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I am only 15 and I already have a kid!!
I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.
Desperate for my life back and confused!!
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Dear Mama,
Having a child is a blessing and you should be ashamed of yourself for all that you have said. What is happening right now is nobody elses fault but your own and now you have to suffer the consequences. I apologize for being rude; but I am appalled. I am 16, almost 17, and I would love to have a baby. You need to suck it up and be a better Mother to this child because this is the rest of your life. Good luck.
♥Sarah
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You made a choice to have sex and now you are paying the price. I dont think adoption is even an option anymore because you would have to get the fathers concent as well. What does your parents things about this? and what does his parents think about this? Talk about it not only with yourself but everyone that is involved with this childs life. Its sad that your life is over however dont let the child pay for your mistake. You have a duty to this child to give it the best possible life by considering everything and everyone.
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I think that if u was redy to have sex u should be ready to care care of your child. is not her fault u bought into this world.
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well there are choices u can have the babi go to a foster home until u get a little older or maby ur family would help. i dont wanna be mean but u should of used a condom for safe sex i am only 13 1/2 but alot of my family got pregnat young
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Well if you dont want to take care of it no more because its to hard giving it to an adoption centre is the only thing you can do. Yes it is hard but if you really love her then there is places you can go to school where you bring your child into the school while your learning. Also just giving up that isnt the way to go though. I have two kids and there both 1 year old and im 17. So i know how your feeling but giving up isnt the answer im not really sure what you should do but i kept both of mine and just let my mom take care of them while i went to work. And brought both mine to school with me and while they slept i slept. But just because you love her doesnt mean that you have to spend every minute with her if you feel like you need to get away. Have a friend or mom or something baby sit her for a while so you can sleep or while you sleep have your boyfriend take care of her then when he sleeps you take care of her. Take sh ifts well thats what i got to say. Hope iv helped Dont be afraid to write back.
Signed
Short N Punky
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Dont worry, you will get through this hard time. Just be thankful tha father is supporting you in every way. It could be a lot worse. Dont put tha baby up for adoption, I think thats tha worst thing you could possibly do at this point. Ask friends n family to help out if its that hard. I hope things get better for you, goodluck hun :) xOx
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Every parent goes through times of anxiety. Your baby is now the most important thing in your life. You made the choice when you chose to have sex now you have to live with the consequences. Things will get better though. (Especially once your baby starts sleeping through the night.)
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even tho u love ur baby that doesnt meen it wud b better off living with you..w/e is better for the baby becuzits only a babe and didnt do nething rong so if u cant support it dun let the baby pay for ur mistakes..but anyways..i know you love your baby and you gave up your life for it and it will be rewarding at one point keep working hard to give your baby the best life if you think that you can handle it..becuz its going to be hard..but sooo worth it..and the father mite not wnt to give the baby up either . . . KaT *
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ok, as tough as it is, the best thing for you and the child is for it to be put up for adoption. i know thats the last thing you wanted to hear, but some one else will be able to take care of her much better, and you will be able to creat a better life for yourself. its really a sad situation your in, and its ultimately your choice. who knows maybe the father wants the child? ask him before you put her up for adoption and if he doesn't then thats the only way to get your life back.
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Keep the baby. It's going to be hard for you, but it will be even harder for the kid if she grows up with parents that she can't call her own. Work two jobs if you have to, but don't drop out. Staying in school is really your only option to give this baby any kind of future. You will eventually have to pay its way through college and you need to go yourself or you won't be able to afford it. Look on the bright side though. By the time your 35, the baby will be grown and you'll have the rest of your life free to enjoy. Most people spend well into their 50s taking care of their children. Remember, what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger.
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wow, that must suck. Just hold it out and wait. things will get better in the end. I have alot of respect for you for being able to take care of a kid at that young of a age. After highschool it will get better, you only have a few more years left, it will go by fast and pretty soon your child will be getting old enough to help make ends meet. This experance will make you strounger so dont worry... GOd bless you!
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i feel for you...i think u have to options one give up the baby i no its horrible to even think that but u have to think of her first if u can't even support her then give her up to give her a better life that way u can also have a good life i mean yes u made her and shes ur resposiblity but you have to think for her not your self if you know that you cna't take care of her then you have to give her up or you can jus tuff it and work ur butt off and make it...
good luck!!!
