okay i have a guy friend...hes nice and sweet but not liked very much at school...tonight he threatened to kill himself. im really scared b/c im not around him much at school and never after school...i care about him alot but sometimes dont show it very well. Should i bring our IM conversation to the councelor tomorow or something else...talking to him doesnt help...he doesnt listen.
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azngemini answered Tuesday January 18 2005, 7:25 pm: if i was in the same situation, I would try gathering up everyone that loves him and just prove to him that he is loved and that his death will affect so many people's lives. If he wont listen, then try showing him. [ azngemini's advice column | Ask azngemini A Question ]
BeFABULOUSxo answered Tuesday January 18 2005, 10:51 am: Yes, bring it to the counselor AFTER you try tlaking to him. You said that you dont show him that you care about him a lot. So show it! Make him realize that someone does care about him and wants him to live. Maybe throw a party and invite all the people that love him! xO ali [ BeFABULOUSxo's advice column | Ask BeFABULOUSxo A Question ]
Allie1 answered Tuesday January 18 2005, 10:01 am: Yes, take the IM question to the counselor! You are not qualified to handle this so find someone who is QUICKLY! I have a close friend who killed herself, and I would do anything to go back in time and handle things differently. You have that chance. Take it! [ Allie1's advice column | Ask Allie1 A Question ]
Shelbyjune answered Tuesday January 18 2005, 12:50 am: I don't think you should wait until tomorrow. If there is any way you can contact someone tonight then, by all means, do so. It could be a simple cry for attention but I never fool around with threats of suicide. Kudos that you care, but you should show that you care more. It is so tough to be a teen these days. When kids don't like you or they don't show they don't like you, you can feel so hopeless! If you really care for him, you've got to be more outward about it. I think you're at the point that talking to him yourself is not enough, so you're going to have to talk with his parents or a suicide hotline or a minister or someone fast.
Good for you -- take a stand for him -- do it now. Keep in touch firstname.lastname@example.org [ Shelbyjune's advice column | Ask Shelbyjune A Question ]
happytohelp05 answered Monday January 17 2005, 11:25 pm: yes definatly !! if you really cared for him you would help him out by doing that ! i think thats a great idea !! but then again you dont want to pressure him to make it worse ! but just hang around him at school talk to him in the halls and make him feel liked !! have you figured out why he wants to commite suicide? email me back at email@example.com if you want thanks !! [ happytohelp05's advice column | Ask happytohelp05 A Question ]
*ashlee* answered Monday January 17 2005, 10:33 pm: he only does it for attention. he probably threatens to kill himself all the time, if he really wanted to im sure hed have done it already. ignore him and hell realize its not working [ *ashlee*'s advice column | Ask *ashlee* A Question ]
S_C answered Monday January 17 2005, 10:29 pm: I'd say either bring it to a councilor, a trusted teacher, or any other trusted adult. Also just if and when you see him like someone else said give him a hug, let him know you care. If you search on google suicide or something like friend wants to commit suicide then a bunch of links will pop up. Or you can always have him call teen talk. The number is in my column, sorry, I don't know it by heart or anything. But really you should show the conversation to a parent or a councilor or a teacher, or just anyone that you can trust!!! Good luck! [ S_C's advice column | Ask S_C A Question ]
SimplyMe answered Monday January 17 2005, 10:22 pm: Dude. Tomorrow in school, find him, not matter what, and just give him a HUGE hug and tell him you care. Don't worry about who's watching, I mean there's nothing better then saving someone. If you don't have enough time or feel awkward telling them, give them a note. Explain in great detail howw much you care. tell them that making it through this will make them stronger. and give them options, like the counselor or a physch. ...if they dont like the options, then go to your school guidance counselor, tell them whats going on...and just be a good friend...
Berri answered Monday January 17 2005, 10:05 pm: This is pretty much the same thing that everyone else who's replied to your question has said, but I thought I'd reinforce it: YES, TAKE THE CONVERSATION TO YOUR COUNSELOR!!! [ Berri's advice column | Ask Berri A Question ]
XxRockon answered Monday January 17 2005, 9:52 pm: wow, thats really serious. I think you have the right idea with brining the convo to the guidance counsler. they could say that they had an annoymouse request to talk to him from a teacher or something. I think that he really needs profesional help from a guidance counlser or therapist and that he would really appreicate if you did it in the long run, you could save his life. [ XxRockon's advice column | Ask XxRockon A Question ]
lildiamyn_69 answered Monday January 17 2005, 9:43 pm: honey, this is no joke. he may not mean it, but what if he does?
you have to tell someone who can help.
i lost one of my friends like that.
even though he was high when he said it, i wish i would have listened. you have to do something before you regret it. trust me, you don't wanna go through what i did. [ lildiamyn_69's advice column | Ask lildiamyn_69 A Question ]
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