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i'm 14 and i think about sex kind of a lot because this one guy that i really really like wants to have sex w/ me but i don't really want to but then again i look at some of my friends that are 14 and they've lost their virginity already but i don't really want to have sex w/ this one guy but then i do..i'm confused and i don't know if i'm totally out of my mind for thinking about this but i don't want to have sex w/ him but then i do..is it bad to even think about it when i'm 14?
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OMG YESS!!Baby doll at 14 sex shouldn't be an option for you.Trust me save your virginity as long as you can.
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If you're this conflicted about having sex with this guy, then you should not do it. Sex should be something you're confident about doing, and you shouldn't do it just because your friends have or because some guy wants you to. You are not a piece of meat. You can make your own decisions and you don't need someone who doesn't respect you trying to get you to do something you don't want. I think it's more than obvious in your post that you don't even want to have sex, even if you "really really like" this guy.
Respect yourself! Losing your virginity is something that happens only once--do you want to give it up for no other reason than because your friends did it? BE safe.
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hey this is x0s0uljahx0 ...savannah
ok first you shouldnt be pressered into having sex with this guy just because your freinds are and he isnt all the special if he just says to you i want to have sex with you or even to someone els he honestly doesnt have ANY RESPECT for you or what you think and in the end guys are all the same ...and you will just end up getting hurt...and if you have and thoughts to why u shouldnt ....then dont ..you at a young age you dont needit you should like be with a guy and have him respect you enough to wait untill your ready even if it is in a year or two.
hope i helped..
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heyy i dont think your out of your mind for thinking about sex but it can be very emotional and i think if you dont have strong feelings for the boy you'll regret it when your done and if you like this boy and if you think having sex with him will make him wanna be with you ... your wrong he'll get what he wants from you and then leave you ... hope i helped
x0x LaUrEn x0x
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Wow, why is so many people losing there virginity at 14? Dont let your friends be an influence on you! Stand up for whats right! So many kids these days are losing there virginity at like 12! I mean geez, its something you can NEVER have back and you will regret it once you do it...! Not trying to make you mad or anything but its really the truth!
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You're definetly not out of your mind, and definetly not ready. I'm not saying this because of your age, I'm saying it because when you say, "this one guy" I think of some guy that isn't even your boyfriend. And when you say, "but then again i look at some of my friends that are 14 and they've lost their virginity already" Don't make a big decision that can change your life in so many ways because your friends did it. You're just curios, and you need to stay curious until the right guy is with you, not someone described as "this one guy." Please do not have sex, your reasons are the worst reasons in the book for having sex.
-TheTeenGirl
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DON'T you should be 110% sure that is what you want to do. one ands, ifs, ors, or buts. it should be with someone who your respect, and who respects you. and just because your friends are doing it/ have done it, doesn't mean that you should. yah i know its hard how, and it is tempting, and you think your wierd because you arnt, but when your older and married, and ready to have sex for the first time with your amazing husband that you are commited to, and you are inlove with eachother, then you will be glad, and so will he, that you didnt.
I know its hard, its was hard for me too. But my boyfriend feels the same way, and we help eachother, and have remained abstinent (no sex or anything sexual besides kissing) and its awesome. because once you do something one time, then the relationship depends on it, and then, i wont lie, you have a great relationship for maybe a month, but its not real, because all it is, is getting stuff from eachother, its not a true commited relationship. and then after that month, the relationship depends on that, and then problems occur, and then the relationship goes down the toilet,{or out the window, which ever you wish to call it}
Anyways, I hope I helped!!!
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KeLs
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its not bad to think about it.. but you will regret losing it for the rest of your life.. at your wedding, you'll look into your husband's eyes and know that you gave yourself to someone before him and that makes me shiver to think about...
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Don't do it. You are to young and if you do it bcuz of peer presure you will prove you are weak. It is easy to give into stuff but it is hard and you will get respect if you restrain from doing it. You should save sex for marrage. And when you get married your husband and you will be more bonded. I hope you won't do it but your life is your life. I will pray for you, God loves you! If you want the real answer then read the bible.
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If you have sex, do it b/c you want to not b/c of peer pressure. I think you are too young, but do what you want, but make sure you're ready b/c once you've done it, you might think you made a mistake.
Hope I helped!
Ke
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Dont lose it because everyone around you lost it -- Most of the time the first time isnt what every girl dreams.. something goes wrong half the time -- Your only 14 and you could wait a year or 2 and see if its what you really want -- You shouldnt just jumop right into sex, thats why there is kissing and the whole nine yards...take it slow..if you move too fast you could regret it
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If you're not sure if you want to have sex or not, than don't. It's not bad to think about it, I would wait though. Don't always look at your friends and go that way, sometimes they are wrong. Just don't do anything you don't want to. Are you sure he isn't just using you for sex? Besta Luck
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can you say STD's??
