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Sisters are DEATH!
Ok.. hi. See me & my sister are like 9 years apart, she's 23 & I'm 14. She is always talkin bout how I shouldn't be mean to her, but she used to ditch me for her friends & crap. Ok, well, she's all of a sudden wanted to be "sisters" and I'm just like, no. She's all whiny & she's babyish. It really gets on my nerves but, when I wanna spend time with her she's always "busy". Ok well we have alot in common but she wont open up to me & tell me about her problems. She goes & tells mom (BIG mistake). Then mother goes & tells daddy & they talk about her so bad. I dont know what to do! I know I don't like her sometimes but hey, she's my sister. Please help!!
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You said that she used to ditch you all the time. That was probably when she was a teenager and you were a little kid, right? Well now she probably feels guilty for doing that and wants to make up for it. Don't hold a grudge on her forever. Try to forgive her for not being around when you were younger.
And then you said that when you DO decide to spend time with her now, she says she's busy. Talk to her and let her know that you were trying to hang out with her like she wanted, but she's not making time for you. Plan a day or weekend where it's just you and her. Go to the mall, go out to eat, do anything. You're so lucky that you've got this person you can talk to about certain stuff and who can DRIVE YOU PLACES!!! Don't pass up this awesome opportunity.
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see she wants to be your sister..for she has grown up a bit.
but be careful....she may be trying to get you to open up so she can squeal some more..so play nice..bur realize that SHE might be playing YOU!!
so be careful..and maybe play her a bit bakc...
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It's difficult becaus eshe's older than you and so thinks that she has more 'power' over you. You need to stand up for yourself and tell her that you will spend time with her when you want to and not just when she wants.
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Ok i have your same problem! I have 2 sisters tho..one is 27 and the other is 12..oh yeah and im 14. Me and my older sister thats 27 are like 13 years apart and thats a lot...i never get to see her cuz shes married and they never come to see us..beside holidays and what not. You should be lucky that your sister wants to do something with you my older sister used to do everything with me and my lil sis..she was even my teacher once..but now she doesn't do hardly anything with us...so be thankful that ur sister wants to do something with you! hope i helped
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I think you should let your sister become "sistery" to you. Ya yall fight but dont all siblings ?I remember when i had an older sister , it took us a while to become close. I had to open up to her before she would open up to me.And so i did and she helped me with some stuff.
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i would try and go along with it. i mean my sister died in a carwreck when she was 5, and i was 6; i would jump for the chance to know her better, i mean we were so young. just think, if she died tomorrow, think about how much you wouldnt have said to her, and wouldnt have gotten to do with her. take the chance, you never know when your going to loose someone you love.
hope i helped!
~Haley~
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talk to her about it and tell her that if she wants to spend time with you then she has a least talk to u about things and not be so moody.
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hey hey!! You should tell your sister how you feel about her and how you guys never spend time together when you want to. Also, tell her that you want to talk to her about stuff and that you want her to tell you her problems instead of telling your mom or w/e...hope things work out!-lyl
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Well part of it is, when you want to hang out with her she doesn't want to, and when she wants to hang out with you you don't want to. Neither of you are letting the other one in. It's kind of both of your faults. I guess you both just need to try more and you two need to talk. Maybe then she can understand how you resent how she ditched you and you can understand how she feels. Maybe this is unrealistic advice and it would be really awkward to talk to her, but the only other way to fix it would be to wait until both get older and can deal with each other better.
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go talk to her!! you guys are getting older, and it won't be as hard to talk to her. plan a day out at the movies or lunch or something, and start talking to her. you are so lucky to have a sister!!
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OMG. You don't know how much you are going to miss your sister when she dies. Everything in life is temporary...remember that.
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Maybe your sister is just trying yo make up for lost time and how she used to ditch you. I dont know, maybe now that shes like 24 and an adult..she wants to be closer to her family. So if your sister tells your mom something..and then ur mom tells ur dad...tell your sister so she's aware of whats going on. Also, tell your sister that if she wants you to talk to her about whats going on in your life, then she needs to open up also.
best of luck
-melissa
PS. Your lucky to have a sister.It seems pretty cool!i dont have one. I have three brothers lol
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Just talk to her. Say that when she tells your mom stuff, they talk crap. But your only 14, and she might not feel comfortable talking to you about her problems. When you ask her to hang out make sure its not that day. Just say "Hey can we hangout next saturday?" and then that way she wont schedule anything for saturday so she can hang out with you.
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