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my friend just took my life...
Ok well last year all my dreams had come true. The guy I had feel for since I layed eyes on him 3 years ago, had finally liked me (though, we were going out or anything). I was pretty, popular... and I liked it. I wasnt conceited... I tried to act like I didnt know what people thought about me... but really I did. I heard ppl talk... I'm not stupid. Some goths said they didnt like me, some punks said I was too preppy. But I was me... and I liked it! I had my bff by my side always! The guys would usually fall for me... but it wasnt worth it, i had my eye on that one boy (from before). And now I notice that my bff was kind of my follower. I didnt mean to do it. I mean everyone knew we were bff's and we always hung out with the same people... but she didnt get as much attention from boy as me I guess. THEN something terrible happened... My middle school split up into different high schools... I didnt want this to happen at all... I loved my life, and now it was all changing!!! ANYWAYS i went to high school... and now that a year there has passed me and my bff are still friends... we have a lot of the same friends... but things are different. She's the one getting all the guys. Shes more popular because of sports and church and all. And I feel as if I'm the one following her. I hate it! Before it was perfect! my life was great! I felt so comfortable being myself! But now I feel different... I dont want to make a wrong move, I dont know what to say! I need some major help! not like 'be yourslef and everything will be great...'blah blah blah... Ive tried that... nothing changed. I just wanna be popular again! HELP ME. My friend just took my life
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Okay, well hang out with your friend and stay on her good side. Get involved in a bunch of different activities so you can meet alot of new people. Be nice to everyone, and if your trying to meet new people introduce yourself to them if they seem shy. Go for the hotties, and have fun. Go to school events like football games, cook-offs, pep rallies, to get involved and hang out with a bunch of people! You dont want to try too hard, because then people might get the wrong impression. Just have fun with it!
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well you seem to know why shes popular so do the same things. you apparently dont care about being yourself. go to church, play sports etc. become more popular then your friend and make her the follower again. thatll show her to be more popular than you!
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so just try and see what people like about the popular girls/kids and do what they do. If this doesn't help then I'm really sorry but this is the best i can do!Latas and hope you will feel better about yourself when this passes!
.::Chelsea::.
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let her have the spotlight for a change! It seems like she's been living in yur shadow the whole time, so now she needs a chance to shine. I know it suks, but rite now she's living the life u once lived, and vice versa. give it time. If yur still a good person, u'll be popular again. But dont pressure her about it. leave her alone and let her be happy. I'm sorry, it may sound mean, but i think thats the right thing to do. Hope i helped!
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Can we say selfish. Think about this, what if you were your friend would you like it if you saw your best friend get all the guys. No, so why would she. It probably won't last. Good luck!
-xXoBrianna
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Hey.. it seems like your being a little selfish. she didn't take your life, she lived hers up like you did.. she probably felt like YOU were the popular one before and everyone liekd you and now its her turn to shine.. she didnt take ur life though.. just try to be yourself and be friends with everyone.. be willing to talk to people that you usually don't... life doesnt revolve around being popular and from the movie What a Girl Wants... remember, "Why would you want to fit in, when you were born to stand out". so don't try living up to peoples expectations, be yourself, don't try and be popular.. just find the true ones.. its not about who has the most friensd, its about the ones who stayed always stayed there.. alright bye
<3 Nikki
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Sorry hun, but look at it from your friends point of view for a second.. You were the one getting all the guys last year and now she is. You were the one everyone wanted to talk to and now she is. Maybe before your life was so great but her's really sucked... Don't change yourself either to try and fit in. Honestly you should be happy for your friend and *gasp* don't try so hard to find your popularity again... If your's came and went so quick, most likely your friends will too...and just for now enjoy not being in the spotlight. Oh and keep after that one certain boy! ;-)
Hope I helped!
~Lana
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well i dont mean 2 be harsh and im sorry if u take this that way but...now ur feeling how she felt...things cant always revolve around u...give other pple and chance and be happy for her....think about it like now she feels how u felt and by ur question i cud tell u loved it...and ur friend didnt "take ur life" shes just livin it up like u did and ur still tryin 2 do....how about tell her ur happy for her and be friends with her and try and meet new pple...i just switched schools and noone here is friendly and i really wish they were...all the cliqes (sp?) have already been made...so now i have met like 3 pple....and i dont do anything witrh them cuz i still dont know them very well...and im sorry...i know u said ur not conceited but i think u r a little bit....if u werent u wudnt be this jealous of a friend that is now more popular then u and she didnt do anything 2 u!!!! try and be friends with her and meet new pple....but life doesnt revolve around bein popular...just live it up and make other friends!~!!!!!!!:]
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Well there are things you could do to make yourself popular again but do you really want to? I mean if people dont like you for who you are then there not really worth it. You shouldnt have to pretend to be someone your not just so people will like you. I dont know how old you are but you should be thinking about more important things. Not to sound "mother like" but there are more things in life then being popular. In highschool i think i had 2 boyfriends and none of them went to my school. Guys at school didnt pay much attention to me and i didnt really hang out with the "popular crowd". it somewhat bothered me at the time but now i look back and thank god i wasnt like them cause all the so called "popular" people are now dropped out of college working at mcdonalds with no life. Its not all about being popular. And trust me most of the people you are friends with in high school, you wont stay friends with that much longer after high school. Sorry this answer is so long :)
Hope I helped even if you didnt like what I had to say.
Good luck honey!
*princs
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