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i might be sent away!
Well, ive been a cutter for about..1/2 a year now. And i cut on my wrist..(i was pissed) and i went out without my wrist band on, and i think my mom saw! what if she sends me away to a mental hospital!?
Please help!
|-.Lost Soul.-|
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I'm a cutter too so I know it's hard, but you have to stop if you don't want to get taken away. Two of my friends have been taken away for that, and they're back now and fine and stuff. (They put in a mental hospital before I met them) but you have to stop because they said it was terrible. My family knows about me and they're giving me another chance, and if I don't stop then I have to see a psychiatrist. It sucks. Just please try stopping. You'll be okay. *hugs*
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i can SO relate to u. the same thing happened to me like a month ago. and the best thing to do.. (also the wimpiest thing to do..) is try to avoid being alone with her. and pray she doesnt tell your dad... maybe she'll forget about it.
BEST WISHES hope i could help
elle
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Well, you DO need help, but she probably won't send you off to a mental hospital for it. Just talk to her about it & don't get defensive // angry, and you should be able to work something out.
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First of all, I'm very worried that you signed that with |-.Lost Soul.-|. I'm not actually worried that you ARE a lost soul but worried that you are simply a goth trying to live up to stereotypes.
Oh yeah back to the question; no, they probably won't send you to a mental hospital just for cutting. Unless they hate you and never want to deal with you ever again, then they probably would.
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aw honey are you okay?
its gonna be okay just calm down take two deep breaths. just sit down and talk to her about it im sure she will understand. She prabably wont send you to a mental instatuttian, the worst shell do is a counceler for the both of you to sit down and discuss why you are getting angry or "pissed" this is a healthy way to vent all of your problems, dont stress about it you are gonna be okay!
hope i helped good luck :)
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This is the Bill of rights for those who Si I think you should know your rights.
Self Injury in a addictive and someones fatal, but no one can make you stop until your ready.
As much as it makes you feel or help your deal your making yourself worse soon you'll feel disguisted with yourself and it will only things worse. So please get some help.
1. The right to caring, humane medical treatment
Self-injurers should receive the same level and quality of care that a person presenting with an identical but accidental injury would receive. Procedures should be done as gently as they would be for others. If stitches are required, local anesthesia should be used. Treatment of accidental injury and self-inflicted injury should be identical.
2. The right to participate fully in decisions about emergency psychiatric treatment (so long as no one's life is in immediate danger).
When a person presents at the emergency room with a self-inflicted injury, his or her opinion about the need for a psychological assessment should be considered. If the person is not in obvious distress and is not suicidal, he or she should not be subjected to an arduous psych evaluation. Doctors should be trained to assess suicidality/homicidality and should realize that although referral for outpatient follow-up may be advisable, hospitalization for self-injurious behavior alone is rarely warranted.
3. The right to body privacy.
Visual examinations to determine the extent and frequency of self-inflicted injury should be performed only when absolutely necessary and done in a way that maintains the patient's dignity. Many who SI have been abused; the humiliation of a strip-search is likely to increase the amount and intensity of future self-injury while making the person subject to the searches look for better ways to hide the marks.
4. The right to have the feelings behind the SI validated.
Self-injury doesn't occur in a vacuum. The person who self-injures usually does so in response to distressing feelings, and those feelings should be recognized and validated. Although the care provider might not understand why a particular situation is extremely upsetting, she or he can at least understand that it *is* distressing and respect the self-injurer's right to be upset about it.
5. The right to disclose to whom they choose only what they choose.
No care provider should disclose to others that injuries are self-inflicted without obtaining the permission of the person involved. Exceptions can be made in the case of team-based hospital treatment or other medical care providers when the information that the injuries were self-inflicted is essential knowledge for proper medical care. Patients should be notified when others are told about their SI and as always, gossiping about any patient is unprofessional.
6. The right to choose what coping mechanisms they will use.
No person should be forced to choose between self-injury and treatment. Outpatient therapists should never demand that clients sign a no-harm contract; instead, client and provider should develop a plan for dealing with self-injurious impulses and acts during the treatment. No client should feel they must lie about SI or be kicked out of outpatient therapy. Exceptions to this may be made in hospital or ER treatment, when a contract may be required by hospital legal policies.
