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So sorry if this is long!!!
ohkay so i have a really close friend that likes me. we'll call him Bob. Bob and i are really close friends i tell him everything and when i talk to him it feels like everytihng at that moment is perfect. he's almost everything i want in a guy. i mean hes funny and really cares about me etc... the only thing is that i dont feel a physical attraction to Bob. in a relationship i think that you should be physically attracted to someone too its not like its a major deal but to me it matters.
theres also the fact that if we were to go out i wouldn't see him all that often. he goes to a different school and both of us are usually pretty busy on the weekends. (i got to my dads every other weekend which is an hour away) and on the other weekends i spend time with friends.
i mean i could always go out with him just for the summer but he really really means alot to me and i wouldnt ever want to hurt him. but i also dont want an "internet boyfriend".
so what should i do? do i just stay friends with him or should i go out with him? or what if we were "friends with benefits"?
help me i'm so confused!
Kait♥ (link)
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hey.
Physical attraction does factor into a relationship, but it isn't that much of a big deal. However, there should be at least a little bit of physical attraction in my opinion, but if you really care about him, then thats all that matters.
If you went out with him, it'd be a good thing that you guys don't see eachother alll the time, because then you have a chance to miss him if you know what i mean. because if you see him all the time, you'll most likely get sick of him right?
In my opinion, i think you two should go out. If you really care about him and know that he feels the same, then you guys deserve to be in a relationship that doesn't just require friendship. Maybe you can hang out with him in a group with your friends, that way your not ditching your friends, and your able to see him. He could even bring some of his friends, i mean it is nice to meet new people =]. Talk to your friends about it, and see if they'd like the idea of hanging out in a big group like that for a change. Sometimes you and him could spend some time alone, and sometimes you and your friends can hang out like you normally would, but you can also do the group thing. Plus there is always the phone and computer you can use when you guys aren't together.
hope everything works out =]
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Here's the story. I started going more to my church because i love listening about God right. So, this day that's where i met my best friend Raymond. When we met i felt this connection between us because we can talk about everything. We could tell each othe anything right. We used to hang out all the time none stop until one day we went out to this show called fuse right. We started holding hands and kind of flirting with each other that day was the best day of my life because for the first time i knew he was feeling the same way i felt about him. I mean we used to always send email to each other and call each other and talk for hours. But as the days pasted by the feeling was becoming stronger and stronger and this were starting to become intense with each other we start to kiss but i mean really kiss it got to a point it was none stop. And we couldn't stop thinking of each other and we were always there no matter what. But one day I didn't see him anymore. And we never broke up. And now that he's in my life again and i saw him again is akward we say hi to each other and smile at each other and always look for each other in the room but is like we don't know what to talk about or how to act around one another. And sometimes i regret going out with him sometimes i think maybe if we would have never gone out things weren't be this way. But i the same time i don't regret it because with him i felt a love that i never felt and i fell inlove with him and even though things are akward between us i still love him the same way and i can't keep him out my mind. And my question is this how can i stop loving him and just see him as my friend and how do i get things the way they used to be before when we were just best friends and used talk and laugh with each other. (link)
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wow, just wow. this kind of love, its very very rare and you are so lucky to have experianced it. I believe that once you love someone, you always love them, and really theres not much that you can do to change how your heart feels. Over time you will start to get over him, it may take a long time, but eventually you will. In the mean time try to keep yourself as busy as possible so you can take your mind off him. To get over him, you sort of have to allow yourself to get over him, which is pretty hard to do because if your heart really wants him then it will deffinetly take some time.
honestly, i can't say that things will go back to the way they used to be. I'm not sure how you can make it less awkward, but chances are that he still has feelings for you. I mean from what you said, you guys really fell for eachother, and a love like this in my opinion never dies.
you've gotta ask youself, do i want to just throw this love away? or do i want to keep it? if you really want to get over him and just be friends, than you've got to talk to him as a friend. Ease into the conversation and hopefully eventually things will be less awkward. If you want to keep the love you guys had then just confont him about it. be like "what happened to us? why is it like this now?"
well i hoped i helped in some way =]
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ok this is gonna be kinda long
In the middle of last year my BFF got a boyfriend and i was soo happy for her. But then she stopped hanging out with me. She ate lunch with him,all she talked about was her boyfriend. But then she got new friends and didnt even notice me. At dance she didnt want to talk to me either. So i told her how i felt and she said thats not true!! So then i said i dont want to be friends if u arent going to be a friend. so then her boyfriend said F*** YOU to me online:(
I told my friends and they informed my ex-bff. So she dumped him and her were friends again. The 2days lata she went back out with him. And she started doing the same thing that she did before. On the last day of school she dumped him. We are friends now but all she ever talks about is her ex-bf and she still doesnt talk to me at dance. Ok so here is my question: Should i still be her friend or forget about her?
