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Hey, I'm Elana... I'm 15 years old and I love to help people.. I know I know, everyone says that on this site, but I can be pretty good at giving advice sometimes. I'm into lots of sports, tennis, softball, and my new thing... Track, haha... I also dance, play piano (obviously) my saxophone (love it) and go online... A LOT! lol

Random stuff about me: I'm 5'1 and a 1/2".. I LOVE music..favorite bands are: switchfoot, green day, rooney, foo fighters, stone temple pilots, and any jazz music, my friends and family mean so much to me, things don't always go the way I want them to..(when does it ever work like that?) bowling rocks my world!! haha even if I suck! :) I'm extremely energetic and bouncy as my friends know, and I like to laugh, at anything...

If you need any advice at all just drop a question for me or IM me and I'll try to answer as best I can... thanks!




~Lana

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Hey my name is meaghan, and I really want a nickname for myself besides meg. I`m having a hard time finding a nickname, i just want a pretty one, not a goofy-ish one...i used to have the nickname mya but i got sick of it, so if anyone has any ideas on what i could use as a nickname, i would love to hear your ideas!


things about me:

I`m 15
Puerto rican, colombian , spanish
Dark hair

just in case you needed that to help you think of ideas.


THANK Y0U S0O0O0O MUCH ! x3

hmm.. I dunno, maybe its just me, but you can't give yourself a nickname.. just ask your friends to come up with one for you. They know you better than we do.. they'll think of something.

Sorry if that wasn't much help!
~Lana

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me and my best friend were hanging out the last couple of days because shes having issues with her boyfriend and ex boyfriend so i spent the night on monday and we tried to figure things out for her. on tuesday things only got worse i told her a couple days before i went to her house she could sleepover at mine on tuesday so after things got worse 30 minutes before my dad came to get me she was like im going to your house she went down stairs to tell her mom and her mom went crazy yelling and telling her that she had no respect for her moms rules or for her mom and it kinda freaked me out im not used to alot of yelling bc my parents are pretty laid back when we were leaving she was like i dont want you over here anymore but the thing is i didnt do anything wrong i was just there to help out a friend and there really isnt a reason for her mom to dislike me so much her mom already didnt like me bc i have different ideas about how a family should be run and my friend tells her mom everything shes my best friend and i would hate to stop being able to hang out just because her mom doesnt like me bc that really isnt fair whats up with her mom and how can i change things??( her mom scares the crap outta me!!) sorry this is so long but please help!!!

Oh gosh! I would definitely not worry about this too much.. I'm sure your friends mom doesn't hate you or anything. But maybe what you can do is talk to your friend about this and have her discuss it calmly with her mom.. (without you there) maybe her mom will see how harsh she's been if her daughter points it out to her. Or, if your parents are friends with hers, then they could discuss it together. OR if you're really feeling "bold" sit down with your friends mom and your friend and all have a "heart-to-heart" of the sorts. Hopefully talking will take a little of the tension away and calm everyone down. Don't jump to conclusions just yet though, she could've been having a very bad day or something.. Good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Hi im vanessa. im 14 years old and i am in 8th grade in ohio. My qwestion is that i dont really have any frends in my school. school will be over in 3 monthes so im kinda happy. all my friends go to the other school acadamies so i see them on the weekends. i dread going to school without friends. sicne the year is almost over should i just try to get through it? i will be seeing my other friends from the other school in my secondary school (highschool) so i am excited. Help?

Well if you've made it this far into the school year try to stick it out to the end... 3 more months and then you can leave and go on to be with your friends.. I'm sorry you don't have any in your school now, that really is a sucky situation. You've probably tried to make friends with people already too, but don't give up. Make small talk with someone or join a sport. For now though do something every weekend with your friends and that'll keep you going. I do something every friday night with my friends and that makes me happy, so if I'm having a bad week that's what I have to look forward to. You can do it! If you need to talk I'm here, but good luck! :)

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I have so many friends, I can really walk down the hall every day saying hi to everyone. Even though its great to have friends, I always feel like what I really need is a best friend. But thats not possible for me. I have had so many BFF and lost them.

And i have friends that I just realized only liked me because I was popular, and besides, i'm not really that popular I just have popular friends. When ever I hang out with with my friends, for partner things, i'm left with the person I dont even know.

