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cutter ((srry its long ))
ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help
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You're afraid your family will find out?! I would be afraid I would kill myself cutting.
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Don't tell anybody at school about this. Rumors spread REALLY fast. I understand you probably won't and can't tell your parents. JUST STOP DOING IT. Put tape on your arms that says "NO!" like not SILVER tape, not DUCT tape, however you spell that but something thick, so that you can write. Since you wear jackets anyway, it'll cover the tape! and for your legs you CAN do the same, however, that's a lotta tape ;) . When you're VERY angry, and want to cut, just punch your mattress and/or pillow and yes, CRY. That will get the anger outta ya!!! Put a picture of your TRUE friends, and the family you adore. So you can think of a reason to not die :) please don't kill yourself hun!!!
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Try swimming and taking long walks as well as using rubber bands pop one against your skin you start triggering{Needing to cut} I'm still going through the motions with cutting right now. so far i've stopped but if ya need to talk send a message to my inbox and you can talk to me about it and i'll try and help as much as i can. Sometimes Conseling does help try it or get a good friend who you can tell and talk to them about it.
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you need to call like a help line. they have phone numbers and pamphlets in your school office. usually on the wall. or talk to your school counselor. but also you should be worried that you might accidentally cut too deep and bleed to death. just be careful. and try to get help. i hope i helped you. and if you need anything else drop one in my inbox or email me directly. ALSO.... put a rubberband on your wrist and everytime you feel the urge or your mad or w/e just start snapping the band till it goes away
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You've realized you have a problem, and that's the first step. You need to tell someone, like a parent, a friend, or a guidance counselor. Ask your mom if you can go see a therapist because there's something you need to get off your chest. Feel free to IM me or send me something, I'm here to talk if you need me. ♥ Kristen
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First of all, you aren't going to be locked up in some grim place full of howling lunatics. It doesn't work like that.
You do need to tell someone because you need help. You could always ask your parents if you could go see a therapist because you have problems you want to talk about, and then work with the therpist to both stop cutting and to figure out how to tell your family. Because of your age, I'm not sure a therapist could keep your medical info confidential, but they COULD be with you when you told your parents.
Do you really want to live a life where you are constantly worrying about hiding your cuts or scars? Where you have to censor what you say so that no one guesses your problems?
Life like this is not life at all - you're not true to yourself, you don't give people a chance to know you, and you don't give yourself a chance to heal.
Everyone has mental distress at some point in their life; they all have different ways of dealing with you. Cutting is the way you have chosen to try to control your emotions. Unfortunately, it's no longer a choice if you can't stop - it's only adding to your problems.
There's no shame in sharing your problems with people you trust and getting help. That is not weak...that is the strongest thing you could do in this situation. Best of luck.
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I know that people told you that cutting isnt the answer and it really isnt. I dont know why all these kids are startting to cut. So many people I know. I dont know if some just want attention or what. But in your situation I dont think so. I know that cutting is the only way you know how to releave depression and being stressed. Its not. Theres other ways you just got to find what. I know from expirience. Find someone that you can really trust. A friend or sibling. Talk to them about it every time you feel like doing it. Things will get better you just got to be strong and say that things will get better. Make yourself belive that because it will be okay. Everyones life sucks at times and no1 can be perfect. If someone finds out they will also be scared. You can hurt yourself bad with it. The scars dont go away that fast and it will always be there just a little. If you stopped for 2 weeks then you can do it! Try! When ever you feel like you need to cut go talk to someone about it. Make sure you can trust this person and they will help you. You have no idea how many people care for you and dont want you to do that at all! Find some other ways to deal with problems not hurt yourself. x0
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I know you might not wanna hear this but if you have a really close friend that you know you can trust with anything.. it might not be a bad idea to talk to her/him about it. I have before and it sometimes relieves the stress inside me and they always tell me good things like " i'm here for you" " i love you" " you know i'm always here" so it makes me feel good so if that works for me then it might work for you. Its helped and i've pretty much stopped and its because of the support of my friends. I didn't tell my family myself only because i couldn't trust them. But that maybe different for you. They won't send you anywhere. Just try talking to someone it might help.
