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okay well i have this boyfriend and we've been together for three years. i_m and he is also and i think its time we took it to "that level" if you know what i mean. but thing is. i've only done it once with another guy and i'm not the least bit experienced. and he's a virgin and said he wouldn't know what to do. and i want him to take the lead cause i don't wanna be on top:-( but what could we do to help? cause he said he doesn't want to suck at it. and i want his first time to be special :-) unlike my first time which sucked a hole (link)
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If you both are ready to do it, then do it. One thing you could do is just boost his confidence. If you guys are fooling around and he does something you like let him know you like that. If you do that i'm sure he'll take control.
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Hello, I'm 17/F.
I'm a senior this year and the school has asked me to select a song to sing for graduation this May. There's always a farewell song. What are some good songs? I want something inspiring; something that will make people think, or even cry... in a good way. =]
It doesn't have to be an old song, it can be rock, pop, country, any genre really. Just something you can relate to graduation or growing up. Something like that. Thanks. (link)
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Vitamin C-Graduation (friends forever)
In My Life-The Beatles
Chris Issac-Graduation Day
Semisonic-Closing Time
Green Day-Good Riddance (time of your life)
Eve 6-Heres to the night
Natasha Bedingfield-Unwritten
Sarah Mclachlan-I will remember you
The Rembrandts-I'll be there for you
Kelly Clarkson-A moment like this
Hope I helped :)
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i'm 21 weeks pregnant 25 years old and have two other children my husband works for his mother at her resturaunt from 7 in the morning till 4 or 5 at night he dose everything while she walks around doing nothing we live at her home so she pays him 50 to 100 a week because we have to buy all our own things including food , soap , and colthing etc she is an alcholic and throws tantrums regularly yelling and screaming i dont think it's right in front of my children but what can i do ??? my husband's sister is trying to get us to move all the way to las vegas but thats over 600 miles away what to do?? (link)
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You definitely need to move. I'm sure if it was just you and your husband it wouldnt be that big of a deal, but you have kids. I would say you should move to Vegas with your husbands sister and once you get enough money get a house of your own.
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i can't put a tampon in...like i can't see my vagina when i bend over and i found the hole but i don't want to force it in you know? how hard are you suppose to push? and whats the best position so i can actually see what i'm doing/ thanks. i'm a virgin btw so could it be that i'm that tight to where it won't fit? i'm using the smaller/regular ones to start too. (link)
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Some girls can't use tampons for a while. They have positions on the instuctions in tampon boxes.
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is it possible to be pregnant and not even know it until basically you're going into labor?
i mean, are there people who don't show? or get any of the signs?? (link)
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It's definitely possible. Theres even a tv show about it called "I didnt know I was pregnant"
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Guys, please explain to me why after hooking up interest is lost so quickly. Is there a way to bring that interest back? Why after hooking up with a woman too quickly, men usually lose interest completely? What goes through your minds the next day after that quickly? This has happened to me time and time again! I hook up with a guy that I really like and who seems to like me and then he stops talking to me, won't answer his phone, won't reply to my emails anymore, etc. What do guys think after they hook-up with a girl that makes them not want to see/talk to her again? It makes me feel like trash. (link)
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I would say it's probably because he got what he wanted. That's the thing about hook-ups. There easy, guys don't really have to work for anything when it comes to hook-ups like they have to do with relationships. Same goes for girls.
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my bf has been really busy lately with work, baseball, and school. I work and go to school too but i still manage to have time to do things. my bf never has time to go out..we been together for 4years, I was just wondering what are things i can do to keep myself entertain while he is out doing things. I only have 1 true friend but she is always with her man.. What can i do? (link)
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I'd start doing yoga or something if I were you. It's a great stress releiver, and it takes up time. I would hope your bf at least has a day where he can do something at least once a week. If he doesnt talk to him and see if you guys can go out once a week no matter what. Of course you can go out more then that if it's possible, but make sure you both have a day where you can just hang out and relax. Another thing you should do is have a girls night once a week too. Just find some things that interest you, or things you've always wanted to try but never got the chance to do and do them. My best friends are my sister and my friend. Lately they havent really wanted to do anything with me. So i've been keeping myself busy with working out, working on school work, having time by myself to just relax and figure things out, cooking, cleaning, reading, going to the library, watching movies etc. Just all sorts of things.
Hope I helped, and good luck. :D
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I'm not really sure what it is. I always think somethings wrong with me. I don't know if it's because I want something to be wrong with me, or because it'd explain some things or what. Why would I want something to be wrong with me if that's the case? I just don't understand it. The second I get a headache, start having pains, start coughing or anything I usualy look it up to see what it could be. Is anyone else like this? Well thanks in advance, take care. (link)
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I don't want something to be wrong with me because I want attention.
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Can anyone give me any speech topics that I could write about??