But my question is, how can I let my friends know I feel this way? Will it even do anything?

Alright well I think honestly you wouldn't be popular if people didn't really like you, but I'm gonna try to make you feel better..

I know what you mean about losing best friends but keep trying, I finally found someone who I've been best friends with now for about 3 years and I know he'll always be there for me. Even if they're short lived close friendships they're still so important and so meaningful. You really just have to find the right person, but they're there don't worry...

So I guess my real answer to your question should be, yes! tell your friends what you're feeling.. You feel like you aren't as close to them as you'd like to be, or they leave you out, or whatever. Just talk to them. Tell them what's bothering you. It most likely will make a difference in how they act..
Good luck with that, and if you ever need to talk I'm here.

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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thank you for helping me before, about the likeing someone thing! it kind of helped:no offense to you!! but i still can't tell its an on and off feeling what should i do?

If you reeeallly can't tell.. then you shouldn't do anything.. I mean again, I don't really know the details, but if let's say the person asks you out, that wouldn't be fair to them if you didn't honestly like them. Also if you like someone else at the same time it wouldn't work.. I really don't know what else to tell you. You just have to go with your gut feeling on liking someone. For now though keep hanging out with them, flirt, talk to them a lot.. maybe eventually you'll be able to figure out your feelings...Thanks for the feedback though, and I'm glad a helped a little!

Hope I helped again!
~Lana

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I can't decide if i like someone. How can i tell? If you can, Please help me out!Tnk

Ok well this is a little hard to answer, but here are some questions to ask yourself to see if you like someone or not:
Do they make you smile?
Do they make you laugh?
Are they someone you're comfortable with?
Are you happy when you're around them?
Are they the first thing on your mind in the morning? and the last thing at night?
Do you find yourself thinking of things to talk to them about, just so you can talk to them?
Do you miss them when you don't get to see them?
Can you picture yourself with them? (that's important)
ok I think that's about it.. if you want to give me more details leave me another question in my inbox... you usually can just tell when you like someone.. but good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Ok so there is this girl...we can call her Rana and rana got me mad so i hit her in the eye with a round object. AND this is most def a sign should i just tell her that i want her to be blind? PLz help

Omg not you too!! you're a loser now! Yes talk to her.. haha tell her she needs to be blind.. then she could play the drums in band and be awesome at it!!! Yeah.. maybe Dana, I mean "Rana" should go blind.. oooh let's team up! muahaha
(would this round object resemble a ping pong ball?) Good luck!

(I luv ya too!)
~Lana

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my really good friend "acidentally" hit me in the eye. im not sure if i should take this as a sign, that he wants me gone. what should i do?-should i confront him?

You're a loser.. that's not a sign he wants you gone, and you know that.. You probably already confronted him too about it.. haha and yes it was an accident.. but a funny one : )

(I looove you! hehe)
~Lana

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My friend became a total jerk, and they dont know it. I cant stand people anymore and NEED to become famous. When I do, I will meet my two idols and be on Oprah. What do I tell my jerk-of-a-friend?

Umm.. tell your friend that they're a jerk and that you're gonna meet your 2 idols and be on oprah? I'm really sorry, I have no idea what you're talking about though... I guess just talk to your friend for now. Tell them you don't know what's up lately but they've been sorta mean to you.. and then let it go from there.

What does Oprah have to do with anything?

Sorry I wasn't much help!
~Lana

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im totally falling for my bestfriend. i liked him at the beginning of the year, and because of that we became the good friends we are now. we do everything together. Like EVERYTHING. and now, im falling for him again. hes just, hes perfect.

Aww.. I know how you feel. You have to speak up though, even if you don't wanna "ruin the friendship." In my eyes, that really would never happen if you guys are best friends.. Just casually tell him you think you like someone.. If he asks who, say you.. lol or try a little different approach: ask him if he's ever thought of you guys as more than friends.. chances are he'll say yes, even if it's not right now.. maybe he used to like you. Maybe he'll realize he likes you after you tell him how you feel. Try to get him to open up a little.. Good luck hun!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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My friend has just decided that he would like to join the army. I think this is crazy because he is really sensitive and I don't think he could handle it. It doesnt really help matters that I really like like him. I don't want him to go, I'm scared something bad will happen to him or that he'll be killed. I really don't think he should go because of the way he is. What should I say to him to stop him going, I really don't think he would be able to survive it.

