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My name is Amber
I have been through a lot, a lot more than you'd think. I will answer any question you give me. You can take my advice, or just leave it alone, but DO NOT tell me it's bad advice. kay?

advice

I want to become a scene girl. I've seen scene girls and guys all over the place lately and I really like the style. My mom said she will take me to get a scene haircut and dye job soon if I really want to become a scene girl.

I want to be scene like Kiki Kannibal, Audrey Kitching (Twigg Violence), Dani Gore, Dakota Rose, Jac Vanek, Jesse Cupcake, Sarah SCream, Holly Horror, Hanna Beth, Zui Suicide, Raquel Reed, Dana Killer, Lizz Mohin, Sommer Ata, Tara Mason, Rainbow Kittie, Molly Steele, Danielle Fidelity, Clementine Suicide, Aida Kamikaze, Ashlee Lauren, Lindyfu, Alaina Beaton, Brittany Kramer, and even Lexi Lush.

I definately do not want to look like a drag scene queen though! I am a girl and I definately want to look like a girl and not like a boy-dressed-as-a-girl! So I want to steer away from the drag scene queen styles of Jeffree Star, Izzy Hilton, and Hilary Haywire.

Can anyone give me tips on how to become scene?
Should I start having people call me by a name that is more scene like some of the above mentioned (Hilary Haywire, Holly Horror, Sarah SCream, Kiki Kannibal, etc.)?

you don't "become" scene. You just are scene or not. It's just the kind of clothes people choose to wear because they like it not because they're trying to be scene. Scene is totally a music oriented style. If you don't listen to metal, hardcore, or any form of it. then don't become scene. You seem like a girl who cares what people think. and if you just randomly "become scene" people WILL make fun of you and trash talk you because you'll be considered fake. my advice for you is DON'T do it. It's too much work being scene anyways.

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I have a confusing problem, I don't know if I'm Gay or now. When ever I masturbate, I have sexual fantasies of other guys (I am a guy) but when I look at guys in real life, I just don't have any, emotional feelings for them, like a guy does when he has a crush on a girl. So I have sexual feelings for guys, but when i look at girls, I get the butterflies and goose bumps, and I always have these day dreams of asking this one girl I really like out. But I've never had any sexual fantasies about them. So now I'm just confused as to why I have sexual feelings about guys, but the average crush like feelings for girls, but not the sexual feelings that I sometimes have for guys.

your most likely just curious, and maybe the only way to cure that is to actually do something with a guy. And maybe not. It may just be something temporary. Just because you fantsize over guys doesn't mean you like them. Hope i helped!

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weve been bestfriends 7 years but now i think were growing apart. im 14 shes 13. im very perky and peppy. she is very dark hearted. i wear pinks and brights she wears the blacks and darks. we have always been real different like this but now i gues its going to extremes. prep and goth totally different music she listens to screaming and rock stuff i listen to pop. even when we go to the mall i want hollistar she wants hottopic. when we go to dances its just creepy the people she can meet and how she dances. i dont wana lose her shes all i really got. i make it seem like i have alot of friends but its really only her. she has alot of gothic friends that were there for her when she was suicideal. she just scared me so i was kinda away i regret it now. now i realize that i left her when she was dieing literally how meaner can i get to her. leaveing your bestfriend to die. we talk over aim and very little at school but thats pretty much all. i dont like her friends i hate them so much their freaks and just try to kill theirselvs for fun? i told her that it made her scream and go to them. she doesnt cry not even through all the deaths shes been through. i can tell in her eyes shes dieing inside. shes always in trouble always pissed at something. shes very mad im scared of her she talks about death and killing and she can kill someone instantly shes just scarey. shes always with her other friends she said there the only ones in my life to understand me truely. they have kept her alive this hole year. she will not let anyone help her not even her parents but how do i. there is alot of questions about friends on here so i was hopeing anything will help me. anything please shes all i need

Just be friends with her again then. Obviously if she is trying to kill herself, then she is depressed. If she is around depressing people all the time, its just going to make her more depressed. But just try and hang out with her more and do fun things with her. But never let her leave her friends if she doesn't want to, because thats not friend like at all. Just be a friend to her. Thats all. Support her. If she wants to go into hottopic, let her. GO with her, those people in there are A LOT A LOT nicer than the ones in hollister.

