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okay this is really weird.. im 13/f and i juss found out one of my best guy friends is gay! he doesnt know me and my friend know.. but now me and my friend cant look at him the same.. were not aggaint gay people but i mean when we see him talking to another guy its kinda freaky cuz what if he is flirting with him.. i dont know he has had a girl friend and me and my friend thought he was gay because he hung out with all girls but we didnt want to believe it.. and we want to be friends with him still but this is all happening so fast and we dont know what to do!! can you please help us and help us find a way to not think of him as gay and think of his as we used to.. we will rate 5's
sincerley
just not the same*

First of all how do you know hes gay? and just think of it as a plus that hes gay . now you and him and your other girl friend can all sit around and talk about guys and he can help you explain why a guys being a jerk or soemthing cause he is one so he understands them better.and if you dont want to do that .then just confront him about his "gayness" maybe he isnt actually gay. i mean there are tons of rumors in middle school way to much drama for anyone to live with.and he probably isnt sure if he wants to be gay yet i mean he is only 13 or 14. maybe he just thinks he will have better luck with guys then girls. so maybe if you can get him a girlfriend he will change.it just all depends on so many factors.and when you do see him talking to another guy just remember its like you tlaking to a guy or guys talking to girls theres nothing wrong with it.

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i am a guy and i am in middle school and there is this girl that is like my best or 2nd best girl friend lets call her hilary. so hilary asked me out and i said yes then about a week later she dumps me. then a few days later she asks me out again and i say yes cuz i still liked her. then 3 days later she breaks up with me again. and then about 3 weeks later hilary asks me out agian and i said yes then she dumps me five days later and i have a feeling that she is gunna ask me out again wut should i do if she does?

Say no. Be like no hilary we've gone out a lot already and everytime you dump me like 3 or 5 days later and im sick of it. If you like me that much then you shouldnt have dumped me so many times, Sry i just want to be your friend.

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My teacher likes me and he stinks.I do not think he uses deoderant.so because of this he is always coming near me,like i said i aint pretty being near him.I want him to stop liking me but i do not want to affect my grades of conduct report.what should i do?
-dont like stink dudes-

Bring some good smelling stuff to skool and "accidentally " spray it on him .and then since it was a "accident " be like o sry i didnt know you were there .

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This guy is like in love with me and he always sends me all these poems and qoutes on how much but im wit a guy t hat i already love and he rele gets sick of this other guy telling em how much he loves me..how can i get this guy to leave me alone i mean ii wanan still be friends with im but..i dont want him to love me anymore..

Love,

WAnt HiM To mOVe On

Tell the guy that you dont like him like that and you already have a b/f.and maybe you could hook this guy up with one of your friends or something .And also tell him that it makes you feel weird with him telling you he loves you all the time and writing you poems.

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Ive been with my boyfriend for along time and he wants to have sex and i dont no i love him soo much and he loves me i no he does and everytime we r together its soo perfect and he said hes not guna force me but he thinks this will lock r relationship and then we ll be together forever and ii rele think hes telin the truth...should i do it?
Sexually confused..

I dont think you should have sex with your boyfriend. if he really does love you then he wont force you to do something you dont want to do.Plus if you do have sex and then break up in a bad way he might tell everyone your a slut or something like that and that would most likely make you regret sleeping with him.Trust your instinks. there usually the most help.

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Okay , I like this guy, and he just told me that he likes me too, we have a problem. Me and him arent sure if we should start dating because Im friends with his sister, and his sister will NEVER buy the fact that me and him were dating...and we wouldnt be able to tell our parents because we wanna have sleep overs and stuff, but i mean we dont plan on doing anything at the sleep overs, we just wanna see each other because we live an hour away from each other, but anyways, my question is, should we date behind his sisters back or tell her with the fact we both know shes not gonna buy the whole thing...???

help :(

I rate everyone a 5

I think you should tell his sister cause she probably wont care and even if she doesnt believe you then its better then going behind her back and then her finding out .Cause that might ruin your friendship with her..And this way if things dont work out with the guy you can still be friends with his sister without things feeling to awkward (sp)