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you are way too young to loose your virginity..im 14 and people i know only kiss and stuff,but dont do what you're not ready for dont pressure yourself and dont let him poressure you
TAKE NO SHIT!
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It's natural for you to think about sex. Physically, you are ready to start making babies! But in our society, girls aren't just married off and used for reproduction. We get education and jobs now. This has sort of been imprinted on our brains so much, that at fourteen you are not EMOTIONALLY ready to handle sex, even though your body is more developed. Also, consider that as a girl, you are more devloped than boys of your age. Either way, fourteen is far too young to have sex, but it's fine to think about. It's okay to try masturbation, though. In fact, that's quite healthy because you get a sense of what sex feels like and you learn more about your body. It also helps release the sexual pressure you are feeling, and best of all--you can't get pregnant! How sweet is that? If you do masturbate, though, be careful. Don't use pencils or knives, that's dangerous!
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Well girls think about sex jus as much as guys so i think its okay for you to think about it.. but hun you have no strong feelings for this guy like love or even care.. it doesnt even sound like theres a friendship betwween you and him..and it also kinda sounds like you want to do this cause your friends do it..hun dont be a follower..wait until the right person comes along cause you dont want to get hurt and also if you did have sex with him you could regret it because you'll meet somebody special one day that you will have feelings for and love and wanna share that with and it will mean something..so i wouldnt do it with this guy if i was you..much luv dez
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you're only 14! stop it with the fantasies!! you have 10 more years!
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It isn't bad to think about it but you should probably wait until you are absolutely sure you're ready and that this guy is the right person.
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Umm... yes it is you shouldn't have sex with him you are to young to really even be thinking about that. If he asks you again give him a firm answer like, "NO" and don't follow your friends, you might think it is cool at the time but later in life it won't be. Really and be honest with him and if and when you do tell him no and then he gets mad and brakes up with you, you know he was never worth having. A real guy would understand. Hope I was some help!~Chrissie
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its not bad to think about it as long as you dont do anything. keep your virginity coz then, when your older, guys will respect you.
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its normal for you to be thinking about sex, but you have to ask yourself, do i really want it, or do i just want it because all of my friends have had it...
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Hey, its natural for you to be think bout sex. But I know your body is sayin "gosh i want to try this" and your brain is sayin "i shouldnt be doin this" Trust me dont have sex with the guy your thinking about doing it with. Theres really nothing for you in the long run, just keep your virginity, because you got a lot to learn still. You'll thank god you did wait!
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HOLY CRAP!!! YOUR FRIENDS HAVE HAD SEX AT 14!!!!
In my opinion you shouldnt be thinking about sex for a looong time. And...if you dont want to have sex with this guy then dont.
---Trevor
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its not bad at all hun...when you get to 14 its when you start to think about that kinda stuff and its completly normal...but actaully doing it is another story...from my opinion i think that you shouldnt actually do it because you know it is wrong at the age of 14 i mean you have the rest of your life to do that kinda stuff why do it now?? so its totally normal for you to think about it its okay...hope i could be of some help... <33 ~danni
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If you like this guy and if you want to have sex with him, then do it but make sure you are ready so you won't regret it afterwards. You don't always have to think and do what your friends do because everyone does stuff at different times but if you are confused about having sex with this guy, then wait until you can balance your feelings and then decide if you want to have sex. It's not bad at all to think about this at the age of 14. If you want to have sex, then go ahead but make sure you're ready.
-Karen
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You need to be ready for it and it has to be the right guy so you don't have to say "I lost my virginity to that jerk when I was 14".
x0x bree.
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you have to be 100% ready and you cant have any doubts about this. i think that you are too young but still wait until your ready and wait until u really love a dude! x0
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no way its not bad to think about it. Its perfectly normal. I think about it too. listen..dont have sex with this guy! Wait for someone you fall in love with! Im not going to say..wait until your married because i might have one belief and you may have another..which is fine. At 14 its kinda young..but when you fall in love and your so completely ready that you dont have to ask anyone about it..then go for it. Im still a virgin..but everyone who talks to be about losing their virginity..all of them keep saying "its not the way i expected/wanted it to be." Wait until you meet a guy who sweeps you off your feet!
-melissa-
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You need to be ready when you do it completly 100% you cant have any doubts so i wouldnt do it until u r ertain and not have any doubts. xx
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if you dont have a straight answer about wether or not you want to have sex with him or not then you are obviously not ready...i dont think its a good idea to get involved with stuff liek that when your only 14...
hope i helped
mucho love
kayla xoxo
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