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ok i know this is really stupid but how do you go up a cup size if you alreay only wear a size 36 a

If your asking how to make your boobs grow, you can't. If your asking how to buy a bigger cup sized bra, try them on before you buy them.

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Is it safe for a guy to eat a gil out who has discharge?

well thats the only way you can do it, because well if you eat a girl out and she doesn't discharge than that means your doing a bad job. Assuming your the guy. Unless her discharge is not white, if its yellowish, don't.

Its kind of like cum, for a girl, i guess you could say.

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Hi all. I'm soon to be interviewed regarding the link between drinking a lot, and taking sexual risks. This might mean going further than you wanted/planned, not using protection, etc - but only while you've been drinking.

My interview is going to be specifically about teenagers, so I thought I would ask the younger people on here for their input. Do you think there is a link? How strong do you think it is?

Thanks for any help you can give.

Deffinitly, I think drinking effects anything a teenager would do. Sexually, or anything else. I say nobody can be blamed for what they do when they are intoxicated with anything. Alcohol, or drugs. It's all the same. But most of the things teens do while under the infulence they wouldn't do if they weren't. HOPE I HELPED!

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16/female. I'm a junior in high school and my student teacher is extremely hot! He's 21 and he is totally in to me. We have sex at school, in the parking lot in his car. it's not regular sex but kinky crazy sex with toys and everything. Well he always tells me he loves me and if I ever left him he would freak out and come to my house and take me away. But I love this other guy at my school and I had sex with him...if the teacher finds out I'm screwed! He is always following me at school and making sure I don't flirt with guys. He even took me to his office once because I was "flirting" with guys and he kissed me really hard and said that he wouldn't ever share me. I need to get out of this relationship but I'm really scared for my life sometimes. The sex is getting way too crazy for me, he likes sticking things inside of me like sticks and everything. He's hot too, I don't want to hurt his feelings. Help?

Whenever he asks or is like okay "sex time" or whatever just be like "I have to go..." and blah blah blah just make up an excuse. And then just like gradually loose everything in him, you can even try like not getting cute for school anymore so he would find to like Unattractive and not want you anymore. HOPE I HELPED!

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well alright the other night me and my boyfriend were planning on having sex. I was prepared, or so i thought. I expected sex to hurt since i was still a virgin and all but it hurt way more than i could take. As a result i pushed him back and we tried again. But i was in so much pain i couldnt do it. After he felt like it was all his fault and i know its all mine. he thought he pressured me into it and i told him that it just was not enjoyable for me and it was extremely painful. He got all quiet and i tried to kiss him, he didnt kiss back. Later we were talking and he said i just feel like i ruined my chance with you. I was overcome with saddness and found myself in tears that i could not control. He then felt like a complete jerk and started blaming himself and telling me i am the only girl he ever had loved also that if i didnt want we dont have to have sex. What should i do about this?

If you actually do love him and want to stay with him. Then make sure he knows how much he means to you until you guy get good again. Like call him a few times more than you usually do. Say I love you everytime you see or talk to him. Just make sure he knows the only reason why you didn't have sex is cause it hurt and not cause you didn't love him. HOPE I HELPED!

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I'm not sure if this is a sex question or not, but I'm asking anyways. >_<

When I think about certain things (fantasies I guess), white stuff ends up in my panites. Sometimes, it jsut happenes for no reason. There's is usually some in there every day for whatever reason. It's been happening for years and I'm starting to wonder if it's normal for not. Is in the same thing as "cum"? Sorry, I'm not very educated in the sex category.