It's just for this "writer's craft" class where we have to present an original speech, but I can't think of any topics.
It can be about anything we want, but I'd like it to be kinda like motivational/inspirational...well those kind of speeches would be better for the class anyways...
So if anyone has any ideas at all...that would be greatly appreciated!!
Thanx in advance! :) (link)
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If I were you i'd probably give a speech about child abuse. Maybe even ways you can volunteer, talk about the make a wish foundation and why you should get involved. If you want it to be motivational/inspirational just give a speech about something you have a big opinion on. Something your passionate about, your passion will show and I think that's motivational/inspirational. Well good luck with the speech, hope you do well and I hope I helped even the slightest bit. Take care now.
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I really like this guy and he has a girlfriend but regardless i justfigured out he lied to me about EVERYTHING.
so im pretyy freaking hearbroken, we were bestfriends.
so what are some good songs and quotes about like getting lied to and all that?
:] thankss (link)
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I don't know if this helps, but it's a great song.
All American Rejects - Another heart calls
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quakers chewy bar.. are they healthy or not? (link)
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They are definitely healthier then many other things. I eat these as a substitute for candy bars.
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i'm not the quite girl, i'm one who likes to go out and do things and i have alot of confidence and a high self esteem BUT there is one problem with me, i am SO SO SO scared of getting rejected, about anything. yeah i know, who isnt afriad of getting rejected but my phobia is horrible. i can't even text one of my good guy friends (who i also have a crush on) to ask if he wants to hang out because i'm worried he will be like "well i'm going to do this..." even though we had this big talk and he was like well if you want to see me just tell me and i was like well of course i want to see you since i dont get to anymore and he was like alright just let me know when! and thats the problem, i can't get the courage to even text him and be like lets hang out tonight! or what are you doing tonight? because i'm scared he will already be doing something or has plans which will then make me feel dumb. i'm just like that, i hate asking people to hang out. what's my problem? why cant i just ask him to hangout? AGH it's so annnoying. (link)
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I've had this problem, don't worry your not the only one. Think about it this way though. Asking if he wants to hang out is not an awkward question. If he has plans he'll tell you, it's really not a big deal if you think about it. I mean if someone asked you if you wanted to hang out it's not awkward is it? You just tell them "yeah let's hang out" or "sorry i have plans can i take a rain check on that?" Once you ask him to hangout, you'll see it's not that bad and then you'll start feeling more at ease. Well good luck with everything. Hope I helped, take care now.
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my best friend is very pretty(no homo)i am also considered very attractive but when we are at school and i am beside her i dont feel attractive at all.most of the boys like her but they like me too.i always feel like i am in second place which is considered to be a loser in my eyes.my friend has a cute shape and a pretty face,i have an average shape and i am also the biggest girl in my clique.i used to be so confident in myself now i don't know what happend.i act arrogant to hide my real self.how do i make myself feel more comfortable in my skin and how can i talk to her and let her know how i feel?(13/f) (link)
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Everyone feels insecure sometimes. So don't worry your not the only one. Just do things that make you happy. If your not happy with yourself, change that. Go running! =) Running makes me feel a lot better about myself, I feel healthier when I do it. Plus if I have a lot on my mind, running always seems to help. Especially if your mad about something. Once I come back from running I just feel a lot better all together. Act confident and soon you wont be acting. It'll just come naturally. Everyones beautiful in their own way. Different guys like different things when it comes to girls. Well good luck with everything. Hope I helped even the slightest bit. Take care now.
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so my best friend and brother just started dating. i hate that so much! i cant be a bad friend to her though and say how i really feel about them. i just dont want to lose her because everytime we are together she is texting him and they are in the same house and she wants to go to his room to be with him when we are supposed to be having "best friend time" however everytime they are together she never texts me or even splits her time between us. she promised me he would never ever take her away from me but i feel like he already is..what should i do? (link)
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Tell her how your feeling. I'm sure she doesnt mean to make you feel this way, and she probably doesnt even know she's doing it. Just tell her what's on your mind. I'm sure you'll feel better after telling her and you guys work things out. Don't keep this to yourself, because you may end up resenting her for doing this in the future. You guys are best friends you'll get through it.
Good luck and take care. Hope I helped even the slightest bit.
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ok, so I made my friend email my crush and tell him that she has a friend that really likes him, she would forward the emails to me, but somehow my name got in there by mistake and i didn't want him to know i like him.
So i emailed him and told him i didn't like him, he said he was cool with it, but he said he didn't know who i was. He probably forgot my name, so last time i saw him one of my friends was shouting my name
then after that he started acting kind of hurt, did he like me? I like him and i really want to let him know now, what do you think I should do?
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Honesty is key here. Tell him how you feel. Just think if he does like you and you never tell him you like him, you always think "maybe he did like me"
Well good luck and take care. Hope I helped even the slightest bit.
