Right. First off, I'm a guy, 18 years old, and I live in Australia. I'm going into this whole thing with a fairly simple policy - be brutally honest and avoid all that schmanzy crap. Tell it like it is says I.
Gender: Male
Location: Australia
Occupation: Student
Age: 18
Member Since: October 24, 2003
Answers: 24
Last Update: November 14, 2003
Visitors: 2076
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Me and my best freind really like eacother alot. We have a history of 'relationships' in the past, but it was middle school, and I don't really count it...But anyways, back to the present. He was my date to homecoming (which was a month ago) and at the dance, he told me he still liked me. Well, i've always liked him, so i thought everything would be cool and work out. A week passes by and he says nothing. I confront him, and he tells me he wants to wait for his license. Well, he now has his license, and has for a week. But he still hasent done anything. He acts like he likes me, and I'm posotive he does, but i'm tired of waiting. Hes told all his friends (mostly girls, that ask him whats going on between us) that he was going to ask me out this week, but guess what? HE HASENT. What should I do? (And no, I dont want to be the one to ask him out) Thank you! (link)
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Go it yourself. That kinda stuff's hard for guys, especially with friends. Chatting up/asking out an almost stranger is much easier than a friend, as there's no fear of any great loss should things go awry.
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well, i'm in grade seven and i'm the one outsider in my grade. i'm the one wearing the black makeup, etc. I really like this person alot and i know about at least 6 other girls that like him as well. me and him like most of the same things, hate the same things and we really get along great i know he's "the one"....or at least i think he is. i've always been very opposed to men and this is the first time i've ever liked any guy. what should i do to show him how i feel? and while i'm asking questions, how can i make some people take me seriously? most people know i'm crazy, fun, outgoing but some just don't take what i say seriously. (link)
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Grade Seven? As in, 12 years old? So you're a 12 year old goth with relationship problems? WTF?
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I've been living on my own for a while but now I'm thinking about moving in with a girl I work with, because frankly I'm bored living on my own. Will I get sick of the roommate thing really fast or what? Before I always thought roommates where what you got if you couldn't afford to live alone... I can afford it, I'm just lonely. (link)
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Go it. Flatties Own.
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there are two boys that i love dearly, but my heart aches deeply. one of them is something i have always wished for and everything my parents could want. but the other boy is everything i have never known and wish to know. he is everything i have told myself i am against since i am a small child. do i follow my heart and go with this boy, or my head that is telling me what i know is right? (link)
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Honestly... Could yo get more Cliched?
Go find a quote in almost any Romantic Comedy/Disney movie/whatever. That'll sort you out.
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i hope i put this in the right category... anyhoo, here's my situation...
i know this guy (we're friends, but not close) and i THINK he 'likes' my friend, but i'm not sure. he's pretty friendly with everyone, and it may just be me being paranoid, but i think he's being kinda flirty with her. AND i think she's being that way back to him. now my friend has never been out with anyone before but i think they both 'like' each other, and i'm not sure i like what's happeneing. how do you tell if a guy really likes someone or if that's just their nature? what does everyone think? what would you do if you were in my shoes? (link)
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Leave 'em alone. If you set 'em up, and it works, you're a legend. If it doesn't, it's going to be 100% entirely your fault. If you really feel the need to meddle, make a descision and suggest (ie. apply pressure) to one or the other, either the one you know the best, and so will forgive you if things screw up, or the one whos friendship you can afford to lose.
Or just let them deal with it. People _do_ occasionally work things out for themselves you know...
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my ex and i are very good friends and i have found a new boyfriend. let's call my ex "Chicken" we are very comfortable and open with eachother so i told him about the new guy in my life, who i shall call "Squishy". after, Chicken was very quiet then asked if i love Squishy. What does this mean? he won't tell me. (link)
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Probably nothing more than basic male genetic assertiveness. It takes a lot of work to win a female. You lose that mate, no matter what the reasson, you're subconsciously going to be jealous of whoever picks her up.
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Ok, I'll TRY to make this brief. There's this really great guy that's in my tech class and we've become pretty good friends. He's so sweet and really funny. He's a junior and I'm a sophmore. I've told him that I like him a while ago and he said that he just got out of a 3 year relationship and is "checking out the scenery". But lately he seems more interested. He jokes w/ me more, we've gone to a movie w/ 2 of my other friends, he always smiles and says HI in the halls, at my Halloween party he licked whipped creme off my chest, he hugs me goodbye (he gives the best hugs), and he's always really polite to me. The thing is though, he could just be a really friendly guy. Could he have changed his mind about not wanting a GF? Does he like me? I really like him and would LOVE to go out with him. I've been patient for a while but I don't want to wait forever. What's going on? Is this going anywhere?