By the way, I'm 15/F

Its called discharge, its not the exact same thing as cum, but it's similar. It just comes out during the day, its normal. More will come out like when you get really "happy", and maybe a while before your period, like when your pmsing. If it ever turns yellow or even yellowish that means you have an infection and should go to a doctor right away. HOPE I HELPED!

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ok me and my bf have been goin out for some time now and like he wants to finger me but ive never had that done before i mean i want to but im a lil nerveous like what do guys do when they are fingering you? and like should i shave down there or no? do i like wipe myself before he does it? i need all the help i can get
thanks

most boys dont like hair, so yes shave. and after he does it make sure you pee, my brother said that it cleans it out so you dont get infected. depending on if he knows what he is doing or not, he should just stick one or two fingers in and move them around, kind of. he will do it either until you get an orgasim or until you tell him to stop. most boys just do it while your making out so yeah HOPE I HELPED!

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Okay
I dont think im pregnant,but im paranoid about it.
I had sex with a condom but then got close to doing it again without a condom , but we only did it for like 3 seconds and then I said stop because i was scared.
My boobs have been hurting lately and I had a stomach ache but I didnt throw up.
He tells me he thinks im fine and i hope hes right.

What should I do??

if this was less than 24 hours ago get morning after pills asap

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I am 13. I have had sex. I am scared to go to the doctor to get birth control pills because i am afraid he'll tell my mom and he'll look at me and be like you only 13... and/or how do i get there.. haha i dont know just some advice will hepl. :]
kthanks

don't go to your doctor, go to a free clinic or whatever those things are called these days. And just ask them not to tell your parents or anyone and they won't. well at least thats what i have heard. Hope i helped!

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ok.. i have an 8 year old sister & she is very developed 4 her age. if u know wht i mean.. and she has a boyfriend who is 14.. which is not so unusual cuz she always dates older guys.. well.. my parents dont know about this boyfriend of hers.. so it is even worse.. she makes out with him all the time.. adn i dont have a problem with that.. but last week she decided to have sex.. and now shes preganat! what do i do???

Well if you are 18 then you can go and get an abortion for her yourself but if you are 18 i dont know why you would be even asking this in the first place. so i am guessing your not. well that is illigil first off, and second talk to her about it, then when she is ready she can tell your parents herself, you dont really have to do anything.
ew when i was 8 i didnt even know what sex was. Thats sick.

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ok so i asked a question a long time ago about my boyfriends best friend kinda took advantage of me well to day i was talking to my boyfriend on the phone and he said that we needed to talk so i called him and he said i've been acting kinda shy and he said whats wrong?
and then it was quiet and he said again Your mostly shy when my buddy comes around Did he do something to you? Luckly my mom called and i had to go so i told him i'd talk to him about it later. What should i tell him or What should i do Please help me ASAP!

deffenitly tell your boyfriend

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Just wondering... because I'm a little bit worried.

I've been masturbating for years now and never had this happen. I'm a girl and about an hour after my orgasm, I'm experiencing some bleeding similar to my period. I just finished my period a couple days ago and I'm wondering if it's from that or if it's something entirely different.

Thoughts? :(

you could have broken your hymen, it usually gets broken during sex or tampon-usage but i would think it would bleed right away and not an hour after..hmm i dont know then

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Im a 16 year old boy who doesn't want sex....at all i have a girlfriend and i guess she expects me to be perverted maybe because her other boy friends were. Im a virgin shes not.She be offering me oral sex but i don't want it.then she calls me gay and all these other homo names.

I was raised on not being able to see people kiss at all if i said sex i was slapped,and i never seen a womans vagina ((Porn)) until i was 15 and I gagged when i seen it.Is this normal? am I gay?

Not really normal but if you were brought up that way thats just the wayy you are used too so it could just take time to adjust. and they are always possiblities of being gayy
hope this helps!

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