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What is the Deal with Him?
I'm 14 and this guy i'm good friends with it 15, of course he is your average, out of control teenage guy. All we ever talk about is sex and everything, even school related subjects seem to trace back to it. He's already told me that he wants the first time to be with me BUT he's got a girlfriend. I have asked him if he talks about this with her and he always says no that he doesn't want to scare her away, yet it is okay to talk about it with me??? I don't know if he's mixed up and doesn't know what he wants or what, but really, is that normal to be serious about doing it with your friend and talking about it while you have a girlfriend that you refuse to let go of?
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Ok, dont do this dude unless you really really want to & you're sure you want to do it with this guy. I have a friend like this and we kissed while he still had a girlfriend. His girlfriend probably turned him down and he doesnt want to pressure her into it. He's probably just being a guy and seeing if you'll do him or either he wants some really bad!! And how do you know that this guy is a virgin?? If he really wanted his first time to be with you, dont you think that you guys would be boyfriend & girlfriend instead of just friends??
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Okay, i'll give you advice because i was in a simular situation. Back about 6 monthes ago, my current boyfriend and me were best friends, and I was dating another guy. Well, my boyfriend and me always talked about sex, but what's different in our situations is that that is not all we talked about. lol. Anyways, in the end, i didn't really know what i wanted, and it came clear to me that I wanted my best friend, or now current fiancee. So with him, yes, he probley doesn't know what he wants yet. He's preobley confused, because there are 2 girls to choose from. That is a very very stressful situation. but when the time comes, don't rush into anything.
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I think he's scared of letting go of something he's used to. He can't keep doing this to either or you though. He needs to either break up with his girlfriend or stop talking about that kind of stuff with you. I mean it's cool to talk about everything with your friend, but if he knows there isn't a future with his girlfriend then he needs to let her go.
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I think hes kinda weird.Dont have sex with him he would just be using him . I mean he wont even have a commitment with you cause he already has a g/f and hes not planning on making you his g/f anytime soon or anything like that it seems.If your friends with his girlfriend you might want to tell her about it but then she would probably break up with him for it .If i was you i would probably just laugh whenever he said he wanted to have sex with me and be like ya go tell your g/f that.but hey thats just me .
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Um, no that's not normal. Something's wrong with this kid. Either he's just going to use you to get some because his girlfriend won't do it, or he is truly just confused. I just don't understand what he could be confused about.. but try to steer clear of that subject from now on, and DO NOT have sex with him. It'll just make things messed up.
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well its sorta like he doesnt no what he wants and well frankly it sounds like your his sicurity blanket and your always there for him, but get over it he is pretty much a loser and just goes from girl to girl but promises all these things to you. that and in away it is some what like cheating on his g/f because he talks about having sex with you but wont mention it to his g/f sry but that just doesnt make sence. good luck!
~mini
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well, next time he says stuff like that, just be like "hey, you have a girlfriend" and "well, if you and your girlfriend ever break" and "maybe you should just hold out on your girlfriend". because it is wrong.
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I dont think thats normal. He's not exactly being truthful to his girlfriend. If hes serious about it with you, why is he still with her, you know? Let me ask you something, could it be that his gf doesnt want to have sex and he knows you might want to, and could that be the reason hes always talking to you about it? Guys are horny throughout their teens (which im sure you know) and i think hes getting caught up in hormones. Next time he brings it up, tell him not to talk about having sex with you until hes through with his gf (if having sex is what you want.) But, is sex all he wants from you? There are some things to think about there, but i hope i helped out
-melissa
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it's not normal for a guy to talk about sex with you when he's got a girlfriend. it's disloyal to do as a boyfriend. if you don't feel comfortable with him talking to you about sex when he has a g/f.. tell him to decide between you two.. because it's not fair to the other girl. she's going to get hurt in the long run. i hope i helped :o)
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