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Ok well last year all my dreams had come true. The guy I had feel for since I layed eyes on him 3 years ago, had finally liked me (though, we were going out or anything). I was pretty, popular... and I liked it. I wasnt conceited... I tried to act like I didnt know what people thought about me... but really I did. I heard ppl talk... I'm not stupid. Some goths said they didnt like me, some punks said I was too preppy. But I was me... and I liked it! I had my bff by my side always! The guys would usually fall for me... but it wasnt worth it, i had my eye on that one boy (from before). And now I notice that my bff was kind of my follower. I didnt mean to do it. I mean everyone knew we were bff's and we always hung out with the same people... but she didnt get as much attention from boy as me I guess. THEN something terrible happened... My middle school split up into different high schools... I didnt want this to happen at all... I loved my life, and now it was all changing!!! ANYWAYS i went to high school... and now that a year there has passed me and my bff are still friends... we have a lot of the same friends... but things are different. She's the one getting all the guys. Shes more popular because of sports and church and all. And I feel as if I'm the one following her. I hate it! Before it was perfect! my life was great! I felt so comfortable being myself! But now I feel different... I dont want to make a wrong move, I dont know what to say! I need some major help! not like 'be yourslef and everything will be great...'blah blah blah... Ive tried that... nothing changed. I just wanna be popular again! HELP ME. My friend just took my life (link)
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Hey.. it seems like your being a little selfish. she didn't take your life, she lived hers up like you did.. she probably felt like YOU were the popular one before and everyone liekd you and now its her turn to shine.. she didnt take ur life though.. just try to be yourself and be friends with everyone.. be willing to talk to people that you usually don't... life doesnt revolve around being popular and from the movie What a Girl Wants... remember, "Why would you want to fit in, when you were born to stand out". so don't try living up to peoples expectations, be yourself, don't try and be popular.. just find the true ones.. its not about who has the most friensd, its about the ones who stayed always stayed there.. alright bye
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is it wrong to flirt and make out and stuff w/ a guy when you aren't dating..? like little benafit buddys? (link)
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hey.. its not wrong to flirt with ppl taht you arent going out with, everyone does it.. it just happens sometimes you dont even intend to do it.. and making out with a guy you aren't dating isnt that bad.. it just means you dont want the commitment.. just dont sleep around with ppl.. alright bye
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Hey! And thanks ahead of time ^_^ Might as well get the usual stuff out. I'm an 18 year old female from Chicagoland and I have a boyfriend (*gasp shock*) named Marc who is 21.
Marc and I met about 3 years ago online, and even though we lived rather close, we didn't meet up until June of last year. We started dating theoretically (meaning we were open to each other about having feelings for each other, but were both in relationships) in January of this year, and officially dating in March. We've been together since then, have never had a single serious fight. In addition to being each other's lovers, we're also best friends.
We've never had any problems to date, though we both knew in August, I was going off to college about 5-6 hours away, and he was spending a semester in... Japan. We both knew it was going to be hard, but that we loved each other enough so that it would not be a problem.
The night before both of us left, we talked about *dundundun* our future together, namely, marriage. We both agreed that we are definagtely not ready for marriage, but would like to establish SOME kind of future.
When Marc gets back from Japan in December, he goes back to his own college (all the way ibn Minnesota T_T), but after that, he graduates in May. He has plans to go to Grad School, but wants to save up some money first, so he was planning on taking off school for a couple years and work to save. To make a long story short, we decided upon him moving down here to where I go to college and getting an apartment that both of us can pay rent on and live together.
Now here is where the advice comes in. Marc and I truly believe thsi is the right thing to do. We've lived together before (in his house at college for a couple weeks in April of this year, and on and off throughout the summer), so we know each other's quirks and that we're compatible and whatnot. We both love and trust each other enough. BUT, I would really appareciate an outsider's opinion of things.
Also, although my parents met and love Marc, I don't know how they'd feel about me living with him, and I'm pretty much deathly afraid to bring it up to them. Any ideas on how to do this to make it easier?
Sorry this is so long, and thank you again! (link)
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Hey.. i'd say do it.. you both seem to be in love with eachother but not ready for marriage.. so try living together for a while and see how it works out.. i'm sure it'll be great if you've never gotten into a fight yet. and if your parents know how deeply in love you are with him, then they shouldn't mind you living with him.. and if they do, just talk to them about it, and it is your life and your an adult now so you can make your own choices.. just make sure that you know what your getting yourself into... alright, hope i helped a little.. bye!