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hun.. don't be scared.. its not gonna help the cutting.. theres nothing you can really do to take the scars away.. but you should really talk to someone that you can trust.. I think your mom would really like to know.. Even though she'll be scared and upset.. she'll be able to help you through it.. Moms no more than we think... even if you need to you can keep in contact with me.. and if you find yourself urging to cut grab a rubberband and snap it on ur wrist.. it releases some anger and helps you not be so upset..
I really hope I helped
Jamie*
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wow you must be going through alot in order to want to kill and cut yourself. my advice to you is to confide in something or someone like a diary, or a VERY trusted friend!!!! i really hope you stop b/c it is dangerous. so try buying a diary or journal and when you feel like cutting, write. make that your habit instead. good luck!!! wishing you the best,
amanda
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I cut too. Haven't in 16 days though because I'm trying realllyyy hard to stop. I wear long sleeve shirts and Im ALWAYS wearing pants because of this, you wont catch me wearing shorts.
I know how hard it is, but you don't need it. I'm trying to figure that out for myself still. My parents know about me, I'm not gonna lie my mom was FLIPPING OUT.. but my parents didn't put me into a mental hospital or anything. (thank god).. but when they found out I actually suggested therapy for myself. Yes I know, odd. But it's better than them always being worried about me. And I figured it'd be away to just talk out my problems instead of being so angry adn depressed all the time.
Just tell your parents you're really DOWN a lot, and you think it would be a good idea to start group therapy with a bunch of kids who have personal problems, that way you can talk your problems out before they grow into something bigger. (you dont have to tell your parents you cut in order to go to group therapy..unless you wanted to (which you dont)
Also, if you start group therapy, it won't only sneak by your parents but it really WILL help you, because I've been going there for like 2 months now. Once every week and it's been really helpful, and everyone listens and stuff and lets out their problems.
It makes you not feel ignored for once.
Either that or you can stop cutting on your own. Willing to try?
good luck with everything.. it'll be okay.
`jeSsie
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Well, good job for not cutting. The right thing for you to do is tell someone. If you're having thoughts of killing yourself and you're cutting, you need help. Many teenagers go through this, you're not alone. You could ask a close friend to tell your guidance counselor, and they can contact your parents. Or you could tell your parents, or guidance counselor. Or even write your parents a note, or e-mail them. I think you need to go to a doctor, see if they diagnose you with depression. You could be given anti-depressents. Feel free to IM me anytime!
Hope I helped!
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ok... i think that you have to stay strong... if you get mad... scream into your pillow... blast your music... go outside take a basketball and just throw it at the ground really hard... just let your anger out in other ways... go to your guidence couselor or a trusted adult and tell them everything your feeling... you don't have to tell them you cut... just tell them all your problems... if your never gonna cut again... and i mean NEVER than there's no need to tell people what happemed om the past... get some scar creame so that you can erase the scars.. hope you feel better
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TRUST ME cutting is NOT the answer! Tell someone before you get hurt.. next time u think about cutting yourself DONT! who knows, maybe next time you think about commiting suicide you will, and you won't change your mind. You seriously need to tell someone and get help before something really bad happens( not that what ur doing isnt already bad). Think twice about cutting. Tell someone you think can help you with this right away. Your only 13.... LIVE THE LIFE GOD GAVE YOU!!
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anonymous -
First, as hard as it is, try to resist. One eye opener for me is the same as yours, the fear of someone finding out. I hated having to wear long sleeved shirts a lot and worrying about covering myself.
If you don't want anyone to find out, DON'T DO IT.
As for being depressed, what do you have to be depressed for? Look at it this way, you have a roof over your head compared to the homeless, you actually have parents compared to orphans who don't, you have clothes on your back compared to those who cannot afford new clothes, you're healthy and breathing compared to others your age who are dying. You're very fortunate hun, why are you throwing all of it away on cutting? Realize how good you got it, a lot of people (and I'm not talking about third world countries but teens in the U.S) have it worse off than you.
Although you complain of so much in your life, some teens would be grateful to have what you have.
Hope it makes you think about things, it sure worked for me.
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Its great that you wanted to tell someone, if you really want help the first big step is telling someone about your problems! A teacher you trust? A parent? An older cousin, aunt, sister? Someone you trust and know that he/she will help you. You dont want to do this forever you know, and the only way to stop is if you get help. So tell someone or search google for a teen hotline you can call and talk to. If you ever wanna talk im alwys on advicenators or you can email me [ vsgangstaboo420@yahoo.com ] or IM me on aim at ilinerobsession !
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