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Dear Best Friend, are you gay!?!
Hey, I'm 13/f and I think that my best friend might be gay. I mean, she's rather stalker-like, won't stop givin me stupid out-of-the-blue hugs, and keeps telling me online that she loves me. It's making me feel really uncomfortable and I have NO clue what to do.
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She is probably just confused. About her sexuality, and also maybe because she thinks she has feelings for you. The best thing you can do if she has a crush on you is just to be a supportive friend and maybe introduce her to other people. Eventually she will get over you, but I hope you are still friends.
The only other thing I can think of is that maybe she feels pity for you, for whatever reason, and she wants you to know that you are loved.
But if it is that she has a crush, reject her nicely and don't break her heart.
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Well, I mean, my friends do that to me, too. I mean, like, lul = luv ya lots. Anyway, about the hugs and stuff, I think thats normal, too. I might be wrong on this one, I gotta admit, but where I come from, it's TOTALLY normal. To girls, that is. Take this advice from a STRAIT girl. Otherwise, just ask the girl. I hope I helped ;]
xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo
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Confront her about it... ask her if she is...
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She isnt gay. That is what bff's do!
♥ Michelle
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Well dont make conclusions too seriously. I mean, i give my friends hugs all the time, and i say i love you. But im not gay. Maybe your friend just wants you to know how much you mean to her, and how much of a good friend you are to her? I guess. I tried...
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chances are shes just messing aroundd. and ive know many girls to hug each other and then laugh at me when i make some sexual joke about it, girls jsut tend to be mroe touchy like that. jsut tell her it makes you uncomfortable
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just talk to her i mean if she is your friend some people i know hug each other out of the blue and hey maby you two can get together i am just kidding well talk to her and see what is going on
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You really have to talk to her about this and try to make her understand you don't like her that way. If she is a les/bi, she should understand that you're not like that and she'll back off. When girls have friends that are straight, they won't go for them, so don't worry about that. But you should have a talk with her. And since she's your best friend she should be able to tell you whats going on!
♥ Krissy
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hmm..i would talk to her tell her how you feel about it...thats the same with me but i no shes BI(she told me)
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WOW!! i never been in this situation butt ithink u should ask her if she is gay nd mabe try 2 talk her out of it!! hopefully it will work!
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I think that it is time to have a personal talk with her. You don't want to pass judgment on her though, because this is a time of self sexual discovery. You don't want to accuse her of being homosexual, but you don't want to deny her of being that either. I would talk to her in a place where you can't be overheard. Tell her that you're concerned about her general sexual preference. If you show you're not "weirded" out by it, she may confide in you about the confusion that she may feel.
She may reveal that she has homosexual or bisexual feelings, but that is normal. It is a sexual preference. During the conversation, you may also say that you don't feel comfortable the touching etc.
Hopefully things will work out the way that's best for you and her.
Yours,
Arun
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Sorry this kinda sounds like Mean Girls.. Anyway.. did you ever think maybe you're overreacting.. She may just be really friendly.. If she's been doing other things though that could be a sign, hugs aren't gay.. lol but since obviously she's making you really uncomfortable- tell her.. Next time she trys to hug you just pull away and say to her.. "You know I love you so much, but when you hug me a lot like that it makes me uncomfortable.." She'll most likely get the message.. but don't say that you think she's a lesbian.. that would be very wrong to assume.. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~Lana
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if she is ony 13 then she probably wont even know what she is. most people go through a stage where they think they might be gay. she could be or she might just be a really good and open person. if your uncomfortable, you are going to have to confront her.
~ANGE
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