Gender: Female
Location: New Jersey
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Age: 17
Member Since: April 27, 2004
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Last Update: April 19, 2006
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i gotta cutting problem im 15 and a gurl and a few of my friends are getting mad at me for it. ITs so hard not to cut though like when im cuttin i dont even care cuz im so mad and its gotton really bad. Like im afraid that one of these times im gonna get so madd im gonna end up killing myself cuz its like i just dont care but the next day i really regret doin it. I'v tried everything i could think of to stop but nothing works. SO my question is does anybody know ways to stop cutting (link)
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As hard as it may be to do you can stop cutting.
As painful as this sounds try band therapy wear rubber hands around your wrists and when you feel the need to cut pop the band against your skin a couple time until your at ease. It will take a lot of poping to help at first but slowly the poping yourself will become less frequent.
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Prom is coming up! And I am not starting to break out! How can I get these pimples gone quickly? (link)
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Cut down on the sugary snacks and the soda if thats somethings you eat. Wash your face with mild soap and warm water, try not to touch your face the oil and dirt from your hands goes onto your face and it could be the culprit of your breaking out.
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ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help (link)
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Try swimming and taking long walks as well as using rubber bands pop one against your skin you start triggering{Needing to cut} I'm still going through the motions with cutting right now. so far i've stopped but if ya need to talk send a message to my inbox and you can talk to me about it and i'll try and help as much as i can. Sometimes Conseling does help try it or get a good friend who you can tell and talk to them about it.
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Well, ive been a cutter for about..1/2 a year now. And i cut on my wrist..(i was pissed) and i went out without my wrist band on, and i think my mom saw! what if she sends me away to a mental hospital!?
Please help!
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This is the Bill of rights for those who Si I think you should know your rights.
Self Injury in a addictive and someones fatal, but no one can make you stop until your ready.
As much as it makes you feel or help your deal your making yourself worse soon you'll feel disguisted with yourself and it will only things worse. So please get some help.
1. The right to caring, humane medical treatment
Self-injurers should receive the same level and quality of care that a person presenting with an identical but accidental injury would receive. Procedures should be done as gently as they would be for others. If stitches are required, local anesthesia should be used. Treatment of accidental injury and self-inflicted injury should be identical.
2. The right to participate fully in decisions about emergency psychiatric treatment (so long as no one's life is in immediate danger).
When a person presents at the emergency room with a self-inflicted injury, his or her opinion about the need for a psychological assessment should be considered. If the person is not in obvious distress and is not suicidal, he or she should not be subjected to an arduous psych evaluation. Doctors should be trained to assess suicidality/homicidality and should realize that although referral for outpatient follow-up may be advisable, hospitalization for self-injurious behavior alone is rarely warranted.
3. The right to body privacy.
Visual examinations to determine the extent and frequency of self-inflicted injury should be performed only when absolutely necessary and done in a way that maintains the patient's dignity. Many who SI have been abused; the humiliation of a strip-search is likely to increase the amount and intensity of future self-injury while making the person subject to the searches look for better ways to hide the marks.
4. The right to have the feelings behind the SI validated.
Self-injury doesn't occur in a vacuum. The person who self-injures usually does so in response to distressing feelings, and those feelings should be recognized and validated. Although the care provider might not understand why a particular situation is extremely upsetting, she or he can at least understand that it *is* distressing and respect the self-injurer's right to be upset about it.
5. The right to disclose to whom they choose only what they choose.
No care provider should disclose to others that injuries are self-inflicted without obtaining the permission of the person involved. Exceptions can be made in the case of team-based hospital treatment or other medical care providers when the information that the injuries were self-inflicted is essential knowledge for proper medical care. Patients should be notified when others are told about their SI and as always, gossiping about any patient is unprofessional.
6. The right to choose what coping mechanisms they will use.
No person should be forced to choose between self-injury and treatment. Outpatient therapists should never demand that clients sign a no-harm contract; instead, client and provider should develop a plan for dealing with self-injurious impulses and acts during the treatment. No client should feel they must lie about SI or be kicked out of outpatient therapy. Exceptions to this may be made in hospital or ER treatment, when a contract may be required by hospital legal policies.
7. The right to have care providers who are not afraid of SI.
Those who work with clients who self-injure should keep their own fear, revulsion, anger, and anxiety out of the therapeutic setting. This is crucial for basic medical care of self-inflicted wounds but holds for therapists as well. A person who is struggling with self-injury has enough baggage without taking on the prejudices and biases of their care providers.
