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Q: ok here it goes there are a couple of guys that i am interested in and i cant decide who i like the best ( im 16/f) the first one is reelly hott and hilarious but he gets in trouble alot too and theres this other guy hoos one of my good friends and stuff but he annoys me all the time(hes just a little less hott)in a flirting kinda way and another guy who is so sweet and i know he likes me cause he asked me out before but i said no. So i was wondering if anyone could tell me which guy i should go out with and why *ill rate good for a good answer*
i say the very sweet one,because if the first one gets introuble alot he probally wont get to see you alot because hes to busy getting introuble and if the second one annoys you.. cross him out. and the 3rd one seems sweet and theres nothing wrong with him in your eyes. then i say go for him!!

hope i helped.
tell me how it goes.
Amberr.

Q: hey im 13 and my girlfriend is 19 and we do everything together..go to the movies, mall, make out, and more! the only problem is that i think she might be seeing someone else...whenever she picks me up to go somewhere shes always late..what should i do?

-lover boy
maybe shes being fashionably late. or maybe she got caught up getting ready to look beautiful for you. just call her and ask her why shes late. or listen in the backround..

hope i helped.

Amber

btw .. why do you have a 19 yearold girlfriend?

Q: Okay! Im 13 and have the oddest fear. I go to bed at like 1 30 AM and than ill go to the bathroom at like 2 and ill go to the bathroom and than go to leave but ill be too scared. So ill end up sleeping in the bathtub!! Its cuz im afraid someones in the house but no one ever is. Is there a way to get over the fear?
i have an idea, when you go to leave your bathroom shut your eyes and tell yourslef that no ones in the house and keep saying it and make your way to your room. and then. everythings ok! orrrr. you could bring a cd player and listen to it while you wak and dont pay attention to anything except the music.

hope i helped
(oh and if you close your eyes and walk into things im sorry, maybe try putting your hands over your eyes and peek through as your walking)


Amber

Q: ok, my girlfriend's dad died the other day (they were on vacation in Qubec with her, her dad, her mom, & 2 friends) & so she was very upset & so she broke up with me. I understood & said it was ok. & so I bought her a card (witch I'm gonna send once I get her address from her friend) & I'm afraid to call her & everything cos I don't want to talk about it & that'd be the only thing we'd talk about.

but what I'm asking is if I should wait for her to get over it all & maby go back with her, or if I should just move on?

more about our realationship, she lives about 45 mins. away & I haven't been able to see her much & I haven't been the best boyfriend since I'm going through some really hard times right now, but I try

I'm 14/M & shes 14/F

thanks
aww, well first of all you should tell her your very sorry for what happened,and i think you should move on,but always keep her in your thoughts and be there for her when you need her. because it will make her feel alot better. and if you dont see her much and havent been the best boyfriend.tell her and say that you both should move on.

hope i helped,Amber

Q: 16/F (I'm a waitress..)

There's this guy from work that I like, and I'm not sure if he likes me as more than a friend, or just a friend.

I'm not sure, but I think he flirts with me. He'll steal a salt shaker from one of my tables, and won't give me it back unless I chase him around the kitchen for it. He shouts my name across the dining room, and risks getting fired for it. He talks to me a lot, and will usually even help me clear a table just to talk to me.. he does little things for me like that. If I'm carrying a tray, or something, he'll put his hand on my back and help guide me through the doors. I'm a pretty shy person, so I hate it when I talk to customers as I'm clearing a table, so usually he'll come over and talk to them for me...

But.. there's two other girls.. and they usually go up to him, and hug him. And they're pretty. And outgoing. And I don't know, I just don't think he likes me. How about you?
i do think he likes you,because he flirts with you alot,and by the way its reeallyyy adorable.and,the two other girls. he probally just knows them from somewhere,and it seems he doesnt act like how he acts to you like he acts to them,and he seems like a really really nice guy,and i think he likes shy girls,because if he didnt why would he flirt with you soo adorably like he does?so i thinkk. you shouldd. talk to him more and stuff ,and get his number and talk to him more and see what hes like. (who knows maybe he has feelings for you and you two could have a realationship )

hope i helped..

