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Hi I am 16 f and i was raped and the guy who did it told me not to tell anyone.so i havent said a word to anyone until now but the thing is my bf wants me to have sex with him but im not ready cuz it was just recently that i was raped. should i tell someone what happend or just not say a thing and try having sex with my bf? I rate.
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and why SHOULDN'T YOU TELL???? ARE YOU GOING TO BE WALKED UPON??? ::spazzes:: get the authorities. they should do their job. and if they dont, you go over there and beat the crap out of the bastard. -_O... ok... so that wouldn't really work. but rape is a crime, so tell proper authorities.
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Okay hun, this is really a bad situation, you should go to the police, rape is a crime, also go to the doctors, make sure you didn't get an STD or if your pregnant or not. But if you are pregnant, don't get an abortion, please. Tell your boyfriend about what happened, you dont really need sex right now, you're probably scared to even do anything sexual right now. This is a really delicate situation, get help!
Hope I helped, Best wishes!
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You should tell someone... that is very serious. if you dont tell anyone this guy will be doing it to many other grlz...step up to the plate tell someone. explain it to your boyfriend and make sure you get checked for STD's who knows what the person who raped you had. Your boyfriend will understand and sure go for it have sex with him but make sure you tell somebody what happened!!
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WHAT! the first thing you should have done was told someone about it the day it happend!! and yes i have sex with your boyfriend but when your ready..but i would tell your mom and dad what happend do you can get that punk ass bitch that did that to you locked up i wouldnt care if he told you not to tell.!i hope i helped.
Thats sad im sorry about what happend to you and im also sorry if i sound rude.
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thats horrible that you were raped!!! tell someone as soon as possible!! go stright to your parents and tell them to call the police. they will help you find his fucking sick son of a bitch rapeing ass. dont have sex with your boyfriend just yet. wait until you tell your parents and call the police. then tell your boyfriend the truth, if he gets angry and worried, tell him not to hold a gruge or anything. he my try to find the guy himself. if you know who the ass-hole who calls himself human is then go STRIGHT to the police. rape is a serious crime and devastating to live with, do anything you can to get this guy landed in jail. thats a horrible disgusting thing that he did to you, invading your privacy and space. dont be afraid to tell anyone because you think he will come after you again, be strong, with your friends, boyfriend, family and police standing behind you, he cant do anything. what ever you do---> go to your parents first.
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Fuck yeah tell someone... If that mother fucker gets away with out punishment its gonna suck ass! You should probably see a doctor then have them call the police. If you have marks or cuts or anything then they have evidence and they can lock that mother fucker up!
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you honestly didnt tell anyone just because the guy who RAPED you told u not to? u just admitted it urself he raped you, meaning he forced u to do soemthing against ur will, and having sex against ur will is terrible. there must be soemthing wrong with you if didnt do anything abouth that guy, like KILL him or cut off his penis. n about ur boifren, the truth is always the way to go, tell him.
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I am so sorry to hear that. :o( but u def. need to tell someone. what that guy did to u was very wrong. as for your bf, if u are comfortable with it then tell him what happened to you, he should understand...Good Luck!
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just tell him straight up that you was rap recently
hope i helped tiffany
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Well, you definitely need to tell somebody. You're parents for one should know about this so you can get helped. You never know if you have an std or you're pregnant. You need to find this out! I'm so sorry this happened to you! Also, if you're not ready to have sex with you bf then tell him you're not ready. If he's a good bf then he'll totally understand you and wait until you are ready. I hope this helps!
Crystal
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HMM WELL LETS SEE UH YES U WANNA TELL SOEMONE AND THIS PERSON COOD BE RAPING OTHER PPL AND U MITE NO TWANN ATELL UR BOYFREND JSUT YET BUT U NEED TO TELL SOMEONE RITE NOW NOW NOW NOW
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Uh.......yeah TELL SOMEONE. if you know the person who did that to, like the name and everything, then you can tell the police. they can press charges against this guy, and probably send him to jail. raping is a very serious thing, and now you need to get him back for the wrong-doing that hes committed. tell ur bf what happened too and tell him that since this happened not so long ago, that ur not ready to have sex with him. hope everything goes well...-PA
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hun dont do anything ur not ready for. its 100% normal 4 a woman to be scared of men after rape..so its ok..do things at ur own speed. and yes tell someone! or else ull keep it all inside you and you'll let that man get away with a crime..n not just the 1 abou tthe law..but u will have let him hurt u in a way thatcant be fixed. so yes, tell someone, a shrink, ur mom, ur bf, ur best friend, anyone. im sry tht hpnd n gl hun!!