Thanx millions for anyone who replies

Don't worry about it! Your friend would know what he's doing.. Besides he doesn't join and then go straight into battle. He has to go through training first and testing to make sure he's ready to be in the army. Sometimes people join for scholarships to colleges too so maybe tell him about that idea. Talk to him. You could tell him you're worried about the whole army thing, and if you want you could tell him you like him too. (Only if you're ready for that though.) For now, just relax, I'm sure you're friend will be fine...

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Ok the other day (I forgot how we came up on the subject)my friend and I were talking about how much we weighed. I told her first, but I am pretty skinny. Well, she told me she only weighed 2 more pounds than me (92). I think she is lying, however (maybe she feels embarassed?), because she wears a size five in jeans (I wear a 0). Can she really only weigh 2 more pounds than me, and yet still wear jeans way bigger than me? b/c me and this girl are REALLY good friends & i she NEVER lies to me (and i would hate for her to start!!) Thanks I will rate 5's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah it's possible.. I weigh the same as you and I can wear a size 0, 1 or 3 in jeans.. so if she weighs 2 pounds more she could probably wear a 5. Sometimes jeans depend on your hips and stuff like that. Plus, does it really matter that much? She might have been embarrased, but you guys are friends, you said so yourself.. if she isn't quite being honest about her weight, it really shouldn't matter. A lot of people hate telling how much they weigh. But I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. She's probably being honest, so I wouldn't worry too much about it..

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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Hey, I'm 13/f and I think that my best friend might be gay. I mean, she's rather stalker-like, won't stop givin me stupid out-of-the-blue hugs, and keeps telling me online that she loves me. It's making me feel really uncomfortable and I have NO clue what to do.

I rate 5's for everyone..

Sorry this kinda sounds like Mean Girls.. Anyway.. did you ever think maybe you're overreacting.. She may just be really friendly.. If she's been doing other things though that could be a sign, hugs aren't gay.. lol but since obviously she's making you really uncomfortable- tell her.. Next time she trys to hug you just pull away and say to her.. "You know I love you so much, but when you hug me a lot like that it makes me uncomfortable.." She'll most likely get the message.. but don't say that you think she's a lesbian.. that would be very wrong to assume.. Good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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My friends hang out together like all the time and it annoys me, im not jelious but now they are starting to get my other friend to be with them... i don't like it and i don't want to confront them, what should i do?

Hey.. ok now this is really creepy cause I'm going through the exact same thing right now. I have two friends who are never apart. And now lately they're bringing my other friend into it..
Enough about me.. Well, ok I know you don't want to confront them, but honestly you're going to have to. That's the only way to get them to understand. Just pull one of them aside and tell them how you're getting kind of annoyed how they leave you out all the time and do things by themselves. You could talk to your other friend that they're starting to drag into this.. that might make her see that she can still hang out with you and maybe she could talk to them too. Well I'm sorry if this wasn't too much help but good luck! and if you need to talk IM me..

~Lana

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there's this group in school i want to become apart of..well im friends with some of the ppl that hang out together but they hang out at a few ppls houses and i want to be apart of it and i don't know how to get into it.. i don't want them to think im weird or anything becsaue im not one of them i just wnat more friends...like my other friends. please help on how to get into this clique

Ok.. well I don't really like cliques.. lol but everyone has one so if you want to be in this one and you're already friends with a few of the people then it's pretty easy from here on out. Invite a few of them over to hang out one day on the weekend, or go see a movie. Then next time they're getting together they'll be like "oh, we should call ----" In school hang out with them too, but don't attach yourself to them too much. Just start talking to them and getting to know them more. They'll eventually see how cool you are! : )

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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I was hanging out with a group of my friends the other day after school. We were just hanging out having a good time and one of my friends pulls out a joint and lights it. She started passing it around our group of friends and everyone took a puff of it but me. I basically just stood there confused. These innocent girls that I had known since I was 6 years old had just lit up a joint and smoked it. I am completely disgusted by drugs and drinking and I will never do it because it's the worst thing you can do to yourself. They started making fun of me that I wouldn't smoke it. I wasn't hurt that they were making fun of me, but I was just hurt at their stupidity for smoking it. I don't know what to do. They've been my friends for a very long time and have always been loyal to me, but this is something I can't handle. What should I do? Should I tell them they should stop? I'm so confused! Please help.

