Hi,My name is Beck and I am 23 years old. I am currently attending a RMIT dental school in Melbourne Australia to get my qualifications. I have been with my partner for nearly 6 years now and have been married for 1 of those 6 years. I love to help people in any way that I can. Please don't be afraid to ask me a question.
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Age: 23
Member Since: September 19, 2006
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how do you prove love to someone you love? (link)
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It is hard to say how to prove to someone that your love them. It depends on how long you have known them. The best way to do it is to say those three little words I Love You. Wanting to be around them and cuddling also makes a nice love scene for you and your partner.
Good luck
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hey iam 17 and iam going to universal studios in october and my mom said i could go since my cousin is taking me,but she said i couldn't ride any of the rides while iam there.I mean what's the point of even going if i can't ride the rides that's the whole point of even going she treats me like iam a baby but iam not how can i convince my mom to let me ride some of the rides thankyou. (link)
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I think if your mum is still refusing you should just not tell her. What she doesn't know won't hurt her. You are 17 and at your age you can make these decisions for yourself. If you have no health problems I say go nuts and enjoy yourself. How often do you have an opportunity to do this.
Good luck
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Please help! My best friend has all of a sudden since she got back from her clubbing holiday started seeing this guy. I know he isnt right and his family do drugs and it wouldnt suprise me if he did aswell, my friend doesnt see any wrong in him and is going on dates with him thinking hes 'sweet' and caring. Im not jealous its just since she came back from her holiday she still acts like shes in ibiza, trying to get with all the guys. I dont know what to think/to do. your advice please... thank you!! (link)
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I think the best thing to do is support her in what she feels. You can tell her that you are worried about her and to be careful but don't tell her what to do. She will eventually see something different in this guy she's seeing and end up breaking it off with him. You will have to be ready to be her rock. Eventually she will also get bored of her party life and go back to her normal ways.
Hope things work out
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how do u get ride of a yeast infection without going tot he doctor or anyhting? (link)
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I don't think there is a way of getting rid of a yeast infection without going to a doctor. Don't be embarressed. This is perfectly normal. Just describe your symptoms and then the doctor will give you a perscription.
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ok, so i am 15 now and ive never had a boyfriend. and im a girl, obviously.
but anyways, i really like this one kid and he knows and has for like a year now, and ive liked him for about 2 years all together. but overall, i dont know how to flirt without it being awkward and obvious. i feel really wierd when i do.. i mean, i feel obvious. i have so little confidence in myself that i just try to avoid it all together. but it really became clear to me that i have to do something when my friend said that i 'flirt more with girls than guys' and that hurt me.
so basically, what should i do!?
i want SOMETHING to be different this year :/ (link)
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Ok. To flirt you just need to be yourself. Laugh at things he says (even if its nots funny), and do minor touching. Maybe when your laughing give his arm a little tap. Normally that can give them a little hint that you like them.
For the second part of your question it is hard for me to say what to talk about. Since you have known him for a while you should have an idea on his interests. When interests have finished then go onto friends or teachers and what he thinks of them. Then hint in by asking what movies he likes and if he would like to go and see one with you.
I really hope things work out for you.
Good luck
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I met a girl at a party this weekend and ever since, we've talked for hours every day. I know she really likes me, and I'm starting to feel the same about her. She seems like she's the kind of person who dates for fun, though..and doesn't take it seriously. I'm all about having fun, but that's not all dating is, and I'm afraid she might think it is. I'm afraid she'll drop me quickly because she seems like she gets bored easily.
Any advice? Thx.
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Ok. I think you should date her if thats what she wants but take it slowly. Don't get your heart set on a relationship with her too quickly. Taking it slowly will also mean your heart won't be broken too easily. Bear in mind you are only 16 and have the rest of your life to find the perfect girl.
Good luck
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to start off i am 15/female.. but okay, so i have liked this one kid for like.. at least 2 years now and he knows.. so anyways i will probably ALWAYS like him but that has really nothing to do with what im asking.. but anyways, almost a year ago i met this other kid and im pretty good friends with him now, but him & one of my friends have been going out now for almost 9 months.. and since ive spent a lot of time with him & what not im starting to like him more and more.. but its only SOMETIMES that i feel like i like him.. i feel wierd just typing this, but when im around him he just always makes me laugh & im not sure if i just love him company or if i actually like him.. i dont know what to do.. ahh its wierd.
