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my brother and my friend :/
so my best friend and brother just started dating. i hate that so much! i cant be a bad friend to her though and say how i really feel about them. i just dont want to lose her because everytime we are together she is texting him and they are in the same house and she wants to go to his room to be with him when we are supposed to be having "best friend time" however everytime they are together she never texts me or even splits her time between us. she promised me he would never ever take her away from me but i feel like he already is..what should i do?
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Listen don't worry . Just sit down with the both of them and tell them how you feel . If you feel upset at the fact your friend is ditching you for your bff then talk to you brother . If your friend is really your bff then she can give him space and be with you at times . I know sometimes you feel left out maybe you can talk to a guy and go on a double date and you guys can all hang out together . So your bff can be with her boyfriend and you at the same time .But honestly just talk it out with them . They should care how you feel because ones family and ones a bff .
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Tell her how your feeling. I'm sure she doesnt mean to make you feel this way, and she probably doesnt even know she's doing it. Just tell her what's on your mind. I'm sure you'll feel better after telling her and you guys work things out. Don't keep this to yourself, because you may end up resenting her for doing this in the future. You guys are best friends you'll get through it.
Good luck and take care. Hope I helped even the slightest bit.
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You would not be a bad friend by telling her how you are feeling with the fact that she is dating your brother. If she really is your best friend she would listen to what you have to say. You are allowed to tell your best friend how you are feeling. Thats what they are there for. They are there for you to confide in, to tell them how you feel, if you are happy, sad, or mad. You should tell her that it upsets you when she comes over to hang out and then goes and hangs out with your brother and that she texts him 24/7 when you two are supposed to be hanging out.
Don't be afraid to tell her how you are feeling. She should understand if you are her best friend. If this was the other way around, if you were dating her brother and you ignored her when you two were hanging out, how would that make her feel? You should ask her that.
I know I wouldn't be happy if my best friend was dating my brother. I would despise it to be honest. You are a great friend for letting her be with your brother even though it kills you on the inside because you feel like you are losing your best friend.
Talk to your best friend. Tell her how you feel. You'll feel better in the end. Good luck!
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
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Telling her how you feel won't make you a 'bad' friend. If she's your best friend, you're supposed to be able to talk to her about anything that's bothering you. Let her know that it hurts your feelings when she's at your house to see you, then she goes to his room to hang with him. And that it bothers you when she texts him the whole time you're together. She needs to know how you feel so that she can try to do something about it before it gets out of hand.
I don't blame you at all for hating your brother and best friend dating. I absolutely would despise that. I couldn't be friends with someone if they decided to date my brothers. I would feel like that was crossing a boundary. You're a good friend for not being angry with her for dating your brother, but stand up for yourself and (calmly) let her know how you feel.
Darby(:
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