I know exactly what you mean.. I too, will not drink or smoke and most of my friends do. It came as a shock to me too. You can try talking to them but, honestly, it won't do much good. They might just get defensive and try to tell you to stay out of it. In my opinion, it's their life and they have to learn that what they do has consequences. That's why when most of my friends do this stuff, I tell them I don't like that they're doing it, but I'm here for them all the same. There's really nothing more you can do. Talk to them and see how it goes, if they seem to really listen try to get them to stop as soon as possible. If you need anymore advice let me know..

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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hey. i hope that you can help me. one of my best friends and i have been in an on-going fight for more than 2 weeks. ive been apologizing, and it doesnt seem to be changing anything. she always finds a reason to be mad at me. idk whats going on. shes been spreading rumors about me, too. and threatened to have people jump me! weve been best friends for almost 9 years. should i just forget that she ever existed, or should i keep begging for her forgiveness?
*Katie

I agree with what most of these people have said already.. Talk to her one more time.. tell her it's really hurting you that she's so mad at you for no apparent reason. If this doesn't work.. honestly? I'd give up on her. She's not much of a friend if she spreads rumors and threatens you.. Sorry hun! good luck though and if you need anything IM me..

Hope I helped!
~Lana
*congratulations! you're my hundredth question!!*

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Hey, it's Siren here...my best bud and I have known each other for 13 years. We're both seniors in high school. All of a sudden, this year, I feel like we just...split. I can't talk to her about the important things in my life the way I can talk to my other friends. Like, a couple of my friends from band and I - well, I guess - bonded one night and I feel like I can talk to them more than I can talk to her, and I've only known them for 2 years. I can talk to them about things like french kissing with pop rocks (just an example, lol) and if I tried to talk to her about it, she'd just go "oh...um, okay," and change the subject or something. She's always been a little less mature than me, I suppose, even if she is a year older than me. But it's never bothered me until now. I want to be able to talk to her about these kinds of things, but I can't, and it's bothering me. Because of it, we're pretty much splitting. It really sucks because we used to be like sisters. She used to know all my secrets. Now only one person does, and it's not her. I wish it was, though. I mean, I miss being able to talk to her about anything. Help if you can?
-Siren =(

Aww.. I know how you feel! This year my best friend and I definitely started to drift too.. I really miss her but then all of a sudden- today we started hanging out again and talking, for whatever reason we kinda re-bonded.. not that i think everything's gonna change but it might be a little better now. I would talk to your friend about all this because chances are.. she's feeling the exact same way you are. A friendship goes 2 ways and I'm sure she misses you too. Don't ever let a friendship die. Good luck with that if you need anything IM me anytime!

Happy Holidays!
~Lana

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Okay well here it goes.I have a friend named Jordyn and she is a girl.Well she tells everyone everything that she hears or what you tell her.It sucks cause i really like her but i have to watch what i say around her or what happens cause she isn't also afraid to change things around and make things worse than it really is.Is this really a good friend to hang around or no?Also is this a true friend?Please help me!!
Love always,
XxshortyxX

I don't think this is a really good friend to hang out with... She doesn't really sound like a true friend either but don't judge her on just this. Sometimes friends can make mistakes. I would talk to her and find out why she does this.. is it for attention? or is she worried about people? If she doesn't change how she acts you can still stay friends but just be careful how much you tell her.

Hope I helped!
Happy Holidays!
~Lana

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my friend likes a guy that likes me and i don't like him. she will gladly step aside so that i can have him but i don't want him. he's perfect for HER. now she's saying she sucks because no one likes her and she's not pretty etc. but she IS pretty!! she is so awesome. what do i do to hint to the guy that my FRIEND is for him, not me? moreover, i want to remain friends with my friend.

Well if you talk to this guy.. just flat out tell him you're not interested but you definitely know someone who is. Tell him they're perfect for him and then tell him to think about it. Ask your friend though first if this is ok with her... I'm sure she won't mind! Good luck!

Hope I helped!
~Lana

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