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I love having bare feet and walking on wooden surfaces, marble floors, and carpets, crunching the leaves between my toes, they are painted orange for the autumn and right now because it is getting cold, I am tucking them into suede, gray, kneehigh boots. i am a mother, sister, daughter, wife, and friend. i love reading, sewing, crocheting, writing, walking my dog, and photography, right now I am into the books, A game of thrones by George rr martin and waiting to watch the tv series when it comes out on dvd. I love Neil Gaiman. and my dog is waiting now to go for a walk, so I will be back later....
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i have 2 guy cousins that are both 11. they always say really mean about me and normally i try to ignore it, but earlier we were at their grandma's (my great aunt) 80th birthday party. it was a big deal for everybody, so i thought they would leave me alone for her special night. we were taking pictures as a family, and they wouldn't stop saying really mean stuff to me. it was really embarrassing because my older cousins were also around too. i kept asking them to be nice because it was a really important night for their grandma. they were just like "we have to be nice to grandma but not you". i lost my temper and hit one of them and my aunt saw. everybody started yelling at me. i know what i did was wrong and i shouldn't have hit him, but no one said anything to my cousins to stop. later, one of my great aunts told me the same thing that i told them! and then my mom yelled at me. i understand what i did was wrong and i apologized for it but they didn't even get in trouble. and it didn't stop either. it got worse the whole night and they kept embarrassing me in front of everybody. they always do this to me and they even turned my brother against me too. and when their parents actually hear the stuff they say to me, they try to discipline them but all it serves to do is get them to hate me even more. i'm trying really hard to be christian like about the whole thing. i've even tried talking to people about it and avoiding them. but in cases like the one earlier, its really hard to stand there and let them talk so badly about me. what are some things i could do about them when i have to be around them? any answers (preferably something a good christian would do) are appreciated :)
It sounds like you are a very nice person. They are boys and they are quite happy with the respond they are getting from you. It sounds like they like to get you upset and in trouble with the adults in the family. I would try this, next time one of them insults you respond with a "thank you" even if it is a mean thing they are saying, see they will be confused and wonder why you are thanking them, they will see that it does not bother you and hopefully they will stop doing it. If they respond with another insult tell them, " I love you" keep this up with all the positive comments you can come up with and they will grow tire. The adults will be proud of you for not stooping to their level. Remember Love does concur all. Keep love in your heart and remember they are just boys and boys think things like that are funny and they are just having fun after all. Maybe they want your attention, so find a board game to play or something you can all do as a group to keep busy and to keep them busy.
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I used to have kind of bad acne but it recently has cleared up. However on my forehead I still have like post acne bumps. I'm not sure how to get rid of them. I am taking good care of my skin now by washing it 2x a day and using a good moisturizer. I even put a little antibiotic ointment on the bumps for a few days but they seem not to go away. Help? Don't have the money to visit a dermatologist.
You can visit your regular doctor and he can prescribe something for your acne.
Im a 24 yr old female and ive worked for a security company for 7 months now. my boss is a 28 yr old male. Since ive started, my co workers tell me that im the only one he talks to about non work related things. He always tries to make me laugh and people say they feel chemestry when we r talking. on new yrs eve i ran into him at a bar at midnight and we ended up talking for over an hour until we were kicked off the patio due to bar close. the next day at work he came up to me very smiley and embaresed and asked how big of an ass did he make of himself. followed by hes worried about what i thought of him after that. he was worried because he felt he kept me there cuz he kept blabbing. for him to come out as everyone left the area and say "im more worried about what u thought of me" is like whoa! i no im an adult but secretly i have had the hots for him but avaiod relationships at work. we are very professional people but the feelings cant be stopped im starting to think. So would this mean he is interested in me and tried to hint it to me?
oh boy, girl, open your eyes, usually if all your co-workers think that he likes you then he does. If you are interested, ask him out to a movie or for a coffee. He may feel that because he is your boss, he should not ask you out. You should find out what the companys work rules are for dating co-workers, but you would not be the first person to date their boss. Most relationships start at the work place. I would talk to him about work dating relationships and see what he says about it. Also, you have to think about the future, what if you start dating and you end up not liking eachother. Where would you go to work? Think of an x boyfriend working at your place of work and having to see him everyday. Then again you could end up married and he could be the love of you life. Of course, if you don't take the chance you will never know.