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Well it seems to me that maybe she wants to be the center of attention at dance and be very social.. or maybe (and i hope you don't take offense to this) she feels embarrased around you when you guys are at dance.. and thats why she doesn't talk to you.. but either way.. she doesn't sound like a good friend. And as hard as it may be, i think you should distance yourself from her.. and if she really wants to be your friend.. she'll notice it and say something about it to you.. best friends are always supposed to be there for you and she sounds like she could care less about your feelings.
SHe's obviously not over her ex so you'll just have to talk some sense into her.. tell her that things obviously didn't work out between them and that there will be an even better guy out there for her.
Since it doesnt seem like she gets how you feel about her leaving you out at dance and forgeting about her and not caring about your feelings, then theres nothing you can do to change her mind.. but once she looses you, she'll miss you and regret being so mean to you.
hope i helped
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I know i already talked about this but i dont care. its REALLY BUGGiNG ME. my bestfriend krystal got a new bestfriend heather. and everything about her just kills me. the simplist things. i dont care if im accting immature. i dont want to make new friends. and i dont want to be friends with heather, the one who's stealing krystal away from me. all krystal talks about is heather this and heather that and how GOOD she is. it gets to me, so much. i cry myself to sleep so much. what do i do? i have already told krystal multiple times that i feel left out and ignored. (link)
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Well since your not willing to do any of these..:
i dont want to make new friends. and i dont want to be friends with heather, the one who's stealing krystal away from me.
Then theres nothing you can really do but try and hang out with krystal more.. do something fun that you know she would love.. so basically just try to steal her away from heather.
Since you've told her many times how you feel.. then don't be a nag and tell her again.. because that will most likely lead to a fight and then she'll really be closer with heather.
But really, you should try being friends with heather.. i mean at least you'd get to spend time with krystal.
And you should also try to make new friends.. doing that could make krystal feel the same way you do.. and then she'll realize how you felt with the whole thing with heather.
hope i helped
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i have a friend, and anytime we are hanging out alone or with other GIRL friends..shes normal and acts herself. but whenever we're hanging out with guys..she acts like a complete idiot, saying stupid things, acting stupid...just making herself out to be the stupidest girl ever!! and shes not stupid at all. after a party last night me and another friend told her and she was just like "you guys do it too and i don't care what people think" we do act dumb sometimes but we never take it a far as she does and after seeing her act so stupid- we will never do it again. she does it to get attention from guys and she gets it but its totally negative attention. its funny for a while, but then it gets annoying and everyone knos shes putting on an act. how do we get her to realize what shes doing is annoying and looking bad on herself? (link)
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well this is tough... she's in denial of acting stupid and i think that you should just keep trying to tell her how stupid she acts... i don't know if you'd like this idea.. but if she won't listen to what your telling her about how stupid she acts.. then if you have a digital camera that takes videos you can videotape everything she does around guys and then show it to her afterwards.. but if you don't want to do that.. then just keep telling her.. tell her that the guys aren't giving her good attention and its all negative.. tell her she should be herself and have a guy like her for who she REALLY is... hope i helped
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My best friends obviously have other friends, but I get so jealous when they have a conversation and I'm not part of it! I get even more jealous when they hang out without me! I really don't want to feel this way but I can't help it! What should I do?
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I know how you feel =/ it stinks! Maybe you can try hanging out with your best friends, friends... like all go in a chat room online together... or you could make new friends so that way when your other friends all ready of plans with their friends... you can hang out with your new ones... hope i helped
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I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
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its fine... people come and go in lives,.. and friendships change...you don't have to replace her.. its just this girls your new friend and the others your old... still keep in touch with her... but you don't have to rate which ones better than the other... she'll always have a special place in your heart
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Ok well I had a crush on a guy at school (a new kid) and I told my best friend (steph) and not (viv) I didnt tell her because I know she would do something stupid. Well steph knew the guy and talked him ad found some stuff about him 4 me. But then when viv found she got mad at me but then brushed it of then she did the stupidest thing she thought it would be funny if wrote this guy a nasty note and put y name all over it so she did it without telling me and then the next class when he was in my class he through it aint me and thought it was all me because it had my name all over I didnt say anything because I didn’t know what was even written on the note. So I told viv I didn’t want to talk to her again ands hen then started takin all my friends away from me and my ASB teacher started to notice that I wasnt with viv and started questioning me about it everyday until finally on the 3rd day I gave up and I showed him what has been happenin he called it sexual harrassment and said I should have to deal wit it so he gave it to the AP and viv got 2 weeks of cleanin bathrooms and in school suspension and for some reason I feel guilty I don’t know y but I do. Did I do the wrong thing? We on spring break and when we start school again I don’t know what to do can u plz help me? Sry for it bein so long! If you answer it I will give you 5’s!! please and thank you. (link)
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well... viv could be mad because maybe she likes the same guy you do... and that you didn't tell her... did you explain to her why you didn't tell her?... i don't think you should be friends with her... it sounds like she's jealous of you... and you definetly deserve a better friend than her... yyou didn't do anything wrong... your teacher was the one who turned viv in... maybe you should talk to your crush about this and tell him it wasn't you and that you really like him alot... and maybe you'll hit it off =] hope i helped
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Okay so my best friend is all of a sudden being a total jerk to me. She's saying I'm stupid when I'm an A- average student and she's a C average student. She's saying just because it took me a longer time to move up a level in gymnastics means I'm not as good as her when I'm the one who got her into it and she's only moving up a level because she wants to be better than me. I work my butt off to get the scores to move up but she gets a score 4 points lower than mine and she can move up. I have other friends but I spend more time with her. What should I do? (link)
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i think she is VERY jealous of you. SHe knows that you are smarter than her and that your better than her in gymnastics. MAybe you should start spending time with your other friends more... also talk to her about it... maybe she wants to be like you and your her role model or somthing... just don't let her get to you... you know your better than her... but don't go blabbing it to the world like she would because that shows your a bigger person then her.