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Ok. So you may wanna tread carefully there. Since your mate is also dating this guy I would suggest to not mention anything, otherwise you may lose your friend, and from experience at your age, a friend is better then any boy. Normally it comes out to a teenage crush but in the end I know you will make the right decision.
Good luck
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I have a mom tht is a control/protect freak she always wants things her way. I have to have my room the way she wants it my computer has to face the way she wants it and she always says when im with her im on her time and the problem is tht she always wants me to do her stuff. I run to the car, get the mail, take out the garbage(sumtimes), and do everything to care of my dog and she still doesn't appreciate me. She is way over protective. She doesn't like me goin places without her or my dad even tho i end up goin it usually takes hours of fighting and begging and crying. I am tired of her controling my life especially my room. I want my room to be MY room not hers. I like my room messy cuz then it feels like i actually live in it. What should I do? I dnt know how to talk to her cuz she always blocks me off but she never blocks my brother off when he is having problems. I dont get it she always says i have to wait till my dad comes home to discuss what is happeneing When i try to talk to her she takes things away and says she is in control!!!! i hate it she always says i dnt understand anything and i never will. When my brother calls me slut, dunce,bitch, etc. and i tell her she doesn't do anyting about it she just tells him not to and when i do those sort of things she punishes me. i cnt take it anymore HELP MEE!! (link)
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My mum was always on my case about alot of things but you need to be rebellious. I don't know how old you are but it sounds like your young. I don't feel it is fair for your mum to treat you like that. Learn to say no and constantly do the opposite of what she says like mess up your room if you want. In the end she will give up.
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well, im living with my dad and my grandmother because I went in to a mental hospital because I couldnt tell my family about it because my familys are christian so you see I would be cast out and they wont except me for me so im stuck on a bit of a perdictament and its just that my grandmas both dont want me to be gay please email me ASAP (link)
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When it comes down to it unfortunately alot of people can't help being attracted to the opposite sex. I think your family will be upset at first but in time will learn to accept it. Tell them nd give it time for the news to sink. Be proud of what you are.
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my friend, lets just call her stacy and i used to be inseperable. we were best friends, we would hang out everyday, cuz we were neighbors so we could. anyway, lately shes been hanging out with a popular girl, lets call her lily. so stacy has been hanging out with lily, and its really sad cuz she never hangs out with me anymore. and a couple weeks ago, she said she didnt want to be friends anymore because i was "clingy" and i wasnt clingy at all! but now we are kind of friends i guess, i mean, we talk and stuff. bt i just looked at her AIM profile and im not in it she has all her other friends except me. and shes not friends with any of her old ones, except me and i guess were not bestfriends anymore. and not she is really popular, and she ignores me during school, and lily is more important to her than i am. and, shes just not the same old stacy anymore. i want my old stacy back! i miss her so much! please! i need help! (link)
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Don't waste the time trying. She has obviously become snobby and "lily" would have been the cause of the problem by telling her not to be friends with you or anyone else not in the popular circle. You could attempt to take her aside and tell her how you feel but I doubt it will do anything. Unfortunately popularity becomes tempting and gets into your head too much. In the end it will be stacey who comes crawling back to you begging for your friendship when lily finally rejects her. I have seen it before and its not pretty.
Hope i helped
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one of my good friends is a lesbian, she acts like she likes me alot ( like bestfriend) and then other times she ignores me for like 2 weeks and today i hung out with her friend "boy" and "she" told him he should of told me to leave and not hang out with me caus im stupid, i think she was just jealous because she asked me last week if i liked "boy" and i said idk. anyways i absolutly love the girl when were friends, but when shes not friends with me and says bad stuff about me like she doesnt care about me at all, it makes me feel bad, and i dont want to seem desperate to get our friendship back, so i dont say anything about it, i feel like shes pushing me around and she said i was easy, i guess because i keep wanting to be her friend again but i dont know what to do (link)
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What kind of a friend is that who runs hot and cold on you all the time. In my opinion I feel she isn't worth the agony. You need to find out why she is bad mouthing you. You are human too. She may be angry that you have a different sexuality to her. Any friend who drags you in the dirt is nothing but a backstabber.
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Alright, popular question here, haha.
