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Gay, Straight, Or Bi
I have a confusing problem, I don't know if I'm Gay or now. When ever I masturbate, I have sexual fantasies of other guys (I am a guy) but when I look at guys in real life, I just don't have any, emotional feelings for them, like a guy does when he has a crush on a girl. So I have sexual feelings for guys, but when i look at girls, I get the butterflies and goose bumps, and I always have these day dreams of asking this one girl I really like out. But I've never had any sexual fantasies about them. So now I'm just confused as to why I have sexual feelings about guys, but the average crush like feelings for girls, but not the sexual feelings that I sometimes have for guys.
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Right now, I would have to say, don't worry about it.
Do what makes you feel good. You don't state your age, but if you are still young (meaning in your teens and not considered an adult yet) its important to just live your life. All this added stress you put on yourself can lead to bad things.
Does it bother you that you might be gay? Or does it bother you that you don't have any crushes on another guy?
As to why you have sexual feelings about guys, I think it could be many reasons. Some guys have sexual dreams about other guys when they feel that they don't have good friendships with other men; sex is very intimate and creates a close bond. Some guys have sexual dreams about other guys when they have control issues, either being dominate and in control or the opposite, having the need to be controlled and dominated. My point is, these guys don't necessarily have to be gay. Our dreams and fantascies help us understand what are consciences are telling us we need and what makes us feel good or better. The cause could be completely pyschological. Really work on your male friendships. If you are a teen, make that "what is my sexuality" decision later on when you have less to focus on. In the meantime, do what feels good, imagine whatever you want.
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your most likely just curious, and maybe the only way to cure that is to actually do something with a guy. And maybe not. It may just be something temporary. Just because you fantsize over guys doesn't mean you like them. Hope i helped!
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You might just be confused, you don't know what you are now, or you could even be bisexual, just wait awhile& if you're still having these fanasties then try it out, I mean all that can happen is you realize your gay, bi or you don't even like men.
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Hi I hope coming from a BI female this will help. I was a young girl at 1 time lol and I looked at girls but looked at guys too then I found something out, there is a 4th sexuality to go along with Bi, Straight, and Gay it is Bicurious. This is just being plain curious and figuring out your sexuality which is new to us all at 1 point. It could be a phase and it could mean anything just see where it goes. Sometimes fantasies are just that plain fantasies you will know which path you choose when you act on one or the other.(women or men) until then I would you are bicurious and just exploring your options.
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