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i have this girl who thinks i am here friend but i really cant stand her she is soooooo immature i think she is a lesbien too. i not saying i am against gay/lesbiens but some one who i thought who was my friend (not really) is now looking at me like i am her toy grosses me out. her sisters are really well behaved and are mature. i just wish she she would leave me alone. im not nice to her as a leave me alone sign but she dosnt get it. the reason y i think she is a lesbien is because in chorus class she turned around 31 times to me. its sisk. i mean i think she is obssesed with me . any ideas to tell her i dont want to be her friend? (link)
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if i were you... i would just avoid her... stop telling her your plans... if she comes up to you in the hallway be like sorry... i have to rush because i am going to be late for class... if she notices your avoiding her than talk about it with her... tell her you need a break ... or tell her that she is geting on your nerves and why... but don't just say to her "I DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS ANYMORE!!!" because that will most likely upset her... be calm when you are talking to her because she sounds like she is really sensitive
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i have this friend thats not very cool and no one really knows her...but she cuts herself..she showed me today and i started wondering why she would do that...i told my friend about it cause were in office aid together and she was feeling bad for her..she also smokes pot...do u think i should still be friends with her or not? (link)
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you should definetly be her friend... right now she needs some one to be there for her... help her to enjoy life so she won't cut or smoke... just make sure you don't get pressured into doing that junk... help her through everything
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hey. i went out with this guy for almost a year and then he dumped me, and for some reason i never asked him why. this happened a couple months ago, and we never really talked much after that, we barely said hi in the halls. yesterday, i realized that i still like him, more than i want to, in a way. i was online yesterday, and a friend who knows that i like him talked me into iming him, and i did. it wasnt really awkward, it felt good that we were talking. i'm not sure if i would go out with him again, but i dont think he would go out with me if i wanted to. we're both single, and i dont know what to do. he asked me if i had a bf, and my friend said that it was a signal, but then he said he liked being single. i dont really know what to think and what i want. but i do know that i wish i were friends, good friends, with him again, liek before we went out. please help me. (link)
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if you want to be friends than just start talking to him online or saying a simple hello to him in the halls at school... he might have said he liked being single to get you upset since you guys have had a rough past... start out with just being friends again and than see what happens
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Okay there is this guy named Justin which I am going out with him. And there is this other guy that I like named Michael. Well, Michael doesn't like me, only as a friend. But I am going out with Justin and he likes me alot but i don't like him. Should I stay together with Justin(even though I don't like him) or should I brake up to try and get togehter with Michael(even though he doesn't like me ?).
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I would say not to go with either of them... your just going to hurt justin in the long run if you keep "pretending" you like him.... you can still like this other guy but don't tell him until you get the feeling that he likes you back... flirt with him and whatever... just don't flat out tell him.
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My best friend is moveing to new york and she said she would call me when she gets there it has been 2 weeks and i have heard no phone call ... i dont know if she is there or not or she just forgot. i dont want our friendship to end. please help me.