BB
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Ok wow your brave and all and I know how you feel my cuz went through the same shit as you and she cried alot cuz she needed help she culdn't pay her parents didn't want to help I don't know about yours but...what I suggest you is to try and keep the baby as much as you can....and then well when your child turns 1 years old put him in a day care center...and ask your parents for help an if it's way to much to handle put your child up for adoption and make it clear that you want to see your child when you can and when you made anough money you want you child back...cuz my cuz did that and she regreted letting her baby go there...she wanted her back but they said no sry even though they made a promise to her they didn't let her have it back...so I suggest you to keep her and prolly make a baby shower or sumthing invite friends and family and all that so you get supplies and money and that will help you alot it will make you pay alot less then what you have to pay now....hope I helped
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p.s. good luck hope you make the right choice..and how old is your baby I love babies so much...write me back tell me how your childs doing...oh and whats the name?...lol...I'm a very curious girl..haha
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Hey!Maybe you should ask your parents for some help...and ya kno im sorry to say this but your probaly still gonna have to work cuz its your child ya kno?you made that decison. And I really don't think putting her up for adoption should be a option.My uncle did that and he regrets it so much. He was a father at 16 and now he doesn't get to see his baby till shes 18...and she lives in like Maine or somethin and he (my uncle) lives in AZ. So just be careful and make the right decision...remember its your baby. GOOD LUCK!
xOxO tasha
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ok, dont give her to adoption. you mad ethe baby, you raise it. You knew what you were doing with this man... now you deal with it
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Well, you made a mistake! But everyone does! Im sure you dislike being a parent, 15 and all. I mean i couldn't imagine being one now, and Im 17! But this will make you stronger! They have schools where you can take your kid with you, and leave them in a nursery (kind of like a daycare) that way you don't haft to worry about them and can get your education! I'm always here for you! If you need anything please email me at angel25639@yahoo.com
LOve, Rache
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oh ur in a really bad situation but u know that already so im not gonna go over that.but this is a life ur talking about giving her up is like giving up on urself and u brought her to this world so u shouldnt give someone else the right to raise her cause thats the best thing u can give a chld a home with her parents and if u want ur life back so much ask ur parents 4 some help or goto a councilor because u might think they dont help but they do alot.im sorry bout wut ur going through but i hope it all works out for the best.
good luck
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Hey.. you have to learn from your mistakes.. If I were you, I wouldn't give up my child, even if I was at that age.. You obviously messed up your life, but sooner or later you'll realize how much the baby means to you, you can't give her up.. I know I wouldn't.. ask the father to take her some nights, and have your parents and his parents help out.. If you were to give it up for adoption, you wouldn't be able to get the baby back, even if you wanted to. It'll be with other people and learn to love them.. I wouldn't give up my baby, even if I was your age.. Alright..
<3 Nikki
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Well it soundz like u learned ur lesson... but do you really wanna give sumthing up that belongs to u... what r u gonna do if u miss the child once its gone... try to get it baQ... this is a child not a toi... what if your mom had u when she was 15 & she had given u up... how wud u feel about her...? Do u want ur child to feel this way about u... i think u should keep the child... but its ur decision...
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I don't know what to tell you kiddo. You made a mistake and it comes with consequences. You can't just give up on your baby thats not fair to your baby or you. You love your baby and no matter how much you don't like getting up every two hours to feed him, YOU STILL HAVE TO. You had that baby and you are the mother you can't just abondon it when it needs you!!! Everything happens for a reason and you need to keep this baby. You're being selfish not to sound rude but you want to give this baby up just because you don't have a life anymore??!?! your baby IS your life and you need to keep it! That baby NEEDS its mother.How would you feel if your parents gave you away just because they wanted a life to go hang out?? Yea its gonna be hard but you made the choice and now you have to stick it out. You can't just bail when things get tough. If all mothers did that no one would have any parents. Thats not fair and I was just letting you know.
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You sound really unhappy. You're only 15, this is supposed to be the best time of your life, but you're stuck with a baby. If I was in your position, I would put it up for adoption. The sooner you give it up the better, because people would rather adopt a baby than a toddler.
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