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Should I tell him?
Ok, I know that this is a really dumb question, but I'm gonna ask anyways.
I went out with this guy for about 5 months. We broke up for a while (about 6 months), and now we are back together.
While we were broken up, I hooked up with a friend's friend from out of town. My boyfriend doesn't know him, and there is an outside chance that they will one day meet, but I'm not all that worried about that.
For some reason which I can't explain even to myself, I feel as if I should tell my boyfriend. I don't feel guilty about the hookup, because, well, we were apart. I guess I just feel that he should know. But I don't want to mess anything up in between us.
So... to tell or not to tell... that is the question? (Sorry for the cliche, I couldn't resist.)
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i would tell him, i think he would just get jelous that it wasnt him even though you were broken up. if you have any more questions put it in my inbox ! thanks x3 becca
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It think you should tell him if you feel the need too. He shouldn't get upset anyways because you guys were apart. I don't think it would effect the relationship at all. So, go ahead and tell him! Good luck.
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You should tell! "honesty is always the policy!" he shouldnt get mad if you to were split! let me know what happens! :) hope i helped, is ya need anything else just drop in tha inbox!
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u should always be honest with ur boifriend.. u can ask him if n e thing happened while u guys were apart.. but tell him becuz there is a possibility tat sum1 will find out and then tell him n u get in trouble 4 not tellin him.. its not a big deal since u guys werent together so just tell him.. tell him u wanna b honest wit him and u want him to noe everything.. n if u tell him tat i think he'll trust u even more! gud luk xoxo angie
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i would say tell him. the biggest thing in a relationship is trust and the best thing to do is always to be open and honest about everything. You guys weren't together so it shouldnt matter that much to him.
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i think you should tell him to build trust and so that you guys have a strong relationship since you kno each other so well...if it bothers him, then you guys can talk about it - he can't be mad since you were broken up at the time
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lol you're funny! =) you don't have any reason to tell your boyfriend this, after all - you 2 weren't together the time you hooked up w/ someone else .. so it's perfectly fine. if you feel that you cheated on him - you didn't. don't worry yourself! hope i helped!
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umm it doesnt matter if you tell him or not...you two were broken up...he shouldnt care. he probably did it too!!!
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If you really think ur boyfriend should know but otherwise don't. You didn't cheat on him and who knows he might have hooked up with other girls while you two weren't going out
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If it makes u feel really guilty, is constantly on ur mind, & u truly do love him, than you should tell him...
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Nah, this situation really doesn't call for you to tell him, he will never meet the guy, and so it doesn't matter, yet the only thing is that your current b/f might not like the fact that you hooked up with him, so i'd keep it on the down low...
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Personally, I wouldn't tell him until asked. Why take a chance on upsetting him? Granted, there's nothing for him to be upset about, but he may take it the wrong way, anyway.
If your time apart were to come up in conversation and he were to ask, I think it would be the time to tell him. But not before.
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dont hide anything...relationships are about trust right? and being faithfull. Who knows he might have hooked up with some girl while you two were apart. I would tell him and if he cares about you he will understand.
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I think if it's on your mind then you should tell him, as honesty and communication are two of the most important things in a relationship. I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of or feel guilty - as you've said yourself, you weren't together at the time, so there's no real reason to hide your actions. I think he'd be more hurt by knowing you didn't feel you could be honest about something like this then the fact that you had somebody else whilst you weren't together.<p>
The way you bring up the topic is important though. If you just suddenly announce that you did see somebody else for a while, that might send him confusing signals. Try bringing up the topic of your breakup by talking about something neutral like some activity you did with your friends during the time. If he's open about talking about the time you were broken up, ask him in a non-accusitorial way if he saw anyone else then. That opens up a discussion where you can talk about what you did without "confessing" in a way that makes you sound like you have something you feel guilty about which you need to confess to. Good luck!
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maybe you shouldn't tell him. you weren't together at the time and it's really none of his business what you did while you were broken up. for all you know, he could've made out with another girl during that time. i think he should also keep that to himself if he did. why bring something in your relationship that SHOULDN'T affect it, but might if your bf takes it the wrong way.
You don't feel guilty (and shouldn't), so there is no point in telling him because there was nothing wrong with what you did
hope this helps :)
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well if u know for sure they r goin to meet sometime down the road then u should tell him..just ask him if he hooked up wit anyone while u was apart n be like well i did but make sure he knows he didnt mean anythin to u and u wouldnt cheat on him wit the boy or anythin else...dont leave any ?'s in his mind if u tell him bout the other guy...
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Hey I think you should tell him. It will be off your back and you wont feel like your hiding somthing from him. You were apart so you didnt do anything wrong. But I would just tell him to get it off your back. Good luck!
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