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Here is the thing I don't want to live anymore sometime because all I am to anyone in my family is there slave my brothers are always coming home and yelling at me to clean there mess or clean up the dog piss and do everything for them. And my mom is always asking me to clean the house before her boyfriend comes over who I can't stand and she won't get it through her thick head that I don't like him and then she trys to buy me stuff and pay me like that is going to win my love for her when I don't even feel like a daughter to her cause whenever i try and talk to her she is with don (her bf) and wants to spend time with him or on the phone with him and it is all about don and nothing about her own freaking daughter all her daughter is to her is someone to clean her house and shit and my dad is always yelling at me and i don't even live with him. I guess my question is what should I do about my family cause my mom won't listen when I try and tell her how I feel and always makes everything my fault? I don't know I just don't want to go on with life anymore and I don't know what to do please help. And don't say you need to talk to someone about it cause I have and it doesn't help and don't say you need to tell your mom how you feel cause i have tryed to nothing freakin works i am on my last string before i do something i am gona regret help!!!!!

OK well i think you should see if you can move in with a friend or a relative that lives near by . And dont do everything for your brothers , they arnt your boss, when htey start paying you for doing this stuff then its ok but all there doing is making you do all there freakin work and that isnt right at all.I dont like my moms b/f either and my mom also makes me clean my house whenever someones coming over and its like why dont you clean it yourself?! Ive thought about killing myself too but i dont let any one know about it.What gets me through suicide times is music and knowing that i can change my life for the better and i wont always be stuck in this house.

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i just got a mini ipod, and i really want a case for it. i went into the apple store, and all they had were these ipod socks that were really expensive. does anyone know where i can get a cheap but trendy ipod case?

ordering them online is usually cheaper then buying them at stores.But it all depends on how much the shipping and handleing is so look at how much is before you order one.

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Hey im mike and 14/m. Well me and this girl we'll call joan have been dating on and off since october and we just got back together after 2 weeks. well i love her and all but im not sure where are relationship is going. We talk on the phone alot and we hang out like every week almost but i feel empty inside sometimes. I've hurt her once (emotionaly) and dont want to do it again can someone help??

wow guys have emotional feelings too how sweet. ok sry some of my guy friends just act like dicks to all the girls they date and they dont ever care about how much they hurt the girl. So its nice to see a guy who cares.I think you should talk to her and gain her trust back that will make you feel better but im not sure it will make the emptyness go away.And since your only 14 your probably not gonna marry this girl so if things dont work out just always look on the bright side - you have a long time before you need to think about marrige.Just try to have a lot of phun with her and be yourself even around your friends, dont turn into a jerk whose all well guyish .And if you do break up again and you say your gonna stay friends try to atleast stayfriends.LIke still talk to each other ,dont let that ackwardness get imbetween the two of you .If you need to talk about it you can im me on one of the following-imshortie2b13(old aol sn),lilpnkbrn,lildumblonde820,kissachrry,pocsocbocluv or you can email me at insanlykrazie76313@yahoo.com

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Okay, my ex best friend Lana betrayed me. How? Well, she went and slept with this boy that I had a MAJOR crush on! And not once, but twice! I can't believe she would ever do that to me. And to make it worst, she told me she might be pregnant!! So you could imagine how much I hated her at this point. Anyway, to get her back, I told the boy (Clad) that she WAS pregnant, and that he was the father. So she was really pissed at me. But can you blame me? Now she's saying that what I did was 10 times worse then what she did to me. But I dont think so. What's your opinion? (Thanx for helping me out)

I think what she did was extremely worse.i mean all you did was tell the guy who probably is the father that he is the father of her kid.How is that mean? Its better to let him know then keep it from him.He would find out sooner or later anyways. and if she didnt want to have his kid she shouldnt have slept with him.Plus she new you really liked him which is even worse.ITs not as if she was just like oh hes cute i guess ill go sleep with him..But its not really my opinion that counts cause it wont affect thats already been done.Im sry about her doing that to you though and i hope things work out for the better.

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My mom seems to think that only black people wear brands such as Roccawear, Baby Phat and Ecko. I like the clothes and she wont let me wear them because on the websites the people who are modeling them happen to be black. So tell me really, do these brands are truly only worn by Africans?

