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Hey everybody! My best friend Brooke's mom died last year of ALL (actute lymphoblastic lukemia) she died on October 17th which would be this Saturday. On is the year anniversary of her mom's death and i wanted to do something special for Brooke to show her i care... any suggestions on something i could get her or ne thing i could say? i would really appreciate it!! and i rate every1!
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Well im not really sure because ive never been in asituation like this before but ill try my best...maybe this Saturday you could take Brooke out some where to eat to take her mind off of the fact that her mom died a year ago of that day.... then maybe if she needs to cry or needs somebody to talk to you can be there her and just comfort her as a real friend would and do what you think is best....good luck and hope I could help!!! and srry about the loss...:(
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Wal-mart has nice, but inexpensive flowers if you would like to give her some. I would make it a point to see if she wanted to do anything that day. Let her bring up her mom's death. Just take her out for shopping or a movie or something fun.
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Hey hun...I know this is a very hard thing to deal with. My dad passed away March 29, 2003. My dad and I were really close and all my friends knew how much he meant to me. This year was the 1 year anniversary, and my friends asked me what I wanted to do..I said nothing but hang out with you guys. You don't have to get her something or make special plans, just hanging out for the day with her should show her that you care about her. If you need anything else about this let me know.
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That's a difficult question, and there's no 'right' answer. Brooke may well not want to talk about her mother's death as even years on it's likely to be a deeply upsetting topic. Bringing it up if she doesn't seem to want to talk about it isn't a good idea, but it would be good to let her know that your there for her if she needs or wants anything. Talk to her a few days beforehand that you know it's coming up to a year and that is must be difficult for her. That way if she wants to talk about it then or on the date itself, she'll know you're there and willing to listen, but won't feel pressured to share with you if she perhaps wants to deal with her grief by herself for now. On the date itself you could perhaps bring her a small, thoughtful gift, but I wouldn't make any refernence to the fact that it's been exactly a year unless she brings it up herself. Good luck.
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Hey hun,
Make her a special card too. If you want to by her a present that would be cool as well. What's her favorite treat? Treat her to ice cream? Have a fun sleepover or something. Maybe you two could go skating or bowling, or a funny movie. Do anything she thinks is special she'd like. Good LUCK
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just be there for her. she might not feel like being with anyone, but she might want to. show her that you care, flowers or something, and really support her, she probably will need it.
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what i think the best thing to do is... get her a pizza or sumthin else that she really enjoys & do everything for her... like the dishes, or anything else that needs to be done... so she can just relax... & not have to worry about anything
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Awww...you sound like a really great friend =)
Go to one of those places that delivers flowers and send a really pretty bouque to her and her family and some candy and a card (*if its too expensive ask your friends to chip in) and since you don't know how shes gonna feel (*if she'll want to talk about it or stay busy and not think about it or whatever) you can just tell like the day before "If you wanna talk or go out tomorow, just call and we can do whatever you want" or smthn and she'll probably want to go to her moms grave and spend time w.her family so I wouldn't plan anything out because she might feel obligated to go out w.you since you made plans and all instead of staying w.her family. So just let her know if she wants to go out to eat or shopping or just talk you'll be there for her
=) HoPe I HeLpEd
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first off 0ctober 17th lands on a sunday this year!! and what you should do is take her out to the mall go shopping with her take her out to eat get her off the sadness of it all and if she wants to talk about her mom then let her!!
*BeSs*
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I'm sorry about that. I would suggest to let her talk to you about it if she is open. Maybe take her to her moms grave. Show her that you care about what happened. Hope this helped!
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maybe you could get her flowers or something and be there for her to give her a really big hug and make a card and make sure it says ... "she will be loved" she will most likely really appreciate it .. i know a guy and his dad died 2 yrs ago of cancer and its still really hard for him to deal with it .. every time he thinks about it he breaks down and cries so just make sure your there for her. hope everything goes well and i hope i helped! -kayla
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My opinion is that you shouldn't mention it. I know that if someone close to me dies, I don't like to think about it. I try to continue my life as normally as I can. If someone tried to do something special for me on the one year anniversary, it would just upset me. Brooke is going to be upset on that day anyway, so I suggest that when you see her, if she seems upset, give her a hug and say that she's very brave for getting through this. IF SHE WANTS TO, offer do go to the cemetary with her to visit her mother's grave. After that, go out for ice cream.
PS: October 17th is a Sunday.
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Take her out to a movie or something. Go out to lunch. Just have fun with her. Maybe get her a present just for being such a great friend to you.
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