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Friends. Drugs. Lost.
I was hanging out with a group of my friends the other day after school. We were just hanging out having a good time and one of my friends pulls out a joint and lights it. She started passing it around our group of friends and everyone took a puff of it but me. I basically just stood there confused. These innocent girls that I had known since I was 6 years old had just lit up a joint and smoked it. I am completely disgusted by drugs and drinking and I will never do it because it's the worst thing you can do to yourself. They started making fun of me that I wouldn't smoke it. I wasn't hurt that they were making fun of me, but I was just hurt at their stupidity for smoking it. I don't know what to do. They've been my friends for a very long time and have always been loyal to me, but this is something I can't handle. What should I do? Should I tell them they should stop? I'm so confused! Please help.
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okay i do drugs and shit and yeah i know there bad but i guess i wanted to try it to seee what it was like...i didnt want to be cool or any thing like that i just wanted to try...there is nothing wrong with wanting to try something...if you dont then thats okay to...if your friends dont understand then there not your true friends...but if you go though life saying what if then your always goin to wounder ...so dont wounder try...!
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when i was in this certain grade at school, we learned how we should handle these types of situations. TRY to tell them to stop, if that doesnt work GO TO an ADULT and tell them EVERYTHING that is going on. most likely a SMART adult would know what to do, and try confront THE OTHER GIRLS' PARENTs and see what they can do. if you still want to be friends with those girls and care way too much for them to just abuse themselves then seek help. they may hate you for a while but it will all be worth it and they might say thanks in the future. i hope this helps!
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I think you need to tell them how bad it is, and that they may be messing up their life.That's what friends are for...to be there for each other.Hope I helped:-)
*ashley*
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YOu should talk to them about their smoking/drugs when they are not doing them. Tell them exactly what you just did in ur question. aSK them WHY they are doing this? Tell them its stupid!
Hope I helped
<3 Anna
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I know exactly what you mean.. I too, will not drink or smoke and most of my friends do. It came as a shock to me too. You can try talking to them but, honestly, it won't do much good. They might just get defensive and try to tell you to stay out of it. In my opinion, it's their life and they have to learn that what they do has consequences. That's why when most of my friends do this stuff, I tell them I don't like that they're doing it, but I'm here for them all the same. There's really nothing more you can do. Talk to them and see how it goes, if they seem to really listen try to get them to stop as soon as possible. If you need anymore advice let me know..
Hope I helped!
~Lana
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It's your choice what you put in your body. Apart from them teasing you out loud when you're in a group, I suspect that some of your friends secretly respect you for standing up to peer pressure (something many teens want to do, but give in out of fear).
That being said, I agree with the person who said this is being blown way out of proportion. I also need to address all the people posting answers here using blatant misinformation. Marijuana has never been proved to be lethal. You would have to consume more than 5 pounds of the stuff to get anywhere near a dangerous dose. It hasn't even been conclusively linked to lung cancer. I've done a lot of research on this topic focussing on medical use, and any movies you've seen or information you've heard that condemns marijuana absolutely is propaganda.
These kids are being kids. They're experimenting with all sorts of new things and that's important in deciding what's right, or not right, for them. It's their choice and I think it would be futile to ask them to stop. You take care of you; telling on them will not help them, they'll just want to do it more because they've been told it's bad. Teens (who are not squeky-clean) tend to rebel and telling them not to do something is just what they need to fuel their fire. Bottom line for me is that it's their business what they put into their bodies and your business what you put in yours.
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Well first of all you cant control what your friends do; Trust me most of my friends smoke. So tell them how you feel about the smoking like how you dont like it and the thought of them doing. That might more than likely probably wont work so tell them that you know there is nothing that you can do about them smoking but they wont influence you to start. That way all of yall get ur way partially. You will still have your friends and not smoke and they will still smoke having you still tho. Hope I helped
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drugs are a personal desicion. im not gonna tell you theres nothing wrong with drugs, becasue there is. i am how ever gonna tell you that you are blowing it slightly out of proportion. tell your friends that you arent gonna smoke, and dont hang out with them while they are smoking thats about it. thats how i am with some of my friends taht are into drugs.
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You should tell them how you feel about it and if then dont stop then dont hang out with them. They don't seem like the right crowd for you if your not interested in doing things like that.
-jessie
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1st i would like to say good job on not breaking down on peer preasure, ok now to your question.I think you should try talking to them about this and getting them to stop.But if they dont listen then you can try getting help some other way, or try hanging with a new crowd of people, and try something new and hope they arn't like your old friend's, but if they listen to you that would be great and you wouldnt be comfussed anymore
!!I wish you luck!!
**~Silent Tears~**
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Firstly I think it was great of you to not give into the peer presure and do the things u didnt want to do just because you were the only one not doing it. I am also discusted by drugs and drinking. I think it is stupid and ridiculous. Anyway, i don`t think it is right tha tyour "friends" are making fun of you. They should respect your desision. You should deffinitly talk to them about quitting and help them. If they dont want to go to an adult who can help in this situation. but for the time being ask them to stop around u because it makes you feel uncomfortable. If they dont understand that you are trying to help you and still get madd at you maybe you should think about trying to meet some new people ? just a sugestion.
I hope I helped!
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You have to get them to stop. If you can't stop them yourself you need to get an adults help. This is one of the most deadly things someone can do to themselves. If you can find a way to have them view a documentary on what harm it does to their body. Or if you know any use medical facts. Large words sometimes make people feel tiny and scared so they may stop doing drugs out of fear. If you need anything else just leave one in my inbox. I hope I hlped! ♥ good luck
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Wow you're in a tough position, but good job for not breaking down to peer pressure. You should definetely talk to them about it and tell them that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Also, I'm not sure if you want to do this, but your school might have a Drug counselor. If so talk to the counselor about your friends and she might be able to help them. Good luck.
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if you know their going to smoke then ask them not to do it around you b/c your not gonna change your mind
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just be there friends even if they make fun of u try to tell them that it can kill u
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These girls, well, I can't say they are on something, 'cause they are, but I think you should defintely tell an adult, but then they will probably hate you. I think first you should confront them. But also, it's your duty as a friend to protect them and tell an adult. I mean, if they can't see that you were trying to help them now, they probably will in the future and will thank you for it later.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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I know some people are going to say "talk to an adult and get them help"...but in reality..not many people do that. Of course i would tell them to stop. Sometimes they need someone to tell them what they are doing is wrong for them to stop. Sometimes we get caught up in the wrong stuff...but i think your friends will snap out of it. The yare true friends..but right now threy took the wrong turn off the "path" as i call it. Keep being their friend..tell them you hatre seeing them like this and how you think drinking and drugs are crap. Hopefully they will come back to the path..but if not you have a descision to make. You can either chose to be theor friend but let them know you wont have anything to do with drinking/drugs..or if you feel you have to..you can leave them behind and make new friends.
I would stick by em for now
-melissa-
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to be honest you should'nt tell them what to do....but if you ask an adult they will forever be your enemies.....the best thing to tell you is to tell an adult or tell them to stop or you will leave them!!
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I think you should tell them that you think its disguating and ask them if they would please not do it around you!! If they give you a weird look or something they aren't the best friends you have!!
Hope I helped
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yeah tell them how you feel about it if they are that good of friends then they should stop for you but if they dont stop then i think that you should forget about them and go find other friends to hang out with hope i helped
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