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hello my name is juan i was born in the bay area in san jose. Ive been thru alot of stuff in my life in including my mother being murdered when i was 8(not a joke). Ive been thru the ups and downs. Ive done alot of thing im ashamed of but have learned alot from my mistakes and hope i can help some of you. I used to have severe depression and went thru a phase where i harmed myself and others around me. Ive been thru it all and have learned how to get thru evem the most difficult situations

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hey. 14/5'4/girl and 111 pounds. I was wondering because im a little to shy to ask a guy out, what kind of hints should i give him so he askes me out? He already did before and i said no b.c i wasnt allowed to date, im still not but i want to, and im going to. Im really confident, bubbly, and outgoing, but i just cant bring myself to ask him out. This is soo totally not likee me.

Thanks ♥ Sabina xo

all you have to do is suggest you two do something together. like go see a movie or go get some food after school. this will give you the opportunity to talk and see if you two connect. dont be shy about asking i wish girls asked me out all the time. just dont be pushy and you should be cherry ;)

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I'm a 13 year old girl, and I've been dating my boyfriend for about a month and a half. I've known him since kindergarten, and he's usually a pretty upbeat, positive person.
Lately he's been acting rather down. I know he's been having some hard times with his family, but I didn't realize how bad it was affecting him.
He often discusses things like how no one would miss him if he died; theroies on how he thinks he's going to die.
I just need to know what I should do. Do I inform anyone of this? Does this make him suicidal? What can I do to help him?



Let me start my saying this i can relate to what your boyfriend is going thru. not sure of his circumstances but my mother was killed when i was in a young age and i greatly affected my teenage life. i used to be down all the time hated my life wished i was dead all that. now that im older i wish i wouldve had somebody to talk to. i pushed aside everibody that tried to help me. i depression got to another level where i thought it would be a good idea to self harm. the thing is this is the time where your boyfriend needs you more than ever and just try to get him to talk to you.although he may or may not express it he will appreciate having someone there to help him thru his hard times. point is he needs you now more than ever so talk to him and tell him that you care. hope this helped.:)

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15f here. Well let's just start off with this I'm not attractive. I'm a little overweight nag I keep gaining more. I have never had a boyfriend/first kiss. The closest I've got with a guy was 2010 summer but we just randomly stopped talk ing no reason why. I allways blame myself for that I should have took more chances. I miss just talking about random stuff with a boy its nice to know someone cares. I'm not happy and I want to be friends with more guys. I still have feelings for that one guy but I do like other people but not As much as him. I act sorta tough. I allways feel like I'm wasting my life alone.noone understands my life style. I never asked to be like this. I'm not a bad person but I feel like I am bc I'm allways bringing myself down. I just want to be that same old happy girl who is courageous and brave. I try so hard to not care what others think.

First of all you need to change you perception of yourself. if you look at youself as a failure thats what you will always settle for. i know because i felt the exact same way thru most of high school. then my senior year i decided i was going to change the way i live my life and tried to be more sociable towards EVERiBOdY. i always looked at myself because i myself always felt like i screwed up with girls. so id didnt even try. the thing is the liitle things you do make a big difference. for example are you extremely quiet in class try raising your hand this will allow you to gain some confidence. then people will see that your not that quiet girl. all you need to do iss build confidence in yourself.there is nothing wrong with you you just need to change how you look at yourself. hope this helped.

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