8. The right to have the role SI has played as a coping mechanism validated.
No one should be shamed, admonished, or chastised for having self-injured. Self-injury works as a coping mechanism, sometimes for people who have no other way to cope. They may use SI as a last-ditch effort to avoid suicide. The self-injurer should be taught to honor the positive things that self-injury has done for him/her as well as to recognize that the negatives of SI far outweigh those positives and that it is possible to learn methods of coping that aren't as destructive and life-interfering.
9. The right not to be automatically considered a dangerous person simply because of self-inflicted injury.
No one should be put in restraints or locked in a treatment room in an emergency room solely because his or her injuries are self-inflicted. No one should ever be involuntarily committed simply because of SI; physicians should make the decision to commit based on the presence of psychosis, suicidality, or homicidality.
10. The right to have self-injury regarded as an attempt to communicate, not manipulate.
Most people who hurt themselves are trying to express things they can say in no other way. Although sometimes these attempts to communicate seem manipulative, treating them as manipulation only makes the situation worse. Providers should respect the communicative function of SI and assume it is not manipulative behavior until there is clear evidence to the contrary.
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ok well when I get mad I tend to cut myself very badly my parents found out and sent me to the doctor but he didn't do anything to help me stop cutting he just asked me questions like did your parents abuse you and stuff like that and I still cut myself more and more I get mad I don't know why am I mental do I have an illness I need help plz I'm scared I might kill myself one day (link)
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I have friends who do the samething and have stopped I am currently in the process of trying to quite cutting after a while its like drugs your just have to do it, but your stronger than S.I.{Self Injury} don't just let it take over.
Try not to let yourself get upset {sad angry w/e is your trigger} if you get upset listen to music you like that sooths you that calms you just walk away from the place where you have your cutting instrument out of the house to a park somewhere that is not there in that place. For a while it will be hard you might just lose it and freak out on whoever start crying and yellin everything but you'll be okay.
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i have this emense pain the right side of my body it goes all the way down to my leg iv started having pain under my arms front and back of neck it goes up to my head somtimes my left side of my head and face goes numb,i have a lot of raw nerves threw out my body which is very painfull but my whole body seems to shake and tremble ive got terible tremors all the time,i keep having tremors in my chest it feels like pulling and tugging of musclemy throat pulsates all the time,and when i put my head down i can feel a pulsating in my head in fact my whole pulsates i dont know what this could be please help (link)
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Go to the doctor as soon as possible you might have some serious nerve damage or something wrong with your spine it sounds like get it checked out before it get any worse.
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Im 5"7 and i weigh 165 pounds... thats fat right? how do i lose that weight to get to a helathy one? (link)
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Well your not fat for one just alittle heavy.
Well this is something I do when i want to exercise I just turn on the radio and dance strucure some of the dance moves so that your working a certain part of your body and just do it it makes your mind just think your having fun dancing to the music instead of exercising which you are. Its really fun trust me.
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HELLO I WAS CLEANING MY 1 YEAR OLD SON'S EAR AND ACCIDENTLY STUCK IT TO DEEP AND SLIGHT BLEEDING OCCURED. WHAT CAN HAPPEN TO HIS EAR AS A RESULT OF WHAT I DID. (link)
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I think you should take him to the doctor because their could really be some damage there. It could have a negative affect on his hearing.
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I have been an athiest for about four years, and I have begun to feel lacking in that area. I looked up many differnt religions, and took trusted belief tests to see what would best fit with what I really want and believe. The tests all pointed to Pagan. I have looked up on it, and it just seems to fit. I feel so happy, even just going through a normal day is better now that I have found it. However, I do not think my parents (catholic and athiest) will accept it. Anyone who has had a similar "coming out" (be it of religion or sexual orientation) care to help me form a plan, so they might see my view?
Blessed Be (link)
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I'm starting to convert to Wiccan myself,
My family raised me Christian soon I branched off from that and hid It for 4 months when I told my mother she was like "Okay and..." It really suprised me because she raised me Christian when I had to tell my grandmother I first told her I loved her and said please respect this and I said "I'm a wiccan and she looked at me funny and I said it means Witch and explained Wiccans don't worship satan and we only do things to affect positive change. She said "Your not a witch on the outside but within and I'm glad you cared wenough to tell me. Try and sit them down and tell they that you hope they respect your decision and tell them and let them know you don't worship satan and explain it to them a little so they can understand. If they don't tell them its okay and go about your life they can only raise you with morals that will allow you to live your life but they can't live it for you and make the decisions for you. If ya want to talk im me at ScryingCrystal@yahoo.com or leave a message in my inbox. Merry Meet Merry Part and Merry Meet again.