there was this one girl who worked at the tutor lab at my college. I used to get help from her a lot, she's the type of girl I really like. I really wanted to be her friend but I was too scared to talk to her now she's not there anymore and I am so sad, I wish I had talked to her more and really wanted to be her friend just like other people I know did. I am so miserable and mopey. Any helpful tips in making myself feel better?
so, you had a crush on this girl, and she didn't run. She was friendly and helped you. Next time you feel a connection with someone, ask them out, don't miss your next chance. I don't know how old you are but you say you are in college, so ask her out for a coffee and get to know her better. You could ask her out to a movie, or to a lecture or concert or theatre play at your college. Don't miss your next opportunity. ask your friends that are dating how they met and where they went on their first dates and maybe that will give you some ideas. If you are too shy, ask your friends girlfriends or sister how to talk to a girl, maybe they can practice helping you to be able to talk with girls. Always say Hi to people that you meet, that shows you are open and friendly. Take little steps at a time, but taking no steps will leave you with another girl that got away.
15f here. Well let's just start off with this I'm not attractive. I'm a little overweight nag I keep gaining more. I have never had a boyfriend/first kiss. The closest I've got with a guy was 2010 summer but we just randomly stopped talk ing no reason why. I allways blame myself for that I should have took more chances. I miss just talking about random stuff with a boy its nice to know someone cares. I'm not happy and I want to be friends with more guys. I still have feelings for that one guy but I do like other people but not As much as him. I act sorta tough. I allways feel like I'm wasting my life alone.noone understands my life style. I never asked to be like this. I'm not a bad person but I feel like I am bc I'm allways bringing myself down. I just want to be that same old happy girl who is courageous and brave. I try so hard to not care what others think.
You can be more! Have you ever thought that? You sound like you are unhappy with your looks and weight. If you are not happy with yourself, than you can't be happy with other. I think that you should take some time to work on yourself. Take a gym class, go for walks, ride a bike. Find things to keep you active. Find a hobbie, and do some excersize to get your body in better shape. Go to a spa/mall where you can get a makeover and see how pretty you can be! Mall makeup shoppes will show you how to apply makeup that is right for you, go to a hair stylist and get a new hair style. I think one you realize you can improve yourself, lose a few pounds and feel better about yourself then your relationships will flourish.
I've been dating my boyfriend for a year. Over the course of the relationship we've generally been happy, but have had our ups and downs. Sometimes (i guess due to being in contact 24/7) i feel as if i almost take him for granted in a way and start to get REALLY fed up with him. Lately i just feel like he says something that offends me every day, and he's kind of being insensitive towards me. I feel like I'm partially taking things too personally since I've just been annoyed with him in general. I think it's a little bit of both of us. This has happened before and it always goes away within a few weeks or less, but right now, Im not sure how to handle it. He's driving me up a wall and talking to him the last week has been less than pleasant. I've brought up so many things that have irked me in the last few days that I'm pretty sure he's done taking me seriously. How should i deal with this?
ps. we took a break a few months ago, and everything was AMAZING right after because of the whole "you want what you cant have". now its kind of settled out and i want to feel like he needs me the way i need him
I think you have answered your own question, I hear you saying: REALLY fed up, offended, insensitive, annoyed, driving me up the wall, less than pleasant, irked... to me it doesn't sound like you need him, so why would you want him to need you? I am really surprised that he is staying in such an insensitive relationship with you. You have not had a kind word to say about this boyfriend. Relationships do have there ups and downs but not in the first year and it sounds like you haven't even made it through a whole year. I think you should do the both of you a favor and call it off now. If you want someone to love you, you should love them in return.
ok im 13 f and i really want a new wardrobe because ive been starting to stop wearing hollister and aeropostel and start moving on to like forever 21 wet seal etc. so i really want more clothes but my mom thinks i have enough clothes but i really want newer clothes since mostly all my shirts say hollister and aero and stuff like that. but she still will say no but i really want to have a better style and not as boring especially for winter? what are some ways i can get her to get me newer clothes and go shopping??
