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hey i have a problem with cutting and i dunno how to controll it and today 10/22/04 i wound up cutting my self agian because my b.f broke up with me and im like in love with him and ahh...hard to explain and well i need some advice on how to stop or atleast trying to controll it please help me!! ill rate you high and i would like some advice from ppl who actualy do it or used to thanks soo much and if you wanna takl to me more about it im me on
babi beautifulx3 or email me at babii_thug_699@yahoo.com
thanks so much!! ill rate ya a five if ya get at me
love always courtney
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Listen I don't care what u rate me, I'm here to help you with your problem. I know you wanted some one who has done it before but I haven't. don't worry i know people who have and people who have tred to kill themselves. I'm going to help you. You need to stop because you can die. If you hit a vein u have a pretty good chance of dieing. Not only will you hurt yourself, you will hurt the people who love you. Maybe you should talk to your parents or a councelor.
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My friend used to cut herself and I helped her by getting her help and telling her how much I loved her and that the more she did it the more she hurt me than her.I think she got over it because I told her I loved her but I think the way you can get over it is take a rubberband and put it around your wrist and snap it wenever you feel like cutting. This should hurt less than cutting, my friend also quit by doing this.I'm glad that your trying to stop and trying to get help...write back
lildesidevil143
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well as a cutter i know how you feel.
but a boy isnt a reason to do that.
like hunni bun said.. use a rubber band.
it works. and you can do it in school or where ever you need it.
but if you seriously need to do it... set ur self a limit.. 3 cuts every month.. or whatever.
and its just a boy. you'll find a new one.
hope i helped
ellexox
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i used to cut myself almost everyday for a year and i still do wen i get mad i am 13/f i was on medication had to go to counceling which didnt help and i ran away i almost killed myself twice i noe cutting isnt good and im sry to tell u this but u really cant stop even if u do u will still do it occasionally wen ur mad but to start out get rid of all the sharp object near u liek razors adn go places so ur not forsced to stay at home listen to music write all ur feeligns down those are all good almost all my frends do it its a way to relieve stress i noe its not a good way but i really dont care i noe this sounds bad but theres nothing i can do u have to stop urself
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Hey! I think you should use a rubber band unstead of cutting snap it 3 times in the same place you would normaly do this it helps I got this idea from a friend! :) I hope I helpd! I love yOU! if you ever need anything else please feel free if you ever need me! Love xoxo-Andie Hunnibunni23
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oh man..breaking up with the b/f/some people drink..or sleep around..you are dealing with it by cutting..
cutting will not bring him back...
However if you cut all the time or not just when somethig horrible happens..there are meds that can control that impulse.
It is like anything bad for you drugs, drink..etc...yu have to replace this behavior with a new one.
call a friend when you feel like it, get some exercsie..watch your favoite movie..only please please do not cut yourself...
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ok well there are lots of ways to cope with your sadness/frustration other than resorting to hurting yourself. what i would do instead was scream in a pillow.. sock a pillow, count to ten. listen to good music etc. if i got the temptation to cut.. i told myself NO.. self control. just say no =D! good luck hun!
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ok well i know what you're going through. i used to cut and i was going through a lot, too. what i did was wore rubber bands on my wrists, and every time i wanted to or even thought about cutting, i'd snap the rubber bands on my wrists. if that doesn't work, try using a shock pen. it hurts enough to get you to stop, but also is much better than cutting. but you'd be better off starting with rubber bands. good luck and hope it helps.
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Ahh that is really hard. You have to make a commentmit with yourself that you can't do it no more. It's like a drug. It's really hard to stop it. If you don't have enough self control to stop it maybe you should tell someone that could help you out. But If your depressed I seriously suggest not taking anti depressants. They make you go crazy and suicidal. If you are suicidal you should deffinetly get some help. I know how you feel so if you ever need anyone to talk to you can IM me at BRitchellex3.
xoxooxoxox
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Wear a rubber band everyday. Whenever you feel the "urge" to cut, snap the rubber band 3 times on your wrist. It helps me. I hope it'll help you.
*Randy T*
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im me asap!!!!
i no wht u r going through...i dont cut tho...just im me!
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Well....I was in the same situation cuttin my self over my boyfriend and stupid stuff like that.But then one day i was thinkin to myself why am i doin this is it solvin anythin.And i realized it wasnt the best thin to do.i can understand your are in love with this kid but think to ur self is this the right thing and am i hurtin ppl by doin this and you will realize it the wrong thing to do.so just think to your self.
I hope i helped.
-Amanda Marie
p.s. if you ever want to talk to me about this just im me my sn is X urlilsisnhis or email me at nodoubt54321@hotmail.com
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well ..is cuttin rea;ll;y worth it...i caan truley underatand on cuttin becasue you love this boii soo much..but do you think it solved anythin...ma sis use to cut..and she just reliazed she did it for the same reason but it didnt solve anything..there is nothin wromg with showin your feelings on hurting yourself ..but its point less..so just think about it and when your about too...think is this goin to solve anything..?