Thanks for any advice, and sorry for the length! (link)
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I'm friendly with pretty much every girl I know. I say hi when I see them, tell jokes etc. and there's probably very little I wouldn;t lick off a good looking girls chest. Doesn't mean I really feel anything, that's just me. That said, if you feel the time is right, give it a shot. You'll just kick yourself otherwise.
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The musical director at my theatre company has asked everyone who plays an instrument to bring it with them to the next rehearsal. I travel to rehearsals on the bus so I'm not sure whether I should. The cello doesn't belong to me but to the County music service although the case is my own( it's a hard case at least). The cello is on my Household Insurance.
Do you think I should bring it or not? I have been specifically asked to bring it because there is a shortage of bass instruments. (link)
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Course you should. Give other bus commuters a thrill with an impromptu concert on the way.
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My boyfriend is physically incapable of selecting decent movies for us to watch together. I keep trying to coach him on it ("okay honey, now see, this is another lame flic about rich people killing for more money...") but it's not working. He just doesn't understand the words "pick out something intellectual". I end up chosing most of the movies myself now but it'd be really nice if I could just say, "Pick something up on the way here and we'll watch it" when I'm feeling lazy. Got any tips on how to make him get it? Is this a sign that he's just not right? (link)
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What could possibly be more intellectual that rich people killing for money?
Erm 0 go try renting Fatherland. It's both intellectual, and about nazis. Might not fix your problem, but it's a damned good movie.
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ok i'm a teenager and least year i almost commited suicide over a guy i really liked and this year i've been thinking about my father (i have never met him andi really want to know more about him and accually meet him) and my mother will not tell me anything and earlyer today i was ready to write a couples of letters to my family and friends saying how much i love them and stuff like that nad i was ready to take a couples of different strong pills and kill myself but then i stopped and called up the guy i almost killed myself over and i asked him what he thinks other people and himself would feel if i killed myself or died and he said that he would be really upset cuz we went out a couple of times and we've been in each others lives for a long time and he said that he wouldn't know what to do with out me but i don't know i just can't handle all this so someone please tell me what i should do cuz i just feel like takin my life (link)
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Don't be a coward. Face your problems like everyone else. Everybody goes through tough spots - only the weak take the pathetioc opotion of ending their entire life because they can't face difficulties in their situation. The very fact that you're poting this here tells me you have second thoughts. I mean, what do you think we're going to say? "Go ahead, pull the trigger?" Bullshit. You don't want to do it. Grab ahold of that, and don;t let go. go, talk to someone, someone you can see and hear and touch. Go take a walk. Forget your problems, and think bout what you'd really be giving up.
Frankly, your problems dont sound all that bad. If you were getting beaten every day, or starved or tortured you'd have a case, but other people? Who gives a fuck what they think? Think you'll be able to meet your dad through John fucking Edward? If nothing else, live for your father. Live for life itself. Don't take the cowards way out.
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so I got a little drunk at last weekend's halloween party (okay, more than a little, but that's another issue) and did some stupid funny stuff (okay, more stupid than funny but whatever). The problem now is that everyone in my office knows and keeps coming around... "feelin' alright, steph?" and all that. It is so not cool. Is there anything I can do to stop the gossip, or do I never get to live this down? Got any witty comebacks for me for when everyone's making fun of my oh-so-exciting performance? (link)
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Nope. Depending on the severity of you're stupidity, chances are you'll never live it down. There is, however, something you can do that should shunt attention off you for awhile. Wait a few months, and get everyone else _really_ drunk at the christmas/new years partys. Hopefully, by January 1, you'll be yesterdays news.
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I have a friend who's about to be initiated into Wicca. I know what Wicca's about, and that's mainly why I've been hoping he wouldn't. He's getting initiated on Saturday, and I'm really worried. Is there anything I can do to talk him out of it in five days?!? (link)
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Why would you want to? Assuming it's standard wiccan faith, it's probably one of the gentler religions out there, certainly less rigid and hypocritical than any of the christian faiths around. The only reason it's percieved as anything that should be avoided is because it's portrayed that way in church influenced western media. Live with it, or live without your mate.
BTW - before you go making judgements, I suggest you actually do go find out twhat it's about. If you actually knew, I doubt you'd have asked this question.
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why do people get big fancy liquid cooling systems for their PCs? Is it really because they're overclocking like mad and must have state-of-the-art cooling at all costs, or do they just want it to look cool with their neon lights and window kits? (link)
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Depends - sometimes it's for both even. My brothers CPU temperature can reach 50 C, and that's in winter - much hotter, and stuff starts to break.