Try doing some chores around the house and see if you can get some baby sitting jobs to make money to buy your own clothes. Your Mom may feel better paying for some of your clothes if you make an effort to get a job and buy them yourself. Get a job walking the neighbors dog, or dog sitting. Ask your mother what you can do to earn money.
I'm a 14 year old female and I have terrible acne. Its all over my face and at random times. I have very pale skin so every little thing is very noticeable. By the end of the school day I look so oily its disgusting. Home remedies? Products? HELP pleasee I'm so embarrassed.
This is a normal part of being a teenager. You need to go to a skin doctor and he will be able to help you control your acne. Look for a dermatologist in your area, ask your friends and family if they have any recommendations as most of us have had to visit one at some time in our lifes. Over cleaning can make it worst. Use a cream from the drug store that will dry your skin at nite when you go to bed. Ask at your drug store for a nite cream to help dry up your acne and they will recommend one for you.
well both my grandparents died last week and i missed five days of school... im a freshman and im 15.ive made good grades most of my life without tryin much but now im in advanced and im flunking like 3 classes and handing in blank papers. it seems since then i just go and fuck everything up now.i cant study, cant drum anymore, cant write songs, can barelt tlk to people without pissing them off or saying something stupid. i just dont care anymore and ive lost all confidence and self esteem.. i just all out hate myself. i went to my dad to get a pep talk but all he did was call me lazy and told me i suck so that didnt help any. i cant even look in the mirror without hating what i see look back at me. please help me , if i keep this up i could ruin my life or something. i just want to feel whole again
First of all I am sorry about the loss of you grand parents, this is a very hard time for you. You need to give yourself time to grieve. But soon you will feel better. Five days out of school is a long time, you may need to get a tutor to help you back on track. You should go to your school guidance counselor and tell them what has happened and see what kind of help they have to offer you. Right now you can't do all of the things you usually do because you are grieving. It's ok to take some time off and just feel your emotions, but try and stay on track at school as you don't want to fall farther behind. Your Dad sounds like he has some problems of his own, I am sorry you cannot find the love and support that you need in him, this is sad. You need to find someone who treats you with respect, love and care at this time in your life. In time you will feel better, this is all a normal part of grieving. Find someone you can trust and who respects you to talk to. Schools and churches offer these services.
I'm fifteen and I have a crush on this boy. He's really handsome, and many people have crushes on him. But then I saw his best friend and I'm like, "Okay, they are both adorable." So now I like his best friend (and him of course). But, just yesterday, I bumped into his other best friend, who used to be my best friend. He smiled at me and I just noticed then how striking his smile was. Now I like the three of them. Is there a problem here?
No, there is no problem, you just have a crush on boys. Give yourself time to get to know them, appearances are not everything, you may find that you like one of them more than the others once you talk to them, find out there interests and what you have in common.
I am a junior and I am in the agriculture career in my high school. We recently got a new teacher that is very strict and expects a lot from my class. Since freshman year, my class has had two different teachers haven't taught us ANYTHING about agriculture... So now we have this new teacher that is very motivated. Anyways he assigned a project. We have to create an animal production unit, for example, a slaughterhouse or an egg production facility. I have no idea what we're supposed to do because he didn't tell us specifics. All he said was "create a production unit, on poster, a model, or a trifold. It all has to be to scale." we have to write about our production unit and actually model it. It's due Thursday and it counts as 300 points... But no one in my class doesn't know what we're doing!!! Should I just bullshit the project or not even bother?!
You should definately contact your teacher and tell him that you do not understand the project, so should your classmates. To not bother does not tell the teacher that you don't understand, it tells the teacher that you are not interested in following his directions. Has he shown any samples of what your project should be like, maybe he has samples.