hope i helped
-tasha leigh
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well whatever you use to cut yourself hide in a really high to reach place and then when you go to get the stuff you use to cut yourself you will have to work harder to get to it and the better you hide it, the harder to get it so you might give up for that moment.. or you could throw the stuff away
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Hey, Courtney. I am 23 now, and when I was like 15-17 I was cutting too. I loved that feeling after being so angry about something and no one to talk to about it with I was like, "hey I know what to do!" I had a special spot, I wouldn't cut anyplace else but at the top of my left arm by my shoulder. Whenever someone saw scrapings there they would be like, what happened, a cat scratch ya? I would say something like, "I was mad about something and there was no one there to rescue me." Let me tell you, you are so not alone in this. It is extremely common for teens to do this. It does not by any means make it okay, but in high school a lot of my friends did it too. This one girl did it in the middle of class so bad, there was blood everywhere, it was horrible. That was a severe case. Luckily I was not a severe case, it was just a babit for me, and unfortunately I enjoyed it, and hopefully you are not a severe case either. What I think the reason may be that teens feel the need to do this is they are exploring ways to deal with pain and frustration. Many people over look all the troubles and pains that are involved in the teenage years, all the stresses, the expectations, the learning, and developing and exploring who you are and what you want to be...it's crazy. People wonder why teens always have to act in revenge or cause trouble. I guess what I want to say is that you are definately not the only one, there are millions like you, and there are many ways to help yourself stop. Find what you like to do (other than cutting) and do it. Write poetry. Play an instrument. Bake cookies. Just use positive ways to deal with anger instead. The results in life are much more rewarding that way, believe me. Take that negative energy and make something great out of it. It's easy if you try. Good luck! You'll be fine, just trust yourself.
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I have, and still do cut. I'm trying to get help right now. I've finally gotten up the courage to talk to one of my teachers, and she's trying to help me. The best solution to almost any problem is to talk with somebody. A councilor, a teacher, a parent, a friend. The way I tried controlling it, was I'd only cut my legs, and I'd use a razor, so I tried to get veet hair removal gel, but that ended up being to complicated, and I almost poisneted myself, by purposely leaving it on too long. What you have to do, is if you're too embarrassed to actually go up to a teacher, think of one that you think could help you best, and then e-mail them. Thats what I did with my favorite teacher, I e-mailed her, then I finally came clean and told her it was me that sent the e-mail. It's hard to do, but it's the best way to get help. Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk Talk about it, it'll help!!
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Well... I'm not going to say crap about religion and all that junk because it didn't help me when I was taking random things and jabbing it into my arms... Cutting is a hard thing to treat... I mean, it's kinda of an addiction... people do it for the feeling of relief they get after wards, or to see their own blood to know that they're alive... So it's hard to just outright stop the next day or next month... it takes time to stop...like years... Now onto how to control it, try to think what you're about to do and reason it out with yourself, it's going to be hard and you'll likly forget, but just try, even if you already 2 cms into your skin with a blade or something, think about why you're doing it and who's this is going to help.... If you're like me, it'll make it wore and piss you off and just do it some more... so then think about what people that really and truly care for would think if they saw you doing it. They'd most likely be sad or mad at you, for ruining your body... but hopefully they'll also be supportive. And if you really care about the people around you and you really want to be control it and eventually stop, think about who it helps, I mean... does cutting yourself cure cancer? Then think about the people that love you, think about how sad they'd be if they saw you with arms all torn and bleeding...
Hopefully that helped...and I wish you the bestest of luck...
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First of all I am sorry to hear about all your pain, I feel for you. I totally agree with the advice that FrEe2bMe gave you. Find someone that you can trust and talk to them let the know how you feel and how you have been dealing with your pain and (I can not stress this enough) pray to God and ask him for help. I know you may not believe in him but trust me he is there and if you pray hard enough and put your trust in him he will help you through everything. Find a person who believes in him and let them tell you all the wonderful things about him I know that you will find all your answers through him. Good luck with everything and remember that god loves you very much and he hates to see you in pain.
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Hey there. I know cutting seems like the right solution but wow it's so not the right one. I know you don't see that right now, but maybe soon you will, or it could be too late. MILLIONS of people deal with pressing issues each day and they find other ways to cope other than self mutalation. You need to as well. Sure it feels like everything in your life is out of control and the only thing you can control is how deep in and how often you cut. You have more control than you think. Don't let life's natural course wear you down and ruin you. Be strong. Have faith. Cutting may feel good and once you see the blood come out it's like this rush and it seems as if some of your hurt and pain is leaving you...well that's wrong. You are only adding a budren on top of a burden. I'm sure you are such a beautiful girl..Do you really want scars and slashes all over your wrists, arms, and thighs? If you keep on cutting yourself, you will never win or get anywhere in life. You'll just go in circles. If you can break this cycle now, I'm sure you will have a great future ahead of you. I know you are upset about your boyfriend, but that's okay. Cry instead of cutting. Make a box and put all your memories in it of him. Write in a journal. Talk to someone. Scream. PRAY. Anything, but hurt yourself. Think about all the people that care about you..even if you think people don't they do, do you really want to die? NO..God gives us one life to live...so LIVE IT! It's the least we could do after what he did for us. You should get invovled. Join some school clubs, hang out with girlfirneds, shop, eat, party, drive, volunteer. Anything to keep your mind off of it. Seriously, there is life beyond cutting. There are better ways to deal with life's struggles. Like me, I curl up into a lil' ball and cry for like an hour and then I go pig out and I write in my diary or I talk to my mom. It's a lot better than me cutting myself. Everytime you cut, that's one more time you are closer to death and that's 1 more person you are hurting. Surely you don't want ot hurt anyone. If you need to, you are more than welcome to talk to me any time you need a lending ear. I'm always here. If you want to get rid of your scars I suggest ussing Mederma (it's a over the counter cream). You can get it at drugstores. God Bless! :)
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