NO. brands arnt made just for one specific color group.The main reason you probably only see blacks modeling the clothling is because they are the main people who wear it.Its kinda a stereo Type . Like most the shops in most malls have white models but that doesnt mean that different colored people arnt supposed to wear it. Its just some typical stereo Type that someone made up .

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okay, i know everybody says your beautiful no matter what, but i dont feel that way. I feel as though im an ugly duckling. i mean im fat, ugly and i just dont feel like i am beautiful. If anyone has any tips on how i can feel more better about myself..then please help!! Cause i dont feel good..i feel alone & i feel like killing myself but i wont.

Exercise some.It clears your mind and it gets you in shape.Since its winter maybe you could take up ice skating and get a bunch of friends to go ice skating with you.And also smile more and dont focus on what you dont like about yourself.Try to find something you really love about yourself and do something to bring it out.Like i really like my eyes just cause i like the color of them and how they change colors so i wear colors that bring out my eyes and always do my eye make up even if its the only thing i do . And stop caring what people think . I used to have a really really low self esteem like i was soo scared about what i would wear to school cause people would be looking at my judging me . And then this year i realized it doesnt matter what they think my friends dont care what i think and we all have differnet styles.So sometime i literally roll out of bed in sweats and a shirt and brush my hair and do a quick make up run and leave. Dont try to be something your not. If we all looked the same and acted the same this world would be so freaking boring that it wouldnt even be funny.So just surround yourself with happy upbeat people and you'll end up feeling better.(laughing always makes people feel better)

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ok i realy like this guy and i thought he liked me for a little bit but then a couple days ago his friends told me that he said " i wasnt that hot" and that he used me pretty much jsut to "do stuff" and now i dont think im going to talk to him before i see him again and im just wondering what i should say to him about him .. im not mad i just want to know what the hell is going on and why!!

ok well if i was you id be pretty pissed. and i would probably confront him about it .If you dont want to confront him you could always stop "doing stuff" with him .cause if he is talking about you behind your back but is all sweet to you when your around him hes not that great of a guy. Cause that means he is just using you. You deserve a guy who doesnt say shit behind your back , and who doesnt tell his friends one thing and you another.Guys dont understand that girls get all emotional about stuff like this and that girls actually think about whats happening in there "relationship".I think you should leave his sry ass.And dont let him know that he hurt you.

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OK here's the deal. Me and this kid have liked each other for a few weeks now and he finally asked me out. We've only been going out for 2 days now but its feels like longer. I really do love him, and he loves me. There's just one problem. He's kind of "advanced". I'm only in 8th grade and i've never really been into doing things with guys. For example, I wouldn't give a guy head or handjob anytime soon. He jokes around a lot about this and really wants me to do it but he isn't pressuring me. The problem is, he always wants me to go to his house after school, and for some reason i don't like to go without a friend. I don't know why, but I just can't bring myself to go alone. I love him a lot, but I feel better knowing that someone else is there with me in case something goes wrong. Even if it's one of his friends that's there too, i'm ok, but other than that, i just get a little uneasy. It's just something weird I guess that's going on with me that's making me not want to be alone with him. The other problem is that I still don't know how to kiss and now that I have a boyfriend, I think that maybe that's the reason im scared to be alone with him because i'm afraid of his making a move on me. I don't suppose I would mind too much if we kissed but I still don't "know how to". He sounds mad whenever I don't go to his house. He always wants me to, and he always wants me to go to the movies. That's where my problme of being alone with him comes out. I don't want to go to the movies with him if it's just me and him so I usually suggest a double date but the thing is, my friend would be making out with her friend during the whole movie and it might make me and my boyfriend feel weird so I never want to go. I feel bad saying no to him, but I don't know what to do to not be scared about it. Can someone please help me and tell me what I should do? I would appreciate it so much and i will rate you 5 even if you don't give good advice. Thanks

If he trys to kiss you just kiss back.It will come naturally and im guessing this guy is in 8th grade too ?So maybe you mess up your first kiss a lil most guys think its cute .Maybe you can invite him to yourhouse instead of going to his house cause most likely he wont try to make a move knowing that your parents or siblings are there.And if you want to go to the movies plan a big group of people so its just like a bunch of friends and yall can all be teenagers and act crazy and wild and like throw popcorn at the screen or at someones head .I mean coughcough be good modest kids who would never do such a thing like that.coughcough

