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Boyfriend
OK here's the deal. Me and this kid have liked each other for a few weeks now and he finally asked me out. We've only been going out for 2 days now but its feels like longer. I really do love him, and he loves me. There's just one problem. He's kind of "advanced". I'm only in 8th grade and i've never really been into doing things with guys. For example, I wouldn't give a guy head or handjob anytime soon. He jokes around a lot about this and really wants me to do it but he isn't pressuring me. The problem is, he always wants me to go to his house after school, and for some reason i don't like to go without a friend. I don't know why, but I just can't bring myself to go alone. I love him a lot, but I feel better knowing that someone else is there with me in case something goes wrong. Even if it's one of his friends that's there too, i'm ok, but other than that, i just get a little uneasy. It's just something weird I guess that's going on with me that's making me not want to be alone with him. The other problem is that I still don't know how to kiss and now that I have a boyfriend, I think that maybe that's the reason im scared to be alone with him because i'm afraid of his making a move on me. I don't suppose I would mind too much if we kissed but I still don't "know how to". He sounds mad whenever I don't go to his house. He always wants me to, and he always wants me to go to the movies. That's where my problme of being alone with him comes out. I don't want to go to the movies with him if it's just me and him so I usually suggest a double date but the thing is, my friend would be making out with her friend during the whole movie and it might make me and my boyfriend feel weird so I never want to go. I feel bad saying no to him, but I don't know what to do to not be scared about it. Can someone please help me and tell me what I should do? I would appreciate it so much and i will rate you 5 even if you don't give good advice. Thanks
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It seems kind of weird that your boyfriend is pushing you in to some thngs you would really rather not do.He he really loves you he would understand that you would rather not go somewhere with him alone.And about the kissing,you always have to start somewhere unless there is someone else you are waiting to give your first kiss to,i would kiss him.Just follow his lead if necessasary.<3
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ok if you really love him then you wouldn't have any problems spending sometime alone with him and let alone, kiss him. you guys are just in puppy love i guess you would call it that.. you guys just really like eachother and you just dont want to do something stupid to ruin your relationship with him, i know how you feel. just do things your comfortable with doing around him. just go hang out if something happens just talk to him and tell him about things. x0
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I used to have the same problem.. actually, it still sometimes freaks me out to go to a guy's house alone;-). You trust your bf, right? Well, you should be able to trust him to not do something if you ask him not to.. So if you're afraid of "going too far" then if you feel that its getting a to be a little too much, just ask him to stop. As for not knowing how to kiss, I don't think anyone really does! You just sort of have to wing it and I'm guessing you get better at it with practice (I don't really know lol). I hope it gets better, and if you find any really good way to not feel weird going to a guys house alone, tell me! ;-)
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If he trys to kiss you just kiss back.It will come naturally and im guessing this guy is in 8th grade too ?So maybe you mess up your first kiss a lil most guys think its cute .Maybe you can invite him to yourhouse instead of going to his house cause most likely he wont try to make a move knowing that your parents or siblings are there.And if you want to go to the movies plan a big group of people so its just like a bunch of friends and yall can all be teenagers and act crazy and wild and like throw popcorn at the screen or at someones head .I mean coughcough be good modest kids who would never do such a thing like that.coughcough
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Well if this guy really loves you like he says he does then he will understand that you do not want to do some of these things with him. But also if you guys "love" each other you should also not feel so wierd around, and trust him. The whole kissing thing isnt hard dont get so stressed out about it, just tell him its ur first time or whatever and when he kisses you go with the flow kissing is one of those things that just come naturally and if you follow his lead there is really not that much that can go wrong. Maybe you should talk to him about everything, or if you dont want to talk to him write him a note, things are always easier to say in a letter. Hope I helped!
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Kissing is something that comes naturally. It's not something you learn how to do, it's just a natural thing. You shouldn't be afraid to kiss him, but doing other stuff...well that's a different story. Next time he asks you to come over, have a talk with him. Tell him you really like him but you aren't ready for anything more than kissing. Also ask to bring a friend because it would make you feel more comfortable. He might be unsure about this, however. He's likely to tell you he wants some "alone time." Compromise. Say if you bring a friend, you two can still watch a movie together, but only with the friend there too. He should understand how you feel. For the double dating at the movies, why not bring a friend without a date? That way the friend won't be doing anything to make you two feel uncomfortable. Don't let this guy pressure you into anything, and tell him how you feel. =)
~laura~
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my advice is that take it slow and since your scared to kiss him or whatever dont be they says when you kiss somebody we are like born with it so dont worry about if you cant kiss because everybody can trust me and if you feel weird with him then tell him how you really feel and first take it slow it seems like you pretty young and if you feel weird then weird you two should broke ^ bc when you have a boyfriend you should comforable with him ok i hope i helped you.. love, nIc0lE<<< need anything else just leave me some in my inbox aight take care ma..
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