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I am who I am
15f here. Well let's just start off with this I'm not attractive. I'm a little overweight nag I keep gaining more. I have never had a boyfriend/first kiss. The closest I've got with a guy was 2010 summer but we just randomly stopped talk ing no reason why. I allways blame myself for that I should have took more chances. I miss just talking about random stuff with a boy its nice to know someone cares. I'm not happy and I want to be friends with more guys. I still have feelings for that one guy but I do like other people but not As much as him. I act sorta tough. I allways feel like I'm wasting my life alone.noone understands my life style. I never asked to be like this. I'm not a bad person but I feel like I am bc I'm allways bringing myself down. I just want to be that same old happy girl who is courageous and brave. I try so hard to not care what others think.
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First of all you need to change you perception of yourself. if you look at youself as a failure thats what you will always settle for. i know because i felt the exact same way thru most of high school. then my senior year i decided i was going to change the way i live my life and tried to be more sociable towards EVERiBOdY. i always looked at myself because i myself always felt like i screwed up with girls. so id didnt even try. the thing is the liitle things you do make a big difference. for example are you extremely quiet in class try raising your hand this will allow you to gain some confidence. then people will see that your not that quiet girl. all you need to do iss build confidence in yourself.there is nothing wrong with you you just need to change how you look at yourself. hope this helped.
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Well what I've learned when I was in that state where I'd get really upset about who I am, I try to change the things that bother me. You said you're a little overweight, then you should work on trying to lose some. Plus working out makes you feel better. Just try to be positive about things, it will get better. And about the whole boys thing, you're only 15 so you have so many years to find a guy. Don't stress out about getting a boyfriend or having your first kiss. Sometimes those kinds of things get in the way and cause problems and stress you don't need. Just enjoy where you are right now and work on yourself first.
If you don't love yourself, then it's going to be hard for a guy to love you too.
So work on yourself and your confidence then worry about the boys.
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It sounds like to me that you need more confidence in yourself and who you are as a person. Your style is who you are don't try to change that. The way you opened up in your question I knew right away you weren't confident in yourself. There are things that can be changed; if you feel you need to lose weight than do it. Make it a goal and work on it, to just stand there and complain about it is not going to change anything. As far as the boyfriend thing, you need to be confident in yourself before you can find someone. How can you expect someone to love you if you don't even love yourself? Love who you are and celebrate who you are. Try and stay positive I know it's hard but always thinking negatively is always going to put you in a bad mood.
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You can be more! Have you ever thought that? You sound like you are unhappy with your looks and weight. If you are not happy with yourself, than you can't be happy with other. I think that you should take some time to work on yourself. Take a gym class, go for walks, ride a bike. Find things to keep you active. Find a hobbie, and do some excersize to get your body in better shape. Go to a spa/mall where you can get a makeover and see how pretty you can be! Mall makeup shoppes will show you how to apply makeup that is right for you, go to a hair stylist and get a new hair style. I think one you realize you can improve yourself, lose a few pounds and feel better about yourself then your relationships will flourish.
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When it comes to others, you don't have to care what they think. Yes I understand that every opinion counts, but alot opinions are not that great. All I can really say I know you try to be yourself but yeah just be yourself. There is someone out there for everyone but I cant tell you when. Dont worry your time will come and you'll turn back and say well this is the best life I could possibly have all because I waited for this!!!!
Remember just BE yourself.
Hope I helped.
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