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im 15 and my penis has a bend or curve to the right it curves more when i get an erection is
this a normal thing? (link)
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I think you should see a doctor and ask his if its normal. I would not know.
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i am addicted to cutting my wrists and i know its bad but i just cant stop what should i do? im not going to go to a doctors because they just dont understand and i didnt tell my parents because they would think i was crazy (link)
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Well you have to start somewhere.
If you don't one day you might go to far and It could end severly bad for you. Talk to a counselor or someone you can trust and ask for help. My friend is the same way she just started focusing it on trying to love herself again and her family and not being in the darkness and it worked out for her maybe it will for you too.
Focus your energy on something else when you get in the mood to cut I do it to and i'm addicted but I'm in counseling to stop.
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i hate my life its a whirling twirling sprial of doom i dont know wat to do my life is filled with gloom my friend likes vodo i hate it i hate me i dont no wat to do they say to slit your wrist i say i used to i wrote this before to day wat dose it mean besides the fact i wanna die but i also want to help people but i cant if im dead but i wanna die... (link)
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Well I have the samething going on everyday so i know how it can be I will quote one of my own poems "Some way she will return to the surface and remember what she is fighting for love, control, and her life". It is hard I know and It will be forever but don't take the easy way out you'll regret it in the after life. You can im anytime my aim is LvlysAngel my yim is ScryingCrystal so im and just say when you im me "Death of the living girl" and I'll know who the person is.
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I had the scariest day of my life the other day. I am an advicenator as well and the other day, i was walking to the park, and a guy sexually assulted me. The worst thing he did was finger me but it was still scary. I don't know what to do. I can't tell anyone because i already have enought problems as it is. I am only fourteen and haven't even had my first kiss yet. People are always spreading rumers that i am not a virgin and i was okay with it until now. Please Help me
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Well you have to tell someone,
If you don't you'll become seclusive and cut yourself off of all people and it not good.
Trust me I know being manic depressive will do that to a person, but you have a chance to deal with It talk to someone. I don't it only makes the problem worse. Talk to other teens in your school if they have a group for students it helps.
You've talked about it here it will be hard but it can't be harder after you've said it once now try saying it in your head over and over.
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My g/f that i love tried to kill herself. I love her so much and she wont talk 2 me about why she did it. She wont talk 2 me at all about it some one pleese help me what should i do (link)
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You have to back off.
I am a manic depressive so i know.
When you are depressed for a while or sometimes even shortly after you begin to love "the darkness" and hate "the light" meaning she loves to be miserable its like her only confort and she doesn't want to stop things are just out of control in her "world" and she can't control it she tries but she can't. If she is like a goth or a dark hearted person like me she writes down thoughs that she probably doesn't let anyone see.
Sometimes it when it get to bad depressed people {mostly teens} we go for the easiest exit we see which is "Death" since that is what we mostly contemplate alot of the time.
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my best friend has 2 other bff and i just got used to it! but i can't stand one of them! no offence to my bff but i don't know what she is thinking! this girl is everything you would not want in a friend!
what should i do? (link)
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Well,
Try and explain to your friend that the person doesn't seem like they{the person} has good friendship . Express your concern for the person and just back off because if you don't you might as well push your friend toward the other person {that you think has no good friendship qualitys}.
There is only so much you can do to help a friend, you seem like a good friend you just have to let your friend be friends with whomever he/she wants and stay away from the person if you really can't stand to be around the person.
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Ok so when im at school and im around my friends im fine speaking and all, but if im talking in front of groups or just random people i just blank out or say something stupid like, when the principal shook my hand and said congratulations i said," Nice to meet you." Is that normal? (link)
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Yes, Its perfectly normal nothing wrong with going totally blank. You just get nervous about making mistake and you just might have a very hard time standing up in front of people and speaking everyone get it one time or another. When you know that you have to do a public speaking exercise just relax think about something else and when it's time to go up just don't think about messing up just think about how good of a job you'll do and go for it.
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im 14, so obviously im growin up, but my dad cant seem 2 accept dat i am! he says he doesnt want boys near me, n that im still a little girl. i know he just does it coz he luvs me, but i dont want him to treat me like a kid all my life! (link)
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Well try and explain to him in a nice way you are growing up and they he has to let you, you can't be his little girl forever. Let your father know how it makes your feel about him treating you like a little child. The boys part will be harder because your father wants to protect his daughter from getting his heart broken that is why he acts the way he does as does my own father don't worry just try to break him into the process of your maturing and eventually it won't be as bad soon he'll except it all together but it will take a while.
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