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ya when i saw one of my old guy friends that i havent seen in 2 years we were just chillin and stuff and we were jokin with eachother like old times and when i was on the phone wit my 2 best buds they were sayin that he liked me and i started to laugh and i asked them what made them think that he liked me and one of them said did u see the way he was actin towards you and im was sayin that he has been always like that towards me and i wouldnt believe them because hes one of my good friends and i really didnt listen to them and i dont want him to like me so i dont know what to believe but i know for sure he doesnt like me that way but what should i do anyway?

dont do anything unless he tells you he likes you. in that case, tell him nicely that you only think of him as a friend. if any of your friends ask, say you dont like him like that. just be truthful about your feelings because it will work out for everyone best in the end.
good luck (:

♥lAuRa

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okay so I have known this girl (my best friend) for years we are both 17 and almost 18 and latley she has been totally ditching me, and this guy I have liked for many years just home because he moved for 2 years and now she tells me she likes him, and whenever we hang out she'll say how she got to spend so much time with him or whatever it really bothers me though what should i do, is she jelous? and also when people give me compliments she tries to tell me that they didn't mean it or it isn't true!! HELP.

Since she has recently started acting that way, you should talk to her about it. Tell her you don't like the way she is acting. Just give her a chance to get things together. If she continues the jealousy, maybe you two should take a break from each other awhile. You also might want to talk it over with the guy you like, to make sure he understands.

♥ laura

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my friend, casey has been my best friend since 4th grade. i love her like a sister. but lately she seems almost obbsessed with me. like she almost killed herself cause i was mad at her. she cut herself; her reason was that she felt depressed cause i was mad at her. now shes mad because i decided to stay home and clean tonight instead of go out to a pizza party at our church. i want to get this cleaning done cause im having my sisters communion party here next weekend. is it just me or does it seem like she almost has a crush on me?

I don't think she has a crush on you. Right now it seems like she's really insecure. Since you're her best friend, when you get mad at her she might feel like no one likes her. You just need to be there for her and try to help her through these insecurities. If you alone can't help her, you should ask a trusted adult for guidance. I hope she's OK, and good luck. =)

♥ lAuRa

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I feel as if my friend and I are drifting apart but I dont want to! She is like my sister. She quit dance and now we hardley ever see eachother. She means so much to me but i feel as f we are drifting apart. What do I do?

Call your friend and tell her how you feel. She might feel the same. Invite her out to lunch or over for a sleep over or something. Make it just the two of you so you can catch up on what's going on. After this try to keep in contact with her regularly. =)

♥ lAuRa

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ok my best friend is going out with kid and he is younger than her and he is crazy and jumped her brother and pulled a knife out on him and said he was going to kill me and our other friend to but she wont listen to me,.. i tell her to dump him but she said she loves him and i dont no what to do and they had sex and he is two years younger (sorry i cant spell) and they have only bin going out for like three weeks and i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP!!!=(

Omg...well it's possible he's threatening to kill her too if she breaks up with him or tells anyone what's going on. Get her over your house without letting him know. Talk about it with her. Let your parents know and they will probably call the police. It's for the best. You never know if he's going to carry out those threats. I hope everyone stays safe. =)

♥ lAuRa

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ok so i have this friend, brittany, and we just became friends like over the summer. we were really really good friends and we did a lot stuff together until one month ago. she started blowin me off at skool and not invitin me to her house but other ppl. so i got mad and she did too so we were mad for a while until i decided that our friendship is too good for us to be mad at each other. so i apologized. and i told her that i was only mad cuz i felt left out and stuff like that. well when i told her that she got mad at me!! but then a week later i just said srry and nothin else. so now she doesnt talk to me as much and she still invites friends over but not me. oo yea and i cant just not b friends with her cuz she is on my soccer team and her dads tha coach(i no im screwed) so please help me fix this!!!! 13/f

If she won't listen to you in person, try writing a note. Tell her how sorry you are that you two aren't friends anymore. Make it meaningful so she sees how much you care. Slip the note to her during school or maybe after soccer practice. This might sound kind of weird but it's always an option. After soccer practice ask her dad to have a talk with her about it. It's your last hope to get her back. If she still doesn't want to be friends, you'll have no choice but to let go. She might try to fix the problem herself later, or she could just move on. Sometimes friendships end this way. Consider the expression, "After every storm comes a rainbow." =)

♥ lAuRa

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hey girl its me roxygirl or kirstie. i feel so bad for you, do you still have the stomach flu? well if you do i hope you feel better. so what have you been up to? i have been doing nothing besides being on the computer lol!! hahahehe!! so im glad you put me on you favorite collumist. i put you on mine too. so do you like my collumn it pink and happy bunny DOES ROCK!! HEHE!! well write me back a soon as you can. tata!! lol!!
~kirstie~

Hey! Yeah, I'm still kinda sick. :-/ I've been playing the Sims lately lol. I like your column it's cool. =) Yep happy bunny is awesome lol. ttyl!