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I'm 14 and this guy i'm good friends with it 15, of course he is your average, out of control teenage guy. All we ever talk about is sex and everything, even school related subjects seem to trace back to it. He's already told me that he wants the first time to be with me BUT he's got a girlfriend. I have asked him if he talks about this with her and he always says no that he doesn't want to scare her away, yet it is okay to talk about it with me??? I don't know if he's mixed up and doesn't know what he wants or what, but really, is that normal to be serious about doing it with your friend and talking about it while you have a girlfriend that you refuse to let go of?

I think hes kinda weird.Dont have sex with him he would just be using him . I mean he wont even have a commitment with you cause he already has a g/f and hes not planning on making you his g/f anytime soon or anything like that it seems.If your friends with his girlfriend you might want to tell her about it but then she would probably break up with him for it .If i was you i would probably just laugh whenever he said he wanted to have sex with me and be like ya go tell your g/f that.but hey thats just me .

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13/f...Ok, so I'm a really shy person when it comes to guys. I like this guy named Tim. I think he stares at me in spanish and sometimes science because I can see it out of the corner of my eye, ya know? In science the teacher stands like a few feet in front of Tim. So naturally I'm looking up at the teacher because he's talking lol. Yeah anyway, Tim looks at me a lot. He likes glances over at me. I think he might think I'm looking at him instead of the teacher. I know he's really shy also so should I strike up a conversation? And do you think it's possible he likes me? Thanks

.I think he likes you. And if hes shy like you say it is its gonna be really hard for him to admit it.Start talking to him get to know him better, and maybe later on either you can ask him out or he will ask you out.I mean its not like just talking to him will kill you.So take a chance.

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I have been going out with this guy for about 2 months and he bought me a bracelet and necklace and my friends all think the bracelet is real gold or w/e idk. Anyways i told one of my best guy friends (who happens to be my ex bf) that I was planning on dumping him (and they are friends him and my bf) and he said he wouldnt tell him i said that but instead he told my bf to be a better bf to me and not be so shy around me so that night my bf invited me somewhere but i couldnt go then the next day he got me a really cool necklace so if I dump him that would be mean after he got me stuff and i heard he really really likes me! But I told my best friend about me dumping him and she told our other friend and our other friend told my bf so my bf was all i heard u were gonna dump me is it true and i was freaked so i said no so now if i dump him he'll no i lied and he'll be torn! what to do?? plz help sry this is long ill rate ya thanx love ya! ps. he seems more like the friend type!
pss. i cant help myself very much i have had 8 bfs and never been dumped i dump all them im not a player really i just get bored easily!(i no its stupid) im 13/f!!!

Ok i dont think you should dump your boyfriend.You dont have a reason to.Seems like he's sweet and really cares about you. Its hard to find a guy like that so keep them while you can.Stay with him for atleast another month ,if you still want to dump him then go ahead and dump him.That way he wont think you lied to him.

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Gosh, how can I make myself STOP procrastinating??? I mean I've got it bad. I come home from school and don't even start my homework till' about ten at night or after. I get on the computer...eat...clean my room...shower...anything but do homework, and it's making my grades suffer. If I would just start studying for tests a few hours earlier, I would do so much better. Any tips?

hahaha i have the same problem. Try working in a room with no disstractions and no temptations to get up and turn on the tv or get on the computer..I find its easier for me to work at school cause once i get home i totally forget about my hw.BUt if you must do your work at home then right when you get home lay all your homework out where you'll be working on it and then give yourself 30 mins -an hour to just relax and then begin your work.

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Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!!

I think you should let your sister become "sistery" to you. Ya yall fight but dont all siblings ?I remember when i had an older sister , it took us a while to become close. I had to open up to her before she would open up to me.And so i did and she helped me with some stuff.

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my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job?

I think you should encourage him to do what he wants.He's a grown man and he can think for himself.Plus if he really wants the job i dont think you telling him you dont want him working there will make a difference.Just make sure you are there for him if he gets depressed .I mean you cant save everyones life all the time.

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