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Is this normal?
Im a 16 year old boy who doesn't want sex....at all i have a girlfriend and i guess she expects me to be perverted maybe because her other boy friends were. Im a virgin shes not.She be offering me oral sex but i don't want it.then she calls me gay and all these other homo names.
I was raised on not being able to see people kiss at all if i said sex i was slapped,and i never seen a womans vagina ((Porn)) until i was 15 and I gagged when i seen it.Is this normal? am I gay?
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It's a little unusual but your not gay.
If you were gay you would get more pleasure from guys than you would with girls.
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You're not gay. That's just your upbringing.
Tell your girlfriend how you feel. If she can't understand, she isn't worth being with. She might just be kidding by calling you gay and shit like that. If it really bothers you, ask her.
Or maybe you just aren't into that kind of sex. Certain people have other types of fetishes and aren't turned on by the thought of normal sex.
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Ok you're weird, but not gay. If a girl offers you oral sex, you need to say yes. Pussies aren't gross.
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your not gay. thats fine. i acualy like guys like that, i like to kiss but htats it. your a perfect bf. and you would be proud of that. dont worry about it. you just arnt ready. to me yiou just dont like the fact of just having sex to have sex. im sure if you want kids later on in life it will turn around.dont owrry your not gay. inless you think of guys... well then maybe. but then again your 15 and your body thinks weird things. dont worry about it hun!
megg.
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Not really normal but if you were brought up that way thats just the wayy you are used too so it could just take time to adjust. and they are always possiblities of being gayy
hope this helps!
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No your not gay.
Your just somewhat out of the ordinary. Because most teens today really in all honesty, want to satisfy their hormones and do whatever to do it.
If your girlfriend is calling you homo name and gay, tell her off. And then you should probably think about getting her away from you. It is your choice to obstain, not hers.
If it is any conslodation to prove your not gay, I am about the same way. I don't want sex or anything to do with it right now, nor could I care less what people think about me because of it and guess what, I'm 16 guy as well. And I am 100% sure I am NOT gay.
Keep your beliefs, and don't let people change them.
I hope I helped, and good luck.
-Ryan
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It doesn't mean your gay. It could just be how you were brought up. I think your girlfriend expects you to be like that, because a lot of other guys are to the extent where its annoying and as a girl, you just become use to guys always wanting things. I hope everything works out for you.
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That's not normal but it doesn't make you gay. It's probably got something to do with your upbringing, which is sad because sex is a natural, beautiful thing when done with someone you love. Not something to be feared.
Your girlfriend was probably mad when you didn't want a blowjob because she felt rejected. Tell your girlfriend that you respect her and that you think she's beautiful and sexy but you'd rather wait to have sex and don't want to rush it, and if you feel comfortable about your upbringing to help her understand. It wouldn't surprise me if she only wanted to do it because she thought that was what she had to do in a relationship because so many of her other boyfriends have expected it before. She'll probably be understanding about the whole thing. But if not most girls your age will be thankful for a boyfriend like you, so perhaps you should rethink your relationship.
Don't just rush into sex when you're not ready just because you feel pressured. If you take things slow and at your pace you might be able to overcome how you feel about sex.
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You might have a hang up about sex because of the way you were raised. Sometimes parents unknowingly put the wrong ideas in their kids heads in an effort to keep them from having sex. With time, and the right partner more likely than not, you will get over that. When you get over the hang ups, you will no longer find the sex body parts gross.
These things you are telling us do not indicate that you are gay. Your girlfriend is saying these terrible things because she has low self esteem..and is unfairly taking it out on you to make herself feel better. Maybe it's time to move on? Don't be surprised if she takes that wrong too..but you deserve to be treated better.
By the way, not having sex at your age is the responsible thing to do and some girls will appreciate that level of maturity.
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No, you are not gay, and yes this is normal because you were raised differently than other teenage boys. I think you get a little freaked or grossed out when you see a woman's body part because you aren't used to seeing that and you've never talked about it or even done anything sexual.
I really think that this girlfriend of yours isn't good enough for you. She has already experienced sex and I guess she wants sex in the relationship and just because you don't that makes you gay to her. Which isn't true. And if she's going to call you names and insult the way you were brought up, then you should rethink this girl.
Most 16 year old boys are already thinking about sex and wanting sex, but it's probably different for you. But yes, I think you are perfectly normal that you don't have a sexual drive just yet, but it will definetly happen.
-TheTeenGirl
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You could be gay, but that's probably not the case in this instance.
Take it slow. Tell your girlfriend you really don't need sex right now. If that's all she's interested in, you may want to look into getting another girlfriend.
I think the problem here is that there's no real feeling for you. Sex for sex's sake is just kind of meat on meat. This may sound corny, but the true joy of it comes with being one with someone you love. Try developing more of an emotional bond with your girlfriend. If everything goes well, the physical aspect will come later.
-Odd
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No, you are not gay, and this is completely normal. You were just raised as a gentleman, that's all. Most girls would absolutely love to have a boyfriend like you, I know I would. She probably just has different morals. She shouldn't be bothering you with those names.. it's rude and disrespectful. If you really like this girl then you should talk to her and explain all of this. Hope I helped =]. 15/f
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