Well, schools started and we all our assigned in certain areas, and of course, since everyone sort of has their friends already, much of the people sitting around the group I'm in aren't much for conversation since we're all strangers to one another. I mean, a few of them know eachother and it's hard to get into a conversation with them since they're talking about things I don't know about. Any advice on how to talk to them better and get to know them?
I hope I helped. (link)
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Well the first thing you need to do is approach them and introduce yourself. A small introduction can meet alot to just one person. Once you do that they will start talking to you and most likely ask questions about you.
Good luck
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sorry in advance that its a litlle long
ok so...my "ex boyfreind" and i had dated for a little more than a year. and then one night. i was just kind of thinking out loud and i said something about sometimes i think about being single. not like thinking about breaking up with him...but just thinking. but he said that if i really meant it when i told him that i love him then theres no chance that i would want to be single. but so blah blah. we yelled at eachother for a while. and then i decided wel...i need to figure some things out. so we "arent dating" right now. but i told him that there is a chance we will go back out in a while. but the problem is. a. i dont know when that is and i dont know if it will be soon. and b. he is like going crazy. like its killing him that we arent dating.
so i dont know what to do. because i feel bad making him wait, but i cant go back out with him right now because it doesnt seem fair, and i just dont really know if/when i want to date him again.
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One thing you should realise. There should be no obligation in a relationship. You have thought about being single which normally means you may not be ready for a relationship at this stage in time. I think you need to ask yourself whats really important in your life. Your feelings or your so called boyfriend.
To go through the ps he is getting a major case of the green eyed monster. It is not fair to put you in that position. If thats how he feels then is he really worth it?? I say NO!!
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ok well i havent seen my friend maggie in almost an entire year (she goes to a different school), and i'm going to get one of those paper things to invite her to my homecoming so we can hang out and stuff and she can meet my friends and when i told my friend alyson she was like well then im not going because you'll have her and i was just like okaayy and i kinda shrugged it off.
then she kept talking about it (alyson) and today she was like "yep im not going to homecoming" and i was like "oh" and she goes "since __ will be hanging out with __ and blank with blank and so on and youre taking maggie so whatever" and i was like "well im not taking her to homecoming with me, shes just coming alone with me, to hang out with us, and its not like i wont talk to my other friends and stuff you know?" and then she suddenly was like "i have to go. bye" and i was all quiet and then i was just like "what the hell?" and shes like i have to go. and i was like "why are you pissed? " and she goes "i'm NOT pissed" and i was like "so why do you have to leave all of a sudden then?" and she goes "cuz." and i was like "fine bye." and she hung up!!!!!!!!!
i have no idea what i did and its really pissing me off because i didnt do anything! and when i said the thing about maggie comnig and i would still hang out with other friends i wasnt even bitching it was just a "hey its nice weather out" kind of tone to my voice so i have no idea. and she was the one who kept talking about homecoming. i just dont see why. if you have any ideas? thanks and sorry its so freaking long! lol
and ps. i dont think it would matter anyway if i did talk to maggie the whole time! i havent seen her in a year and i see alyson every single day at school! gah!!!! (link)
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You need to talk to alyson and make her realise that maggie is your friend too. If she wants to be stubborn thats fine. But there is no reason for her to act the way you said she did. Reassure her that you are still her friend and tell her that maggie would really like to meet her.
I hope things work out
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okay.i am a 15 year old sophmore and i have this friend who is a guy. we are really basically best friends since kindergarden. in kindergarden i would kiss him everyday and i considered him my "boyfriend", lol. but ever since 8th grade i have had feelings for him that i would consider more than a friend feeling. i never said anything in 8th grade because one of my bestfriends liked him for a while. but then in freshman year she no longer liked him anymore. and towards the end of the school year he actually had the same feeling for me. but it turned out to not work out because he said it was like a week untill summer vacation and i wouldnt really see him that often and he didnt want to ruin our friendship because we have a great one. but this year i had the feeling that he still liked me because he would flirt with me all the time. but then he is now dating another girl who i really do not believe things will work out with. but my question is that do you think i should tell him my feelings toward him? im not sure because he is dating a girl who he seems to like but i really want to let him know how i feel. and the girl he is dating is one of my semi-good friends too so i wouldnt want to hurt her either. but i dont know. i just want to know if there is a chance of us ever being together. but i dont know how i would talk to him about this. i need advice on what i would say. or the fact that i should even say anything at all. im just so confused.
it would be greatly apprciated if someone would give me some advice on this. it means alot to me. i will rate high too if you give me some good advice.
thanks,
juliaaaa (link)
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Hi julia,
I suggest not letting him know how you feel. Since you have known him for such a long time and you are pretty much best mates, telling him how you feel would ruin your friendship with him. Even if you did date him, if you broke up it would become rather awkward for you both to talk to each other.