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does she have AIM or e - mail... i no this is a tough time for you... i live in NY and my best friend lives in Florida... she's been gone for about 4 years now.... and i cried everyday for the first day because we did practically everything together... and even though we aren't as close as be4 , we're managing to still be great friends and she is suppose to come and visit me in the summer... don't worry... if you guys are true friends... you'll stay friends
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OK here's the deal... me and my two best friends, Julie and Jaimee we had this whole lil group thing going and we all put in our whole personality thing into it... so0o we decided ok we'll invite this other girl Kourtney into it... so kourtney she is the more sluttier of all of us and she has her way wit guyz... no offense to her... so0o Julie has been gettin really close wit Kourt and basically she is turning into Kourt.... she never was slutty AT ALL omfg... u have no clue.... but all of a sudden i mean it's like we have another Kourtney on our hands... I have nothing against Kourtney but I mean you can only have one Kourt... I miss the old Julie...the one that I knew... and I have no idea how to get her back....she's basically being a "pimpette" right now... handling two guyz at once... BOTH of which she doesn't even like... the old Julie would never EVER do this... how do I get her to realize that she's turning into Kourtney and how do I get the old Julie back?? thanks in advance... (link)
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hang out with her alone... talk to her about it... if your making plans for the night with your "group" don't invite kourtney... and if julie asks where's kourtney just be like well shoud couldn't come. Also, maybe find a new person to bring into the group who is not a slut at all... this way julie can be friends with her maybe turn back into the old julie
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I have a huge crush on this guy and just when he was starting to like me someone told him i was talking about him behind his back and now he wont talk to me. I've been crying my eyes out for hours now and life isnt worth living without him i dont know what to do....please help me im so upset hes the first guy ive ever cried over :( :( :( (link)
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aww... well i would definetly talk to him. Does he know you like him? If he doesn't go up to him and be like i never talked about you behind your back, i couldn't do that because i like you so much. and then see what he says... explain to him that it is definetly not true. If you don't want to ask him out just be like "so can we be friends again?" this way you get to know him better and he'll learn to trust you more.
any more questions, just leave them in my inbox
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Ok well let me tell you the whole story! Last year i was a frosh and timid and shy and i had a boring life. I only had 2 real friends. This year I realized that this was no way to live... I decided I wanted to have A LOT of friends! One of my friends last year gets on my nerves SOOO much! So i barely hang out with her anymore because of that! but the other one and I are still best friends! Well since I'm not extremely tight with my new group yet, things are a bit sketch. Some days i feel like they reallllyyyy like me and I LOVE IT! but then other days it feels like they are just annoyed with me... i dont know what to do! Everyday its different! How do i get closer with them? (link)
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wow i have the same exact problem... like i had only 2 real friends last year but this year i have tons but somedays we're kool together but others we're not. To tell you the truth, i kind of like having two real friends better than a bunch that some days are cool and others aren't... but i can't go back to that. I am starting to get closer with them by just using 3 way calling so every1 can be on the phone at once... like i 3 way some one and than my other friend does it and then my other until we are all on the phone together... also i try and hang out with them outside of school... its alot different andd way more fun.. and if i feel like i am being excluded i tell them and we work it out... just be more outgoing and have fun... don't go into school and be like planning what your going to do to get closer with them, just go with the flow and if anything random pops into your mind just say it cauz you can wind up getting a good laugh out of that.
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Okay...I'm 18, and I have these two certain good friends that I've been friends with for a couple of years. I've been feeling left out lately, because they're going to the same college, and I'm not, and they always talk about it in front of me. We also have this thing where we wait for each other after soccer practice, and lately they've just left without me, talking and laughing all the way. I take this as a sign that they just forget me, and it makes me mad. One of the girls I was good friends with until the other one came along, and now they're best friends. And I'm left out. I keep giving them HUGE hints that they're leaving me out, but they're either too clueless to know, or just don't care. What should I say to them/do?? (link)
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Well you can't force some one to like you better than the other person... maybe you should hang out with them induvidually... and get to know them better... that will give them a chance to start liking you more. If that doesn't work than definetly tell them how you feel don't just give hints.
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My best friend never beleives me she always beleives her mom or ... ANYONE exept me, then i yelled at her because she is my best friend and is sopposed to beleive me, so she got really sad and i feel bad for me making her sad and her not beleiving me. what should i do i need to know now (link)
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YOu should talk to her and tell her ur sorry for yelling... make her feel good and tell her she's a good friend. If your friend doesn't want to believe u she doesn't have to... she has her own mind... so don't try and force her to believe you.
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I was bullied at the age of eleven by my so called best friend, because she was jealous of what I had. This made me depressed from a very young age.
The weird thing is, I'm still friends with this girl now. She's changed, and after all she was only young when she did this to me.
However, the bullying still scars me. This girl and I are forever competing with each other for peoples attention and we argue often. We never talk about the past because it's over now, but I think we're both hurt inside.
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I think yyou should let her no ur still hurt.. if you don't want to bring it up than you can either:
a) go with the flow
b) Stop being her friend
c) ignore her and that will make her ask you why you are ignoring her and than just say that your still hurt about everything.
If i were you i would take a brake from being her friend because if she were my friend i would be pissed every minute of the day.
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