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Ok, I have a problem lol. School is starting in a few days and I have acne. It's not that bad but it is in a way lol. What are some ways to remove or cover the acne on my face? I hear that toothpaste and nail polish remover works but could you explain to me how to use it on my face with good details? I'll rate you because I know the answers will be long. Thanks (link)
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Hi.. Toothpaste does work just don't over do it.. and when it starts burning wash it off.. Ive never heard of using nail polish remover... Also you can buy other products at the store.. and if it still doesn't come off, use makeup until it does go away if your that embarassed about it.. Use a coverup that is your skin tone... alright bye
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omg my freind was on the fone to the guy i lk then she kept tellin him to ask me out then he asked her out and she said yes then they broke up but he wants her to go out with him again and then she wants to go out with him again but she nows i lk him alot wut should i do should i be mad at her cause i am help!!!!! i will rate u
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if she would do that then shes not a true friend.. talk to her about it so she knows how you feel dont just act like you arent mad at her when you really are.. this happened to me before.. then me and the friend realized we deserved better than that and me and her went for like weeks without talking.. then we talked and it was all settled and we are still the best of friends.. so id just say you should talk to her about it.
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Thanks Nikki...Im not gonna give her up.She deserves better than that.I love her so much and i just couldn't give her up.I know how it is to be given up and im not gonna put her through what i went through.It may be hard raising her but if im as strong as everyone else says i am i think i can do it.Thank you so much for the advice Nikki.It really helped. (link)
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Hi.. What's your aim sn? i wanna talk to you =) lol you seem really nice.. and no problem for the advice.. i hope she gets happy too! alright bye!
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Ok there is a guy a like aand he thinks I'm cute and he and his friend asked if my friend and I wanted to go swimming and we said yes. But should I change my mind? I'm scared because what I fall or trip or something.
Sincerely,
CameronLover1 (link)
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Hey.. you shouldnt change your mind.. just go and have fun! if you trip or fall just laugh at yourself and dont get all embarrassed*... just have fun and don't worry about that!
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I am only 15 and I already have a kid and pretty much my life is ruined.I hate bein a mom at 15 it really sucks.The father of my child is wonderful though.He helps and supports my child as much as he can although both of our lives are pretty much over.I can't stand gettin up every 2 hours to feed her.I really regret getting in bed with the father.It was the stupidest thing ive ever done.I now hate my life.I have a beautiful baby but a messed up life.I ruined my life to fast.I should have waited till I was older and well now I just don't know what to do.I love my baby very much but im just not so sure that i can handle raising a child along with going to school and working to pay for the expences of my child....Plz someone help me.I really need to know what to do.I don't wanna give it to an adoption center but that might be my only choice.I really need some advice so someone plz help.
Desperate for my life back and confused!! (link)
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Hey.. you have to learn from your mistakes.. If I were you, I wouldn't give up my child, even if I was at that age.. You obviously messed up your life, but sooner or later you'll realize how much the baby means to you, you can't give her up.. I know I wouldn't.. ask the father to take her some nights, and have your parents and his parents help out.. If you were to give it up for adoption, you wouldn't be able to get the baby back, even if you wanted to. It'll be with other people and learn to love them.. I wouldn't give up my baby, even if I was your age.. Alright..
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Ok, whats 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base. I mean I know what they are but I forgot which ones which, help? lol (link)
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Hey... alright its an easy way to remember it - the 4 f's...
1st base - french
2nd base - feel
3rd base - finger
4th base - fuck
that's how i remember it, by the 4 f's lol.. alright bye
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Alright, I just went to a friend's b-day party and there was ONE guy there.. To me, he's soo hott, and one of the girls there dated him.. And she agrees with me.. But, he says he's gay.. I don't want to believe it, cuz I really think I'm starting to like him.. Wat should I do? He knows I like him, but I can't stop him from being gay, atleast, I don't think so... If u have any advice, I'd appreciate it :-) (link)
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Hey.. he might be gay, or he might just not want to be with you.. i dont mean to sound mean or anything, but it happens sometimes.. talk to some of his friends, or to him about it.. alright bye!
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what are some signes that you are stalking people??? seriously i need to know.. (link)
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hey.. umm... following them, calling them all the time, becoming obsessive about this person, showing up in places a little bit too much at the same time as them...
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is it wrong to be so in love that you would die for him? (link)
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Hey.. no it's very normal to feel that way.. but if you are at a young age then dont get tied down, your still young and have a lot of more of experiencing to do in the future.. but don't get obsessive or suicidal if it ended.. alright.. and good luck with this guy =D bye
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I'm sorry this might sound strange but my friend is very nervous about her first time.