I hope I have helped
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there isa guy in my art class who i think likes me and he is relly sweet but he is engaged i don't know if iam getting mixed signals or what i am so confused!!! (link)
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Two words. "Don't bother". There is one thing you don't do and thats mess around with an engaged or married man. If you were to hook up with him and ruin his engagement it will come back and bite you eventually. Men think with their little friend then with their brains.
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okay okay okay. so sorry if this is a bit long. butttt. um so my friend has this boyfriend. but she likes this other kid. and i like the other kid too.. =[ and i justt kinda realized it. cuz we were at a party and me and the kid, we`ll call him D.. we were flirtingg and stuff and i eally like him. and eh might like me.
Oh and Friday we were at a football gamee. and D was thereee. and two of my friends was like you two would look soo cute together. and he juss looked at me and smileddd.
what do i do? =[ (link)
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I am curious on how old you are but I will work without age for now. I think you need to tell him how you feel. Just tell him you really like him and see what he says. His answer to that will pave the way for the next portion of the conversation. Good luck
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ok i just turned 13 a week ago and i'm in 7th grade, and i havn't had a boyfriend yet...i'm pretty sure its because... i'm ugly, i mean i wear glasses i'm 5'0 or 5'1 and i'm fat... (135) waht do i do??i cant talk to a friend or cousin or aunt, and my mom passed away. so i live with my dad. what should i do?? please please please help me.
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My dear girl. You are still a baby. Bear in mind at your age your still going through puberty. Your body goes through many stages. I also wear glasses and my husband doesn't think i'm ugly for wearing them. I think you need to stick your chin up high and tell yourself that you are a beautiful person. You don't need a boyfriend at your age and soon enough when you least expect it the sweetest guy in the world is gonna break down your door just to see you. Things will look up. You'll see.
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i know this is long but i really need some help.......hi im a soph guy and i like this freshman girl and i met her 2 years ago and just met her again this year in math class..anyway theres something about her that makes me really care for her i havent told her that yet but the problem is that we were talking since school sarted about a week and a half and on saturday we were supposed to hang out but her mom made her go to her neighbors get together and that same night a guy asked her out and she said yes...we talked a little since then but it seems like its not the same since i dont know her thta well i didnt think this would bother me but it really does so i dont know if i should tell her how i feel and risk her either not talking to me or possibly have her feel that way about me too...but if i dont i feel like i wont know whta could happen..or should i wait until they break up? please help im so confused thanks in advance (link)
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You need to think. You don't know her that well and letting her know how you feel will not ruin anything. In this particular situation she will either be flattered by your feelings for her and say she is involved or she will accept your feelings. You don't know unless you try.
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To many boys. I don't know. I just got done going out with this really nice kid. He was a player though. He broke up with me 5 days after. He said everything was going fine before. We watched a movie, snuggled, swam. The usual. Well that night he broke up with me and was like " I can't take the rumors " I shouldn't have gone out with him in the first place, for 2 reasons: 1 he took this toy thing and won't give it back, and 2 he is a player. He said we were goin to last forever though, psh. whatever. now he is going back out with his ex. CRAZINESS! because she isn't aloud to have a boyfriend so they won't ever get to do anything together. ugh. back on topic. i like only a few guys at my school. i don't know how to tell if they are players or not. I really hate breaking up with people and i hate when they break up with me. i don't know if i should like someone this year...the hot ones either have girlfriends or they are going to. and the ugly ones that are nice, aren't experienced. what do i do?? i need your advice. (link)
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To know who is a player can depend on how many girlfriends they have had in the past. Normally attitude shows alot. In my experience love comes down to fate. Don't think about meeting a guy. If it's going to happen it will happen. Be patient and Mr Right will come to you and sweep you off your feet.
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