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should i tell the truth
I am a Wiccan and so is my boyfriend. I told my mom he was (but not me) now she won't let me see him. My mom's a very conservative Christian who is very judgmental andtakes everything personaly. Should I tell her I'm a Wiccan, my boyfriend says I should..because even though we can sneek and talk we can't sneek and see each other and I'm only 16 so I still have 2 years before I can move out.
PS- I'm worried that if I tell her she will have me on complete lock down
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I think that you should tell her.
That is totally NOT right of your mother to do - not to let you see someone just because of their beliefs. Horrible.
Im not saying that your mom is a mean person. I bet that she is very nice, and that is why you are seeking for help. You dont want to hurt her.
It might take a while, but yes, i totally think you should tell her. She might give you a few talks about hoping to change your religion, but try to show her what the Wiccan Religion TRULY means, and not what everyone thinks it does.
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you,,,,,,,,,,,,, need to tell your mom the honest truth you dont wanna live in lies i know you are not proubly a christian but i am and jesus tells every child of his that the children should not lies you should not lie to any one would you like it though if your mom kept something from you and see you would want her to tell you the truth you should tell her she might be mad but at least you dont have to worry any more and i have a very strong oppion i love being a christian you can believe in god or you can believe in satan but me i believe in my father jesus christ,,,,,,,,,,,,, so yea please tell her i hope i helped you any today,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
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And what does it do for you?
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Well first off being Wiccan is really amazing. I am a wiccan myself. I think that you shouldnt tell your mom bluntly that you are a wiccan. It took my mom a while to adjust to the fact. You should leave your mom suttle but not so obvious hints. Like a book or something out by "accident". Let her catch on then when she questions you tell her the truth. I suggest a conversation such as Yes mom I am a wiccan. I know that you are a conservative Christian but I like who I am. I dont think that it is fair that I cannot see my boyfriend because of his beliefs. Isnt it true that people should be tolerate of others beliefs? Let her think about everything and try to keep calm.
If you want to tell her straight on. Maybe you should prepare a small speech with reasons on why she should be tolerate and why you have the right to see your boyfriend and everything.
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tell her but for the the sake of seeing your boyfriend and because if she finds out before you move out it would suck but any way tell her and explain twhy you are a wiccan vs a christian like instead of and hopefully shel understand
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I'm afraid you're probably right about how she might react to the news. She doesn't let you see your boyfriend now and I doubt that your telling her is going to endear her to him more. She will probably blame him for it too. In this case I don't think keeping it to yourself is going to hurt anything. :)
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im christian so all i know is that wiccans believe in magic and stuff. i suggest you dont tell your mom that you are wiccan because if shes like a dedicated christian she might just think you changed your religion because of your boyfriend! then she really will do everyting she can to not let you see him! HAHA SO DONT HUN! you could reck everything and hey yea 2 years is awhile but then you can do whatever the hell you want to and if you and your boyfriend have a strong love for eachother you can make it last until then! good luck
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I believe that you should tell your mom and she should be loving and want to know why and you can tell her from experience what its about and your side to it. Considering that she is a conservative Christian she probably did that so that he wouldn't "convert" you so you could possibly tell her that it was your choice and that it was based on your own thoughts and feelings and not his!
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I say no don't tell your mother until your 18 so then on the exact same date that you move out you won't have to hear her yell at you or anything becuz you'll already be moved out. get me. And if she doesn't accept you for it don't accept her.
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Tell her, but if she doesn't let you out of the house, I would totally confront her. She has no rights to tell you who you should date. If she is so protective not to let you out of the house, stay after school, or plan to go to a place where your family already goes, like if your parents are going to the mall, tell him to meet you at the mall. Find some way to see him, even if it means disobeying your parents.
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Exodus 20:12 - Children obey your parents and you shall live long in the land of your fathers.