amber

Q: I have like this guy since last year. We have flirted a little bit and stuff like that, but i cant tell if he likes me. He stares at me all the time during class. But when we talk on AIM, he will be really mean. Except, today, I randomly asked if he had seen "Coach cater" because i wanted to know if it was a good movie, and he said "no, but do u want to go?" I said i was already going witha friend, and he was like "fine ur loss". I dont know if this was some kind of joke, or if he really likes me! Please help me out!
he problly really likes you because a guys usual.. type of way about showing that he likes you is pissing you off nd shit it gets anoying.. buttt.. he wouldnt of asked you to the movies if he didnt like you.. soo yeahh just ask him.. and tell me how it goes..!!

x3 ab

Q: ok um, the girl i'm with as of current LOVES it when i kiss her neck, are there any other spots that make girls go crazy when u kiss them there?
-open for suggestions, thanks ^__*-
um how bout try THIS ONE

'THEIR LIPS!!!

such a crazy idea.. i kno.. but we like it..

Ab x3

Q: There's this boy that i've liked since about 5th grade his name is Brian. I'm in 9th now btw. He's liked me since 2nd. We've been sorta close, but me & my boyfriend of like 2 months broke up. It wasn't serious AT ALL. But, I really like Brian. If I dated him, would it look bad? I mean me n my bf just broke up like a week ago. please help
no becuse.. if it wasnt serious at all... then why would anyone care?

Ab x3

sorry of i sound bitchy..

Q: Is it too early for sex if you've only gone out with the guy for 2 months? and dont tell me i shouldn't do it at all
well it depends on how much you know the kid and like him...

Ab x3

Q: I really like this guy. Hes in all of my switching classes. The thing is i don't know what to do. I don't know if he likes me or not. Once i wasn't looking and he was right by me and when i turned my head i saw that he was staring at me...
At school i noticed that he wont look at all. He kinda avoids me... does this mean anything.

Also, does anybody have any good topic starters so i can try to talk to him.

Thanks! by the way i'm 13-f
maybe hes shy and doesnt want you to know he likes you and just go up to him n talk about umm..and tell him you should hang out sometime or something ..

hope i helped tell me how it goes

Q: In your opinion, is 13 years old too young to be fingered? If you really can't get any STDs then what's the harm?
no 13 is not too young of an age my friend is turning 13 and she already got it done like 8 times by her boyfriend soo noo it aint too young

hope i helped

Q: When getting fingered.. what do you do.. as the girl..
sit there let it happen and kiss so it isnt an akward moment lol
x3 Ab..

Q: ok..lets get to it my bestfriend wants me to smoke weed with her and i dont want to but she said she wont be my friend if i dont do it....what should i do
Well.. i think you SHOULDNT smoke because then you have a bigger chance of DIEING and i think you should explain to you friend that its stupid if she gets mad at you because you are making a HEALTHY choice and i think she sould to.. but dont get in a fight.. because.. fights smell.. and you get in trouble alot and people after you.. its kind of funny.. lol
tell me how it goes

Ab. x3

Q: okay my friend susan started cutting herself whenever she gets confused sad or mad.i mean our friend lisa goes to theropy for it so i wood think susan wood know better. but she does it more now than she used to. i mean its not deep thank god but i mean its still bad. i told her i wodont get mad at her if she came out and told me she was about to do it so i codo help her. cas i got mad at lisa n seh stoped comign to me for advice and i dont want that to happen to one of my closer friends. i told her whenever she thinks about doing it to call me and id always be there for her. i dont wanan tell anyone cas shell get mad at me. n if it gets worse i think im gunna tell someone cas teachers hav been noticeing how depressed she is. is there anything else i can or should do?

xo briana .. i rate =)
Ok well first of all you DONT get mad at people for cutting.. its stupid and mean... they cant help there emotions.. and second of all try to get things off her mind.. go out ..go to he movies.. anywhere.. just to get her happy.. and if your going to tell someone first go to you mother/father/guardian and tell them.. or if you dont feel comfortable go to the guidence.. and see how it goes fromthere

Tell me how it goes.. thanks..

Ab. x3

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My names Amber.. i live in Lowell.. umm.im 13.. obsessed w/music..i like questions that are INTERESTING not STUPID.. umm... yeah... my best friend is >> xl h0ll0w Li3s lx

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