt really like , just because you wear glasses dosent mean ur ugly but if thats the problem ask you dad for contacts and being short dosent make you ugly i know alot of short pretty people. the biggest thing is to belive in your self if you even need someone to talk to send me a message i would be more then happy to give you advise on make up boys or whatever you need
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Well, first of all, you're just barely 13. The body stops developing and growing at 18, so you really have a good 5 years to change and grow and everything. Whenever I was younger, I thought I looked horrid. I think I look fine now.
About your weight, if you want it gone, then you have to take control of it. Go on a good steady diet and start jogging around the neighborhood and exercising more.
And I don't think glasses are that big of a deal. I wear glasses sometimes, and people say it makes me look smarter. I think it makes me look a little older looking too, haha. But if glasses bother you that much, talk to your dad about getting some contacts.
But, the main point is. It might not even be because you think you're "ugly". [ I'm not saying it's you! ]I mean I've seen real pretty girls and they don't get guys either. It just depends who a guy is interested in and who they're not. I mean some girls can be smart, funny, everything and not get a guy. Guys are just real confusing sometimes.
But believe me, in a few years, you'll be changing, growing and things'll be different. Who knows? You might even grow and change this year. But you just need to remember you are pretty and let your confidence in yourself show to people, cause that's another thing a guy likes. A girl with confidence!
I hope I helped.
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My dear girl. You are still a baby. Bear in mind at your age your still going through puberty. Your body goes through many stages. I also wear glasses and my husband doesn't think i'm ugly for wearing them. I think you need to stick your chin up high and tell yourself that you are a beautiful person. You don't need a boyfriend at your age and soon enough when you least expect it the sweetest guy in the world is gonna break down your door just to see you. Things will look up. You'll see.
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Ah Im 13 , 8th grade and weigh about the same.
I havent had a boyfriend either, its not that your fat or ugly or wear glasses. Thats nonsense.
You probably are just to good for the people at your school , and maybe your higher standards than the boys at your school.
Once you get into highschool , you'll probably have an older boyfriend and everyone would be jealous.
But never be down on yourself , you can always make yourself look better if you think its needed.
And I know its hard, because my mom lives in another state so i just live with my dad too and im an only child.Try reading books and spending extra time with your mascara and lip gloss, you'll have fun.
Good luck!
If you have any other questions, I'll be glad to hear them!
--Kendra
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Stupid guys. They confuse me too much.
I haven't had a boyfriend either. I came pretty close last year, but it didn't work out because of my "best friend."
Anyways, be more outgoing. Talk to people more, but don't be mean to anyone.
Start exercising and eating healthy. You'll lose weight in no time. If you drink green tea, it will help speed up your metabolism.
Go shopping. It always makes me feel better for some reason. Get clothes from places like American Eagle, Aeropostale, and Hollister because for some reason some people think you are a total loser now if you don't get stuff from there. I have no idea why.
Get contacts also. Since you're 13, you can finally get them.
Good luck!
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I believe no one is ugly in this world. Everyone will have his/her own special features or something good within.
And of cos,you my dear, I believe you aren't ugly. Learn to love yourself. I'm sure everyone has something pretty bout them. Everytime you look at yourself in the mirror, smile your best smile.Tell yourself that you're beautiful and sexy! There's a saying which goes "There're no ugly women in this world. Only lazy women"
If you wear glasses, maybe you can get contacts. Or if you want, you can get yourself a pair of cool, nice fashionable spectacles.
If you are conscious bout your weight, go work out and lose some pounds. Get up and do something! Don't sit there and brood over your shortcomings!
Dye your hair, have it layered; do whatever it takes to make yourself feel good bout yourself.
Spending money on stuff that makes you feel good bout yourself is money worth spending. For eg, if it takes me 100 bucks to get my hair rebonded and if it makes me look and feel beautiful, I'd say that 100 bucks is pretty cheap because it can buy me confidence, which is priceless.
Find friends to talk to. I can assure you friends will be your best companions throughout your growing years.=)
Maybe you can talk to your dad regarding confidence and self esteem issues? He's your dad and he'll definitely be willing to help you.
Lastly, you don't need a bf to make yourself feel great. What's more, having a bf means having to maintain the relationship and possibly having to deal with the pain of breaking up. Are you ready for one? Are you ready to commit and juggle your time between school work and bf?
You are still young, only 13!! You've not even lived a quarter of your live yet! Trust me, there will be guys out there who'll love you for who you are. Don't go searching for bfs cos relationships will just happen to you without you even knowing that you're already in love =)
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honey you are just a teen, u r still developing. as for the glasses, now days a lot of girls wear them. if you are concerned with your weight you could always excerise.or maybe join a sport. as far as the boys, well guys are nervous at your age. and why would you call your self ugly? everyone is beautiful in their own way. i think you first need to be happy of who u are then persue a boy.
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