♥ lAuRa

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On new year's eve, I have to go to my grandparents for 3 days. I really don't want to go because they live a long way away from us and all my friends. The only way I will be able to keep in touch with my friends is through text message because they don't let me use their phone and I can't afford to call on mine. They don't even have a computer so their's no msn either. I know it's only three days but I am going to be so bored, what can I do to stay in touch with my friends apart from texting? There isn't any point writing letters because it's only three days.

When I went on a trip for a few days my mom gave me a calling card. You can use one of those. Also when my computer is down I go to the library. Ask your grandparents if there is one near their house so you can use the computer. Another option is to bring a lot of quarters and use a pay phone to call your friends. That's pretty much all the choices you have left. I hope they work. =)

♥ lAuRa

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well me and my friend went to wall mart and stole...and got caught but she blamed it on me and made my poarents pay for the shit she did and i dontr wnat ot tell my mom nor dad cause it will get her in trouble and i dont want to and she says that she will always be there for me....is she telling the truth or is she useing me
and
p.s
shes spoiled and boses me around liek im her slave...
help me please!!!

She shouldn't be treating you like that. Don't let her! She should be punished for what she did because she deserves it. Tell your parents. Your friend needs to get a taste of her own medicine. Hopefully this will be a lesson learned for her. A true friend doesn't blame things on you and boss you around. If she doesn't soon come to her senses, you might want to find other friends to hang out with.

♥ lAuRa

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"hug" "hug" thanx for putting me on your buddy list, I did the same 2 you like 2 weeks ago. you are like the only one that has me on their buddy list im glad you did. so I just wanted to say thanx for the advice it really helped, and I have decided to pick david. well I should go now so I will talk to you later bye. "hug"!!

your welcome! I'm glad you made a good decision. =)
♥ lAuRa

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me and my best friend (hes a guy) went out b4...but now we are best friends. but i think i still like him...but im not sure. and i dont think he likes me but it always seems like hes flirting w/ me but it could be cuz we r friends...im confused please help.

It's hard to tell with best friends. The only way to find out is to tell him how you feel. Don't be shy, just go for it. If he has a good reaction, ask him out. If his reaction isn't so good, go back to being a good friend. You can still build on the friendship. Maybe it will eventually lead to something more. =)
♥ lAuRa

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Ok i know this guy online and he thinks im rich .I met him because he made this site called y terror and i went to it and ever since then we became good friends.Well to get to the point he is selling ALL his sites that he worked so hard @ to get money for a car and i dont even think he is using it for a car so i LIED i know i feel really bad now .. and i said i would give him the 800 dollors so he wouldnt have to sale his site now he thinks since i promised him i would send him money from western union that he will get it but the truth is when he goes the money wont be there because i dont have it either and when i lied and said ill give it to him he said

Thank you so much your really nice my mom kicked me out ( he is only 17 ) and i live in my buddy's attic and eat mac and cheese every night and then he said now i wont have to eat mac and cheese every night


i really want to be his friend but i cant tell him im not giving him the money so what do i do ??

p.s. he told my sister he wanted to go out with me

Aww hun I'm really sorry about this. But you've gotta do the right thing. He's going to find out sooner or later you're not giving him the money. The sooner you tell him, the better. He's going to be crushed, but you can't change anything now that it's done. If he's a true friend he won't hate you for lying and not giving him the money. He will be sad but he will accept the truth. If he can't deal with it, maybe you should let loose on the friendship until he can handle it (if he ever forgives you.) He sounds like a really nice guy though, so I think you've got hope. I mean he wanted to go out with you, so he must see you for your good qualities.
♥lAuRa

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I have this friend who can get on my nerves so much because she just tries to control everyone! well many people i know complain about her and it is so annoying. she is always in my face like am i your best friend and i made you a picture but im not gonne give it to you and do u hate me, and AHHH ITS IS SO ANNOYING!!! i like want to scream my head off when im around her and answer all her questions "truthfully" and AHHH!!!!!! but i cant because she like gets my friends mad at me and why do i care? AHHH WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

This so called "friend" is sure not acting like one. First off, you have to talk to the friends she's making get mad at you. Tell them she is really hurting you they shouldn't listen to what she says. It's time for you to stand up for yourself and ignore her. If she continues to follow you and talk, give her the cold shoulder and walk off. You don't have to be pushed around. Hang out with your other friends, leaving her in the dust. She will get lonely quick and realize her behavior is causing a loss of friends. If your other friends are true, they won't believe what she says an listen to you instead. No one likes to be left out, so either she finds another person to bug or she will change. You could try talking with her about it, but I'm not sure she'd take it well. Good luck on this! =)
*laura*

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ok to understand my question here is what happened before...Sorry it is long!!!

my friend kristina is dating this guy named richard. Well they dated for about 1 year before breaking up because he is constantly a jerk to her. He was possesive and always jealous. When she would talk to her friends while talking to him he would flip out and he would flip out if she talked to other guys. Well, many times before she wanted to break up with him but he would always say he loved her so much and that he would change but he never did. Even her parents hated himZ Well, right before school started he wanted to get back together with her. (**Me and Kristina talked every day**)She wasnt sure if she should because of how he used to treat her. I kept telling her not to because she would only get hurt again. Well, she is dating him now and she totally changed. SHe never talks to me or her best friend Kayliee anymore. We both said that if she keeps this up that when she needs we might not be there anymore. What can I do to make her see what is going on and that he is a jerk without hurting her feelings or anything.