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and how does it help? (link)
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I think it's good to talk about your problems. Whoever you talk about them to has a different perspective, could ease your mind about things and help you see a different side. Also a lot of the times saying stuff out loud may help you realize something new. Somtimes if i'm talking to someone about a problem I end up saying something that I didnt even know I had a problem with. Stuff like that that's why.
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my ex and i broke up a couple weeks ago. almost a month soon. but i want to be with him because i know we should be. his bday is coming up to, his 21st. he wants us to date other ppl and see where it leads us but i dont want to date anyone else because it doesnt seem right and he told me not to wait for him but i am. i guess i am just waiting because every other guy i see doesnt seem that great to be with. im picky! but i want him back and in a way win him over. i know it sounds dumb but i do. so any ideas? of maybe what i can do for his bday without being there or for him to keep showing him i am waiting for him and i care. he lives outta state but will be back next week and back in june for good. i already went down to where he lived and had dinner with him all dressed up and he loved it but still nothing was different. and i am willing to give him time because he does need it. (link)
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All you can do is hope for the best. If you two are meant to be together, it'll happen. Maybe he's just not ready to be in a serious relationship right now. He's young, your young. You both have time. If you want to date other people, go ahead and do it. If your meant to be together it'll eventually happen. Good luck, hope I helped.
Take care
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I am 19, dating a 20 year old, and he is my first boyfriend. Not only that, but my first kiss, my first love, my first sex, my first everything. However, for him it is a different case. He has already told numerous girls that he loves them, and he has had sex with 11 other girls beside me within a 3 year time period (he was only in a serious relationship with 3 of those).
I feel bad, because we have been dating for 1 year 5 months but I STILL can not get over this. It disgusts me sometimes, makes me feel sad that I'm not his only, and makes me wish I had someone with less of a sexual past. People on other advice forums have constantly told me to get over myself, but the thing is it is easier to say than do. I would want so badly not to care about this because I love him, but it creeps back into my mind so often. The good thing is, I think about it less and less as the relationship progresses, but I want it to reach the point of NOTHING!!
Please don't call me selfish or tell me I need to get over myself. I dont need to hear that. I already know its crappy of me to focus on it so much. (link)
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Theres nothing wrong with feeling this way. Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe he could ease your mind about it. Those other girls may have been his number 1 then, but your his number 1 now. I don't think it'd hurt to talk to him about it. Now if he still talks about these other girls often, then you have a right to feel this way. Talk to him about it. I'm sure then everything will be cleared up.
Hope I helped, take care.
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I like this guy I have been really good friends with..and we text and chat ALL the time...he has told me many times that I am hot and pretty and he likes talking to me...just recently he told me and ONLY me that he was moving and he wanted to be in a relationship before he moved..but he likes another girl. Should I give up on him? (link)
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You definitely need to tell him how you feel. Ask him "If he likes another girl, why should you go out with him?" Communication is key and just tell him how you feel.
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Well to start off, its hard to admit-but i guess its time i say it anways. I'm most deffinatly a socially awkward person. I mean, i'll have a close net of friends- but everything about me screams awkward. Hahah, all the conversations are so ridiculously awkward i just laugh afterwards, because i completely blew another chance of making a friend. How can i fix this?
Another thing is my lack of emotion. I looked up some things on it,and i feel almost as if i'm empty.(depression?) Theres some pressure on my chest that just makes me feel weird when i breathe,and i daze out all the time. It's gotten so bad i barely have the want to finish this sentance. I just lifeless most of the time,and dont feel like doing anything. I actually mentioned to my mom i thought i was depressed, but she blamed it on the seasons changing. Even though i've felt like this for awhile. The main thing is,i don't know what emotions are really. My mood all the time is just,blank. Boring. Bleak. Most people at this stage would probably feel like they want to just crawl in a hole and die. But not me, no. I want to do dangerous things. Extreme things, like skydiving. The way i see it, if i die, oh well, if i don't-move on to the next extreme thing. I just want to go crazy and do everything. But- i don't have energy. I wish i did, i just can't bring myself to even talk to people that much anymore. Ahh i'm very confused at life at the moment. If you have any advice on this subject i'd much appreciate it, i just want to feel something. How? Rah, hah this is the corniest thing i've written-ever. Thanks for reading,though ! (link)
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Wow! Very nicely said. When I read this I thought I might have written this and just forgotten or something. I know what you mean by all of this. I've been feeling the exact same way. I can't seem to figure it out either. I'm not sure what to do about it. Sorry I should be saying something that will help lol. Well honesltly I don't know what to tell you, cause I don't know what to tell myself either. I'm definitely here if you wanna talk sometime. Just let me know. If not good luck with things, I hope you figure it out. Take care.
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