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Divorce


Question Posted Sunday August 29 2004, 1:21 pm

My parents just told me they might be getting a divorce. I'm devistated. If they got a divorce, nothing would ever be the same again. Help!

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xo_dream answered Tuesday August 31 2004, 5:53 am:
You really can't stop them. You can try talking to them about how it's affecting you, but you can't change their minds or anything. Honestly, it might be for the best. If they don't get along, there's no point in forcing them to stay together.

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uhohitsholli answered Sunday August 29 2004, 9:51 pm:
my parents are thinking of separating too so i know how you feel.. its their decision not yours, so dont worry. and they'll make sure everything will work out. hey they might even be better parents if they split up who knows? and you'll get two rooms instead of one! there are many different outlooks on the situation and im really sorry that you're upset.. if you need anything else lemme know cause i think i know how you feel. hope i helped!

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russianspy1234 answered Sunday August 29 2004, 7:42 pm:
well jsut becasue they dont love each other anymore doesnt mean they dont love you. there really isnt much you can do about it. but on the slightly shallow broght side you get double the presents per holiday. yeah ok this probably isnt something to joke about. really things will change but unless one of them is moving really far away you will still have both of your parents

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goodgurl answered Sunday August 29 2004, 5:55 pm:
i feel sry for you and i cant really do anything for you but keep postive and hope for the best and if you need anybody to talk to im me at maytuff1 or wild monkey705


hope i helped your friend
tiffany

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*ashlee* answered Sunday August 29 2004, 4:21 pm:
i dont kno wat u want to hear..if they get a divorce, then they get a divorce. ur right, things wont ever be the same. but that doesnt mean things will be bad. ull most likley still c them both, and spend time with both of them. they probably fight a lot if theyre getting a divorce, so at least u wont have to hear that anymore. im not gonna tell u that everythings gonna be perfect and ull be happier. things probably will be hard for a while, but itll all blow over soon enough, just kno that they still love you, and they are both still there for you..some kids dont even have that

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Paige answered Sunday August 29 2004, 3:59 pm:
Hey~awhile back my parents had a conflict and I told them if they got a divorce I woulnd't talk to either one of them. But if your parents don't love each other they do have a right to see other people. I know it will be really devistating, but I guess talk to them and let them know how you feel. I hope I helped! rate please! and let me know how it goes! ~Paige~

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alisonmarie answered Sunday August 29 2004, 3:52 pm:
You're right. Things wouldn't be the same.

While divorce is emotionally hard, it can lead to stronger people. Your parents would not be considering a divorce lightly - have they been fighting a lot? Not talking?

All that leads to an uncomfortable home environment; adults can often be happier apart if their marriage is not working, and that rubs off on their kids.

I'm not trying to gloss over the pain of divorce, but ultimately it is up to your parents. They make the choice, but you have to learn to deal with it. It's hard, but it's happening for a reason.

Your parents will be happier, and that could make for a stronger relationship with you - or at least a calmer, more open home environment.

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MeganKristine answered Sunday August 29 2004, 3:36 pm:
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Divore is such a harsh word. :-(. Perhaps it is the best thing for your family....Like, if your parents fight a lot, it isn't the best thing for you to go through, maybe seeing your father like mondays, wendays, and fridays would be better,(Or mother) that way, you'd still get to see them, without the bikkering going on. I would have a sit down converstaion with both parents and ask them if they're sure they want to go through with it, and ask them what's going to happen in your life. Make sure you ask tons of questions, because they will help you deal with it better.

I'm sorry agian. I hope I helped.


~Megan Kristine~

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liLpiMpRinCeZz answered Sunday August 29 2004, 3:35 pm:
you should sit down with them and talk bout it...ak divorves are hard on the whole family...



morgan

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icey0990 answered Sunday August 29 2004, 3:35 pm:
I feel your pain :( Ive been there before. About a year ago my parents said the same thing to me and i was devistated as well. However, MIGHT is the key word..since last year my parents went to conseling and are really making an effort to make it work. Now they go out to the movies and dinner a lot and for now things are great...so its not a definate yet. Maybe talk to your mom and dad in private and ask if they`re considering marriage conseling. It worked great for my parents because now they go out to places like teenagers lol. So maybe the same will happen with your parents. You can even tell your mom you`d love to babysit your siblings (if u have any) so they can go out to dinner or something. If not..and they decide to divorce, its ok. Both of them still love you with all their heart..and theres plenty of kids out there who are going through the same thing.
Best of luck hun..drop me something in the inbox if you wanna ask somethin else. :)
-melissa-

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LostAngel answered Sunday August 29 2004, 2:58 pm:
I know so many ppl who parents are divorce..eeh...I know how you feel...when I was around 6 and 7..my parents were seprated (not divorce but seprated)..and it was a bit hell for me..but I still got to see my dad on the weekends..so yeah, although it wasnt really the same but atleast he didnt moved to a different state..at the time only 10 mins away..and on the other hand..before I was born...my mom married someone else..and then got divorced..so the way I see it..my mom and my sister's dad are still friends and all..and he is over here almost day..takin my sister to work and takin her to the doctor and etc..I mean he still does his part of being both of my sister's father..the only thing that changed is that he doesnt live here..but almost everything is the same..and all..he still comes over, on holidays and all..he isnt like my friends dad who moved to a totally different state and all.. try talkin to your parents..if they havent seprated..try askin them to be seprated or whatever so there still married and all..and see what happens..(I know its a bit confusin sry..) - hope I helped

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Fallin2Pieces answered Sunday August 29 2004, 2:56 pm:
My parents are divorced to. You're right, nothing will be the same, but just remember they both love you and it's not your fault. My parents have been divorced for 7 years and it still kills me, but everything happens for a reason. After a while, you'll get use to it. It's not that bad, everything will be ok.- Fallin2Pieces

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storageanddisposal answered Sunday August 29 2004, 1:27 pm:
To be perfectly honest, several things happen through out your life that causes everything to change. For instance, going to a different school, graduating, moving out, getting married. I think the only thing we can do is accept change. Your parents are probably considering divorce because they feel they would be happier apart. If you look at it this way, at least they would be happier in the end. At least they discussed it with you instead of keeping you out of the loop like a lot of parents do.

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