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I'm not a full-on vegetarian, but I try not to eat a whole lot of meat. Frankly I just don't think it's healthy, and I don't like depending on it. The problem is that everyone around me... my family, my boyfriend, etc. is of the opinion that unless you're poor or sick, you must consume meat at every meal or it's just not a meal. When I offer to cook black bean casserole or vegi pizzas, they're just like, "that's great... and what else?"
How do I get them out of this mindset that vegetables aren't "real food"? (link)
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Well, just FYI, eating meat is healthy, and the most convenient way to obtain certain essential nutrients in our body. Unless you're careful to vary your diet, and put in lots of nuts and eggs and dairy products and the like, you could run into trouble.
As for convincing others, sorry to say it, but you probably wont. I'm yet to be convinced by anybody that vegetarianism is the way to go, and, though I know plenty of vegetarians, I don't really know too many who've been "converted" through an outside force - they either had to decide for themselves, or they were just brought up that way. But hey, if it's the way you are/want to be, then that's the way it's going to be for you. If you do decide to keep trying however, tread carefully. Forcing anything - vegetarianism included - on someone is always going to piss them off, and the definition of what is and isn't forcing varies from person to person. So watcxh your step :).
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I have to do an egg drop for school using only rubber bands, straws, two 20oz soda bottles, two empty toilet paper rolls, glue, masking tape, twist ties, copy paper, and a manilla folder. We aren't allowed to use parachutes, it's only allowed to be 40cm x 40cm x 40cm, and it can't weigh more than 100 g (without the egg). My knowledge base on physics is very limited and I've been looking up websites on egg drops but none of them are very helpful. Any suggestions? (link)
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Damn! I'm certain I'm too late for this, but I know the very best way to make this happen. Did you ever make those little paper helicopters? You get a bit of paper, cut a slit from the top to about half way down, fold the pieces in opposite directions, put a weight on the bottom and drop it. It twirls around as it falls and goes slower than a standard drop. This is what you need to do. Your rotors will obviously have to be bigger, and reinforced with something, and you will need padding around the base, or some stilts or something to absorb the shock, but it's the rotors that do it. This is the way I did it in year 10, and I won the Egg Drop.
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I have been going out with this boy for 4 mnths and i really care about him. I feel like everything thats going wrong in school or home i take it out on him and he will think i'm acting to bitchy and i'm scared of him breaking up with me. what should i do? (link)
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Umm... stop maybe?
Depending on his personality, he's either shrugged it off as a personality quirk, or he's startng to get really pissed off at this point.
A lot of it will depend on how, ah... happy he is in the relationship. Given that you're (presumably) both at school (Not university I'm assuming) this will depend on a lot of stuff, so basically, err, stop unloading onto him.
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I'm a girl, and I kinda like to bake stuff, because hey, it means I get desert. My question is this: I work with all guys. If I bake cookies or something and bring them into work, are the guys going to stop feeling like I'm "one of them" and start seeing me as this betty crocker homemaker type? We're all pretty laid back now, on the same level and everything, I don't want it to get weird. (link)
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First off, chances are they don't see you as one of the guys anyway. I don't get why chicks always want to be "one of the guys" anyway. Do you see any guys wanting to be "One of the Girls"? Actually.... take that back... do you see any straight guys who want that? No. So, live with your gender.
As for the image, if I was getting fresh, free biscuits, I wouldn't care who made them. If they get too common, you will be seen as a big homemaker type, or at least someone with some serious personality dichotomy. It's allabout balance, and, as has been said, presentation.
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So I was walking this evening and I accidently stepped into some kerosene. I just shrug it off and keep walking with my jazz hands lookin' all cool when this guy runs by and yells "That building is on fire!" So I start running towards it all like "yeah, who's your hero now?" with my jazz hands, looking cool. I get next to the firy part and my shoes are on fire randomly. Now I'm on a laptop someone gave me. What should I do?! (link)
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Wheeeee! Fire!
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I have a full time job, required to pay the bills, and would like to complete a meaningful degree before I die. What is the best course of action to land me a degree as a personal accomplishment? (link)
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Do something arty or philisophical part time. It's deep and meaningful, most of the homework involves thinking or drawing or whatever, and hard to do wrong - it's just your personal interpretation after all...
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my sister and I went to the swimming pool and when we got back she was like 'I WAN In tHE SHOWER FIRST!!!" so I let her take a shower first, and while she was in there I didn't know what to do then I remembered I hadn't played the piano for a while. so I sat down and played the piano. but I was still wet and had my swimsuit on. so I get up and on the piano bench, which is wood, there's this raised warped part where it's kinda lighter color and it's EXACTLY the shape of my BUTT and you can see where my thighs were and everything! I tried to dry it but it won't go away. I'm really freaking out because my mom will be home in a few hours and I don't know what to do! (link)
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What in the hell do you have in your pool? My advice...avoid swimming in there for a decade or two...
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