I have a boyfriend, we've been going out for a year and I've been noticing he's been acting different like lets say one of his friends said something rude shit to me and he was there and he didn't say anything to him, but when someone is talking shit to him, he expects me to defend him. I always do defend him though. There was one time i didn't say anything when this guy said something insulting to him and i expected him to say something back, but no he didn't say anything O.o and he got mad at me I've also notice that he gets angry when i hang out with my brothers whom I'm very close with. I hang with him and his friends and he would pull me aside and tell me that he doesn't like a certain person in our group because he thinks he likes me or some bull shit. Then at the end of the day he is buddy buddy with him. O.o Isn't that what you call a two face? I don't know, like I don't think i should try to make this work. He pretty much went over the line when he gets mad at me for hanging with family? Think i should ditch the guy?
Yes you should, anyone who already is trying to separate you from your family is trying to control you. He sounds very insecure. If he doesn't like your friends and family now, imagine how it will be if you marry this guy. I would tell him for now you just want to be friends.
So I have been dating this guy for about a month and everything has been going great. We text at least once or twice a day , hang out atleast 3 times a week, and have gone on tons of dates but we made plans to hang out 3 days ago and he said he had a really bad day at work and didnt want to hang out but we would hang out another time. Then he said he would give me a call the next day. That was 3 days ago and I have still to hear back from him. Does this mean its over? Should i text him? I usually would never worry over a guy but everything just seemed to be going so great i dont undersatnd why he could just not give me the slightest thought to atleast send me a text.
thanks, your advice means a lot
No, don't text him, give him some time. Go out with your girlfriends and keep yourself busy. Let him know that you can give him space and that you too have a life of your own. He will be more interested in what you are doing and why you haven't called and think he is missing something, hopefully you!
so me and m boyfriend have been together for about a year. we dont live together. I'm in college and was using his laptop to catch up on some homework while he was at work when i was typing something into the top and it came up with past history of him looking at hot sex nude videos among other things. im not sure how i should respond. i feel like i should be upset and angry or am i just over reacting?
This is quite normal boy behavior. but only you would know how you feel about it. You need to talk with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel.
so lately ive been being more like a close friend than a brother to my sister (buying eachother presents and etc.)but lately we have gotten to close . ive told her that being sexual isnt okay but everytime my mom leaves she tries something like one time i had to "touch her" if i didnt want her to lie and say i touched her when she was asleep or when i had to lick her feet and i told her i have a gf but she doesnt care and i keep enjoying it but if anyone found out it would be horrible how can i stop?
You should definately tell your Mother what is going on when she leaves the house. Your sister is not listening and you are being sexually harassed by her. It is not your fault and your sister has a problem and your Mom needs to be aware of this so she can help you both. Did you tell your girlfriend, I think she would help you understand that this is wrong. Your sister needs some boundarys and may have been sexually abuse by another family member if she is behaving this way. Please tell someone so that you are not left feeling horrible about something you are forced to do.
I'm Male/16. I'm in 11th grade. I feel like I have lost my motivation. In 9th grade I was really motivated, I actually did my work with no problems, I slept fine and kinda talked to more people. Now, I just don't feel like doing anything, I always feel tired and sluggish. I miss work or hand it in late. I can't sleep right and I don't talk to much people anymore. It seems like everything is pointless nowadays, nothing is fun or exiting like it used to be. I miss feeling good about everything. I have no idea what's causing this but its pissing me off. What's wrong with me? It feels like I'll never progress and enjoy things again. I'm really tired and disapointed with myself. What is it?
I think this is quite normal behavior for your age and your body is going through alot of changes. I too remember feeling this way, you start to look at the world differently and you realize that adults don't always do and say the right things. This will pass. I would suggest finding some interest and joining a group, be it the gym, basketball, football or music, find something that you like to do and get involved with people your age, they too are feeling the same way. Find a support group and don't be afraid to let other people know how you feel, they may be able to help you through this hard time. Talk to an adult at your school, church or home, an ucle or someone in your family that you feel you can talk to and try and find a role model, someone you would like to be like when you grow up. Things will get better soon enough and your feeling will change. Even a part time job will get you out and doing things.