That is the fifth commandment, honor your Father and Mother. Maybe you are a different religion than your mom, so what? That doesn't give you a reason to disobey. There isn't an "out clause" saying that "Because you are a different religion, you can disobey your mom." It doesn't work that way. If your mom says you can't see that boy, YOU CANT SEE THAT BOY! Tell your mom that you're a witch, sure. Go ahead, that's probably a good idea... but she's not going to like it. If she tells you to stop, you have to stop. OBEY YOUR PARENTS AND YOU SHALL LIVE LONG IN THE LAND OF YOUR FATHERS. What that means is if you obey your mom and dad, you'll live a long happy life. You might not be rich in material items, but you will have wisdom and knowledge. But if you disobey, you shall surely die. Not really, but you'll be judged according to your actions.
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You should definately talk with your mom about your religion and why you picked it over christianity. Make sure you make the point that you didnt go into this blindly. But also acknoledge her and her faith because itll #1 make the conversation easier and more progressive #2 the conversation isnt all about you, the conflict is between your two faiths. iF you dont talk to her about this it is only going to be worse when it comes out later years down the road. YOU DO have the right to make your own decisions with your life even if your decision isnt the Christianity. Good luck talking with your mom and i hope everything goes well and i hope you and your boyfreind have a great relationship. By the way I'm a Christian so realize not every christian is like your mom.
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I think you should sti your mom down and have a theological conversation with her. Tell her you want to discuss religion intellectually and just talk about it. Now, if she's like the uber conservative Christians I know, she won't be able to - most who act like that refuse to acknowledge that a person has the right to believe something different, and refuse to entertain any conversation that might suggest that.
However, you should discuss with her some of the reasons why you choose to be Wiccan rather than Christian, but without telling her anything about making that decision. For example, "I don't understand how the Bible isn't contradicting itself by _________ and I was wondering if you could shed some light on this for me." Ok, so that was corny, but still, hopefully you see my point.
After discussing a number of these things with her, you should tell her whether you agree with any of her arguments or not, and that you've chosen to follow a different religion that she has. She'll be shocked, and maybe upset, but it'll probably go a lot better that way than "Mom, I'm Wiccan and there's nothing you can do to change that because it's my choice and not yours!" Plus you'll have shown her that you aren't making this decision blindly (and you should point that out), and you've given Christianity a chance (point that out too).
And, for the record, I follow the Christian faith.
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well im not going to tell you to tell her or not to tell her.. because you know your mom better than i do (oviously) and i don't want to tell you to do the wrong thing.. what i can tell you to do is make a list of pros and cons for telling her and not telling her.. and see which one comes out with more pro's and less cons ... so i hope everything works out and she doesn't completly lock you down =/ and if you need anything else let me no!
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I'm Wiccan as well... I have been for about 8 years now, and I can tell you from experience that coming out of the "broom closet" is difficult. However, it might be best for you and your boyfriend if you did tell your mother.
Simply sit her down and tell her that you are. She will most likely get upset, thinking your boyfriend 'corrupted' you... but be sure to tell her that you were before you met him(wether it's the truth or not), so that she will know he wasn't the one who turned her 'baby' into a 'devil worshiper'.
Next, explain to her what Wicca is... that it's a nature based life-affirming religion like any other religion. That you don't believe in the devil. That you don't go around doing crazy spells to make people's hair fall out because it's not possible. And answer any and all questions and concerns that she might have regarding the faith.
If you have any books about it, let her see them to read in her spare time, so she can better understand. Or you can show her helpful websites. She might scream and hollar, and make you go to church and 'repent' or whatever... but faith and belief is something that no one can make you change. You may have to go to church with her every sunday... but that doesn't mean you have to believe in the docrtine of christiaity.
As far as lock down, I'm hoping that she will be reasonable and see that it's completely insane and wrong to ground someone for choosing a faith different than her own. And she certianly can't put you on lockdown for 2 more years!
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You have to ask yourself if it is comfortable for you to tell your mom the truth. Basically I think that she deserves to know, but you have to think about what you can handle. What's comfortable for you because, after all, you're only a teenager and you need to consider what is right and best for you. I think your mom deserves to know and she just will have to deal with, and sooner-later more likely, she'll have to accept the person who you really are. And after all, you are her daughter and she should love you no matter what you really are. So , I say freshen the air and tell her. But what you really have to ask yourself, is it the best thing for you. Use your conscience as well.
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