Any guys and girls that could reply to this would be awesome!
Do girls have to shave before they do it the first time? And if they do...how so? (link)
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hey.. no girls don't have to shave before their first time.. don't do it because the guy wants to if you do decide to.. if you do it, then do it because YOU want to, not to make the guy happy.. alright bye
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ok..well me and my bf have been going out for 5 months and we want to take it further..we have made out and felt eachother up..but he wants to finger me and i want to give him a hand job..i'm a little nervous about it though and i was wondering if anyone had any advice?? (link)
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hey.. if you feel comfortable doing it, then do it.. if you don't then just wait until the time is right.. just don't do anything you don't want to..
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ok i wrote this like b4 but i was wondering..
see i have a bf namd chris.. who i love with everything i can love someone with.. ive been with him for 9 months (i knew him for 3 years prior to that) and im still CRAZY about him. I want to be with him forever. I love him so much. and im 15. i would die for him and theres like 3 other ppl i can say that about. i lost my virginity to him bc i wanted to always remember him no matter where in life we went. i think about marring him and having his kids. (not now of course!) and like when i think of him ever moving away i cry! like it upsets me that much! or like if something bad would ever happen to him like say he dies.. i cry! i mean i hear ppl on here talk about love.. but i kno im in love. and with the things with my mom and how she doesnt want me to be with him cause he is black (im white) well it just makes me want to stay with him more and it makes me fall more in love with him! its like i dont care what ANYONE has to say about me and him.. i love him and i cant help it. i would do anything for him! and for me to be 15 and think like this.. well when i told my cousin about it she thought i was dumb and that i shouldnt be tied down like that. but i tried to tell her i dont want to be with no one else besides him! i want to be with him forever. and dont think im some 15 yr old girl thats talkin outta her a$$ here.. i never said this about no one and probally wont for a long long loooooong time. but im dead serious. is it ok for me to feel this way? i just want ur opinions. its not like gonna change the way i feel for him if u guys say no its not normal. but i just want to hear from you all.
thanks a bunch
Manda (link)
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hey, when your parents, or people your close to, tell you that they don't want you to be with this person, it ALWAYS makes you want them more.. i was like this before.. my parents hated the person i was with, and everytime i told them how i wanted to be with him forever, theyd try to bring me down by saying how i deserve better, but that just made me want him more cuz they didn't want me with him.. trust me, it's normal.. ((with me and him it didnt last but that doesn't mean it cant with you and this guy)).. if you love him that much and he loves you, it could mean forever but if it ends you can't just dwell on it.. it does seem like you love him, but don't get obsessive or anything.. alright bye
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Hi. Please answer. Right now my mom is going through divorce with my father. They were married 18 years and he can't find a job. My mom is paying him 1300 a month becuase he can't get a job. 'temporary living confindments' (she kept the house) is what its caused. This is making us have money problems. She travels for her job as well and I'm entering Highschool(Shes stressed) One day I was going to put something in my mom's glove compartement and I found a box of cigarettes. My grandparents were visiting and I told my grandma and so I confronted my mom. She promised not to smoke again. I took her cigarettes (we were together) and threw them out. Today I found a box of cigarettes in her glove compartement again. What should I DO? (link)
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hi.. it's your moms decision not yours.. she is a grown person and can make the decisions for herself, wether they are good or bad, but she'll deal with them.. i hated the fact that my mom used to smoke but she's an adult and can do what she wants.. after talking to her about it and telling her how easily she can get sick (like lung cancer) and die from it.. just talk to her about it and tell her all the causes about smoking, WITHOUT bringing up the fact that you know she is again.. alright.. bye!
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ok my bff just stop bein friends with her old bff her old bff hates me she always puts me dowm and makes me wanna stab her she also calls my cell and says "ur ugly im pretty u need to die gay loser biotch" wat should i do??? i really need help or it will go on forever!!!!!!!!!!! plzz help.....thanx!! (link)
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hey.. wow she is really immature.. she is saying stuff so it'll get to you and make you start to think that. but DONT start to think that. she's obviously just jealous of you, maybe because you have her old best friend. she's the immature one for calling you and saying that stuff and she seems very stuck up if she's calling you saying "your ugly im pretty" i mean really.. people these days are so fucked up! take a stand, don't let her push you around or talk shit to you. but don't stab her.. try not to even THINK about it because then you'll get it in your mind and do something stupid.. don't let her get to you! k, good luck!
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