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hell yea should tell sum chicka....for 1 they guy who raped u needs to seek justice and for two u need to tell ur bf so he understands why u r not ready...and grl...if he kant wait untyll ur ready to have sex...well dump him....other dicks n other pantzzz love ash...anymore problems juss email me ...look at mi advive colomn ....love ash
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Tell someone, your parents, you probably dont want to tell anyone so there are hotlines you can call or just tell someone you know wont tell anyone. you dont have to tell your bf, but you should go to the doctors if he raped you with out protection, you could have any std or be pregnant. tell your bf your not ready unless you want to
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what i'de do is probably tell some1. usually when some1 says not 2 tell ne1 thats when u need 2 tell some1 bc thats when they're afraid some1 will find out. and tell ur bf ur not ready or thats when ur worst mistakes will start.
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if u were raped,you should tell sumbody!!even though he told u not 2 u shuld. he only told u not to so he wouldnt get charged! u need to tell somebody so u can press charges and so u can keep him from raping other girls!!!
hope i helped and good luck,Niki Lyn (plz rate)
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so just because he told you not to open your mouth and tell someone that he raped you, youre not? me being a victim of rape, i advise you to tell someone about it. and get help. because in the long run, being raped will definitely mess you up mentally.
and if you dont want to have sex with your boyfriend, then dont. if he gets upset, then fuck him
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You have to tell someone about it, I'd start with your boyfriend and then probably your parents or a school counselor. You can't hide these things or the guy won't have to face the consequences and may do it to you again or even to another girl. This will probably take a long long time to get over, tell your boyfriend and he will understand and help you through it.
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You should definatly tell someone what happened. It doesnt matter what the idiot who raped you said, tell what he did to you so that he wont do it to someone again. You should tell your mom so she can help you contact the police and get that guy arrested. You dont neccisarily have to tell your boyfriend. Just tell him you dont want to have sex. You should really tell the police so that they can still arrest the guy who raped you, If you dont he is going to get off with this horrible crime.you didnt do anything wrong, the guy who raped you is the only one who did anything and definaltly deserves to be punished.
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personally if i were you i would tell someone about the rape...he cant threaten you...it's against the law and he could go to jail...i had a friend that was raped and she didnt tell anyone except for me...it was hard for me because i knew she needed to tell someone but i couldnt tell anyone because it didnt happen to me...you should tell someone soon...the sooner the better...if you wait you will lose all of your evidence in your body of him entering it...it also helps to talk about it as well...helps you to get things off your chest...if i were you i would go to your mom or a guidance teaacher in your school...i promise...it'll help you(get over it) and it will also help prevent this from happening to someone else...hope this helps...lemme know if it does!!!
love always...
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p/s you should also have a talkw ith you're boyfreiend and tell him you had just gone through...let him no the facts and tell him you're not ready...doing iot so soon after being raped could hurt you in the long run...and another thing is it could mess up the evidence that you have with the rapist because they will say that you hve had sex several times before...and u dont want to do that...and one more thing!!!! never ever ever ever blame yourself for what he did to you!!! it wasnt you're fault it was his...you said no and no means no!!!! just remember it's not your fault
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No, tell someone, if it's recent there may still be evidence against this guy, and don't have sex with your boyfriend yet you just went through something no girl should have to and that might add to the stress. But DEFINATLY tell.
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2 of my friends were raped..one of them told a counsler and she is doing much better now. something so tradgic as that can scar u for life. try telling someone in ur family or a neighbor even a friend. and then u take him to court because what he did wasnt right at all. if u want to have sex with ur bf go right ahead.. but tell someone about what happened.. hope i helped hunny!
xOx* kandiie
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Screw what that guy told you to do. He raped you! Does that seem like the type of person who you keep secrets for. You need to tell your parents or someone and get his ass in trouble! And let your boyfriend know what happened to you so he can understand that it is not him who is turning you off, it is the fact that you have been through a tramatizing situation. he will understand. But go tell someone! That guy took advantage of you, don't let him get away with it.
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Omg hun that is horrible! You need to tell! The guy that raped you can go do it to someone else! You really need to get the guy behind bars! I think you need to also tell your boyfriend what happened so he can understand why you're not willing to have sex yet! he will understand i promise and he will be there to comfort you all the way!! But you really need to tell someone and get checked out to make sure that You dont have anything wrong! Please you will be doing everyone a favor if you tell! you have to. I hope everything gets better and I wish you the best of luck. A lot of weight will be lifted off your sholders if you tell! Good luck hunny!
-holly-
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