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Wiccan friend... or about to be
I have a friend who's about to be initiated into Wicca. I know what Wicca's about, and that's mainly why I've been hoping he wouldn't. He's getting initiated on Saturday, and I'm really worried. Is there anything I can do to talk him out of it in five days?!?
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... horrible.
just, horrible.
thats all i have to say.
blessed be.
Jenna
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Why talk him out of it? It is his decision.
~Nokomis~
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Nope. And deal with it. It's understandable that you're worried about his soul rotting and burning in eternal hellfire, but he's chosen his own path (and, by the way, Wiccans don't believe in hell) and you should be happy for him. It's his life and he's made the decision he thinks is best for him. (By the time I'm answering this, it's probably already happened, but maybe I can soothe your worries a bit.) Talk to him about his religion. He's NOT going to ask you to go sacrafice animals with him. It's best to learn and accept.
Blessed be,
crystalomnia
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Freaky. I would tell him how you feel about it and what you know about it and that he should take more time to think about it-trix
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HEY! i feel offneded! I'm a wiccan! *lol* but seriously, who explained to you what the craft was about? b4 you try and stop him, read up on the craft and the catholic church, the ceremonies between the 2 aren't so different, i don't mean to offend you, and if you are offended, i'm deeply sorry, i don't mean to, but the craft is one of the oldest religions, older than christianity, so its easy to misunderstand it. we are not satanists, and whatever you've seen in the movie, "The Craft", forget about, that ain't true. but you also have to respect your friends wishes, you don't have to agree, but if thats what he really wants, don't interfere, and i'm not just taking his side, but hes your friend and you have to love him and be there for him.
Much Love,
Victoria
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Don't try to talk him out of it. Wicca is a wonderful religion. Learn to accept it -- you might learn something.
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Why are you so against wicca? It's just another religion such as buddism, islam, christianity, etc. if you dont know what it's about, talk to him. figure out why he wants to be a part of this religion and what it's about. if you still have some concerns, tell him, but don't attempt to control his choice. A spiritual decision of one cant be made by others.
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Instead of talking him out of it, accept it and be happy he's found a religion that suits him. Some people search their whole lives to find the right one. If you don't approve of it, don't talk about it.
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What do you think Wicca is about? Although your friend could be into some shady branch of Wicca I think you need to talk to him/ her and find out what Wicca is to them before you get all emotional about this. Get the facts from your friend. Don't go all crazy over rumours and second hand information.
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One, its not really your place to decide what relgion he should be. Why don't you want him to become wiccan. Witch craft and wicca aren't the same, and if you know about wicca, then you will know that even if he were to progress to being a witch, they have, for want of a better trem, laws against harming others throught witchcraf. Or maybe is it becuse you are a christan and don't want him to go to hell for being a pagan?
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What on earth is wrong with Wiccanism? I love Wicca, I think it is a wonderful religion, and I have always wondered what the problem people seem to have with it is. But there are alot of misconceptions about it out there, so maybe that is what you are thinking of.
It is not your place to talk him out of his personal beliefs, no more than it is his to talk you out of yours, so back off or be prepared to deal with him being hurt and angry that you would meddle in something so personal and important for him.
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I am wiccan and i just want to let you no that it is not what it is made out to be it is just confront him and tell him how you feel and get him to explain it to you
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Why pressure him into believing something he is obviously for is wrong? At least he believes in something. What he believes in shouldn't harm your friendship. One of my few friends I've met in high school is an atheist. He's nicer than most Christians I know. Never down-look someone because of religion.
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i've said this to so many people: don't change for anyone. if it was your friend asking for advice on this matter, that's what i'd say to him. nobody should have to change anything about themsleves just because someone doesn't like it. that's how they are, and that's how they should stay. people can grow into a more mature person or whatever, but they're not gonna change overnight. don't expect them to... good luck...
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if he ASKS for your OPINION...nicely tell him you're opinion. talk about it. dont get hysterical or try to talk him out of it...but just talk to him ABOUT it.
other then that, it's not ur life. he's not going off and becoming an ax muderer...just chill and let him live his life.
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I would support him, because it might not be as bad as you heard.
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well i shouldn't really reply to this but i'm a wicca also and i think if someone wants to be a wicca that's great because we do not belive in the devil or evil we're all good not evil so if he's getting into the evil wicca then try as hard as possible to get him out if not just let him do what he needs to.
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Why would you want to? Assuming it's standard wiccan faith, it's probably one of the gentler religions out there, certainly less rigid and hypocritical than any of the christian faiths around. The only reason it's percieved as anything that should be avoided is because it's portrayed that way in church influenced western media. Live with it, or live without your mate.
BTW - before you go making judgements, I suggest you actually do go find out twhat it's about. If you actually knew, I doubt you'd have asked this question.
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I've learned the hard way throughout life that you just can't change people who don't want to be changed. Tell him what you know, and what your concerns are, but that's really all you can do. I mean, really, really, REALLY try to convey your concern...but don't be too surprised if he doesn't see things your way immediately.
On the flip side, try to understand why he is attracted to Wicca in the first place; just to see where he's coming from. There are many things out there that are worse than Wicca (like the Ku Klux Klan) that he could be attracted to...so keep that in mind also.
The most important thing is to do all you can to not abandon him as a friend...in spite of his extracurricular activities...as long as they pose no direct threat to you. Perhaps this is a phase, and he'll get tired of it anyway. But ultimately, you can't control other people, and you often get disappointed when you try to.
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Honestly, no matter how little you like it, it's not your place to talk him out of it. Furthermore, attempts to talk him out of it are likely to make him even more determined to be initiated. Basically, you have little to no power in this situation. Your friend is obviously old enough to make his own decisions. It's somewhat of an insult to him to take that right away from him.
You can let him know your opinion- nicely! Once that's been done, you're out of the loop.
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It's none of your business. Seriously. It's his life to lead. Unless he waves a smudge stick around you, back off.
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Why would you want to talk him out of it? It is his choice, and besides, there is NOTHING wrong with being wiccan. It is a peaceful, nature/earth centred religion, and there is no reason to talk him out of it.
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