7. The right to have care providers who are not afraid of SI.
Those who work with clients who self-injure should keep their own fear, revulsion, anger, and anxiety out of the therapeutic setting. This is crucial for basic medical care of self-inflicted wounds but holds for therapists as well. A person who is struggling with self-injury has enough baggage without taking on the prejudices and biases of their care providers.
8. The right to have the role SI has played as a coping mechanism validated.
No one should be shamed, admonished, or chastised for having self-injured. Self-injury works as a coping mechanism, sometimes for people who have no other way to cope. They may use SI as a last-ditch effort to avoid suicide. The self-injurer should be taught to honor the positive things that self-injury has done for him/her as well as to recognize that the negatives of SI far outweigh those positives and that it is possible to learn methods of coping that aren't as destructive and life-interfering.
9. The right not to be automatically considered a dangerous person simply because of self-inflicted injury.
No one should be put in restraints or locked in a treatment room in an emergency room solely because his or her injuries are self-inflicted. No one should ever be involuntarily committed simply because of SI; physicians should make the decision to commit based on the presence of psychosis, suicidality, or homicidality.
10. The right to have self-injury regarded as an attempt to communicate, not manipulate.
Most people who hurt themselves are trying to express things they can say in no other way. Although sometimes these attempts to communicate seem manipulative, treating them as manipulation only makes the situation worse. Providers should respect the communicative function of SI and assume it is not manipulative behavior until there is clear evidence to the contrary.
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Well, cutting IS pretty stupid, and you obviously NEED help. I don't see why she shouldn't send you to a mental hospital, especially since she's only got your best interest at heart, even if you're too dumb to realize that.
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She won't send you to a mental hospital; in fact, the old, scary version of mental hospitals don't even exist anymore.
She might suggest, however, that you get professional help, and I think that might be a good idea. Cutting is a dangerous addiction - I would expect someone addicted to cigarettes or alcohol to get help, and I think it's reasonable that your mother might expect you to get help.
Cutting might take away the symptoms of depression, anger, or anxiety, but it will not stop the underlying problems.
Your best bet might be to be upfront with your mother; if you admit you have a problem, you'll end up looking better tan if you continue to cut and hide it from her. She will eventually find out, and it's up to you to decide HOW she finds out.
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ok well i cut too and you shouldnt be worried at all, my mom found out and i thought shed totally freak out but she just had some talks with me, its all cool now. well if she says anything remember be calm and just tell her the truth dont lie its gets you into deeper trouble!
TESS
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Talk to her about it. I think she rather talk about it, then send you to a mental hospital. Just explain why you do it, and maybe she can help.
~Amberlynn
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If she saw, of course she is going to want to get you help. No one wants thier child hurting themselves. When you talk to her about it, explain to her why you do it. Maybe you do need help, but maybe you dont need to be sent away. try and agree to go to counceling, that way both of you can be happy.
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Just let ur mom come to u and talk to u about it, but I think that the best choice is to tell her about cutting. I kno it might be hard to but it's better for her to find out by u than from sumone else. Trust me I was cutter and my friend to the counsler and she called my parents. So just try to tell ur mom that u cut and u will be glad u did.
Let me kno how it goes!
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why are you cutting your self? cutting is a very dangerous thing you should stop now before you kill your self. Try praying ask god to help you with your problem.
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TO: |-.Lost Soul.-|
why do you cut yourself? you should reallie talk to someone about that...and about your mom...i doubt shell take you to a mental hospital buh im soore a LONG mother-daughter talk will be coming around the corner pretty soon....just tell your mom everything she needs to noe and how you feel and stuff like that...im soore shell be able to understand eben if itll take her a wile..also....try to cut down on the cutting... its not good to worry everyone so much with it and its not healthy either...ya noe?
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She wont i am a cutter too , when i get mad at my boyfriend i do it
im trying to stop
Love Ashley , god bless love ya
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