Kristina is probably very confused on what to do now. Richard is saying how much he loves her, but is also keeping her away from her friends. She is accepting what this guy is doing to her, which is not a good thing. Kristina may not accept what you need to say to her, but it's dire she hears it from you. Tell her you really think he's a jerk and he's hurt her too much. Let her know that she shouldn't let him control her like this. Kristina is so caught up in his tangled web of lies she will likely be upset and confused. If she doesn't believe you, don't think your words were useless. I bet right after you have the conversation she will think to herself about what you're saying. Kristina will realize inside how he really makes her feel. She's going to figure out everything on her own. Kristina is not hanging out with her friends anymore because he's such a jealous person. She's trying to steer clear from all the things about him that hurt her and go for the better things. He says he loves her, but if he really loved her he wouldn't be so controlling of her and her own life. Give it time. Sooner or later her sensitivity will drop and they will go their own way. You're a good friend for caring about Kristina's feelings, but I think she's going to learn this lesson in life by herself. =)
//laura

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I recently ran into a guy who I have known since we were little kids.It's been a long time since we've seen each other,and I always had a crush on him when we were young,and I didn't wanna let myself feel it again but when we ran into each other it brought back all those feelings.Anyway,my BFF,tho I love her,she...well,sleeps around a lot,and she right away started saying how hot this guy is and how much she wanted to *get* with him.I asked her to please not do anything with him because I do still like him,and it would hurt my feelings a lot.She said she can't guarantee that she couldn't do it,and that she's "taking a chance" with him.Basically,she's gonna go 4 it anyway.She says he told her he couldn't date me because it's me(meaning we go back so far as friends and our families were real tight).And she tells me he asked if it was ok if he called HER sometime.But when we were all hangin together he was acting interested in me and seemed...less than amused or interested by her.It's breaking my heart that she's gonna do this.The thought of them together makes me sick to my stomach.I've had nightmares,been unable to sit still,felt sick to my stomach,all because I'm so upset over this.But she says she basically doesn't care,and that she's not gonna fight and I can "take it how I want".What should I do? Even the mere idea that he would be into her is mind boggling to me,and especially cuz he really wasn't all actin like that,he kept huggin me and talkin about old times,and he even talked to my mom on the phone for God's sake!And the idea that he would ever be into her makes me feel sick.I cried all night last night and all morning this morning. HELP!!Thanks,I'll rate ya!

Hun, I really think your friend is lying to you. If this guy is acting like that when he's around you, he would not say that about you. He's acting like he's interested in you, but your friend is so jealous she's making up these lies. If he doesn't seem to like her at all, he wouldn't sleep with her. If you can't get through to her, maybe he can. Take him aside and explain what your friend is attempting. Ask him to set her straight if he really doesn't like her, which it seems right now like he doesn't. You've been suffering without him. I really hope you tell him how you feel, because it's possible he feels the same way. Try calling him more. If you see him in the hall or something, catch up with him and have a chat. Really, if this guy doesn't like her you don't need to be feeling so bad. =)
[[laura]]

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What do you do when your best friend is kind of blowing you off and when you aren't hanging out anymore. I miss her and don't want to let go.

It sounds to me like she might want some space right now. Maybe she found different friends to hang out with. Catch her in the hall or call her. Tell your best friend you'd really like to hang out more and that you don't like when she blows you off. Talk about how you're feeling. If shes's a true friend she will try and make time for you so you can hang out. Suggest seeing a movie or going to her house sometime when she's not busy. If she still continues to ignore you, that's her choice. She doesn't know what she's missing out on with a good friend like you, so you'd have to let go and hang out with your other friends. I hope it all works out for the best!! =)
*laura*

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I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.

Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.

I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :(

it sounds like she is trying to make herself feel better, because maybe she's not so secure inside. if she wont listen to you when you confront her, you have other options. if this behavior is really bugging you, try to avoid getting in these situations where she acts like that. when its happening, walk away and ignore her. this will give the hint that you are fed up with what she's been doing. if you know of any problems she's been having that could cause stress, let your friend know you are there for her.
*laura*

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My best friend was flirting with the guy i really like. What should I do?

aww tell her that you dont like what she is doing. be straight forward and let her know you'd like a chance with him. if she's a true friend she will respect you and back off. keep that in mind if she ignores your request =)
*-laura-*

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