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christian-like way to deal with cousins who are mean to me
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sorry this might be a little long
i have 2 guy cousins that are both 11. they always say really mean about me and normally i try to ignore it, but earlier we were at their grandma's (my great aunt) 80th birthday party. it was a big deal for everybody, so i thought they would leave me alone for her special night. we were taking pictures as a family, and they wouldn't stop saying really mean stuff to me. it was really embarrassing because my older cousins were also around too. i kept asking them to be nice because it was a really important night for their grandma. they were just like "we have to be nice to grandma but not you". i lost my temper and hit one of them and my aunt saw. everybody started yelling at me. i know what i did was wrong and i shouldn't have hit him, but no one said anything to my cousins to stop. later, one of my great aunts told me the same thing that i told them! and then my mom yelled at me. i understand what i did was wrong and i apologized for it but they didn't even get in trouble. and it didn't stop either. it got worse the whole night and they kept embarrassing me in front of everybody. they always do this to me and they even turned my brother against me too. and when their parents actually hear the stuff they say to me, they try to discipline them but all it serves to do is get them to hate me even more. i'm trying really hard to be christian like about the whole thing. i've even tried talking to people about it and avoiding them. but in cases like the one earlier, its really hard to stand there and let them talk so badly about me. what are some things i could do about them when i have to be around them? any answers (preferably something a good christian would do) are appreciated :)
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It sounds like you are a very nice person. They are boys and they are quite happy with the respond they are getting from you. It sounds like they like to get you upset and in trouble with the adults in the family. I would try this, next time one of them insults you respond with a "thank you" even if it is a mean thing they are saying, see they will be confused and wonder why you are thanking them, they will see that it does not bother you and hopefully they will stop doing it. If they respond with another insult tell them, " I love you" keep this up with all the positive comments you can come up with and they will grow tire. The adults will be proud of you for not stooping to their level. Remember Love does concur all. Keep love in your heart and remember they are just boys and boys think things like that are funny and they are just having fun after all. Maybe they want your attention, so find a board game to play or something you can all do as a group to keep busy and to keep them busy.
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I find it great that you did end up to hit your cousin, as that is what I probably would have done too. It is a boy thing. They don't mature as fast as us girls can, and can be really stupid. My advice would be to try and talk to your parents as many times as you can. Tell them how they are bothering you, and hopefully they will listen. But don't make the mistake of hitting them again. If it comes down to it, play em (CAUSTIOUSLY) at their own game. If they insult you, do it back. If that lands you in too much trouble, you can always video tape their mean behaviour towards you. Best of luck!
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