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BFF/Guy Troubles
I recently ran into a guy who I have known since we were little kids.It's been a long time since we've seen each other,and I always had a crush on him when we were young,and I didn't wanna let myself feel it again but when we ran into each other it brought back all those feelings.Anyway,my BFF,tho I love her,she...well,sleeps around a lot,and she right away started saying how hot this guy is and how much she wanted to *get* with him.I asked her to please not do anything with him because I do still like him,and it would hurt my feelings a lot.She said she can't guarantee that she couldn't do it,and that she's "taking a chance" with him.Basically,she's gonna go 4 it anyway.She says he told her he couldn't date me because it's me(meaning we go back so far as friends and our families were real tight).And she tells me he asked if it was ok if he called HER sometime.But when we were all hangin together he was acting interested in me and seemed...less than amused or interested by her.It's breaking my heart that she's gonna do this.The thought of them together makes me sick to my stomach.I've had nightmares,been unable to sit still,felt sick to my stomach,all because I'm so upset over this.But she says she basically doesn't care,and that she's not gonna fight and I can "take it how I want".What should I do? Even the mere idea that he would be into her is mind boggling to me,and especially cuz he really wasn't all actin like that,he kept huggin me and talkin about old times,and he even talked to my mom on the phone for God's sake!And the idea that he would ever be into her makes me feel sick.I cried all night last night and all morning this morning. HELP!!Thanks,I'll rate ya!
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Ok, are you sure he said that he didn't want to go out with you? or do you think your friend might have said that to put you off so she has an easier chance of being with him? I'm sure this guy must know about your friends reputation and even if the worst comes to the worst and something does happen between them, you know it wouldn't be anything more as he'll only be up for a bit of fun with her. The fact that he seemed more interested in you than her shows that he cares more about making an impression on you than her and obviously wouldn't want to cause you any upset. Have you tried telling him that this is what your friend has been saying about wanting to get with him?
Him saying he couldn't get with you seems like he's meaning right now. This doesn't mean it won't happen in the future. You need to concentrate on being friends with him and really getting to know him before taking a step further. Did your friend tell him you wanted to go out with him? If not then he probab;y does like you more than a friend but wants to see what your reaction is to what he said. It is obvious that he prefers your company rather than hers so stick at it and I'm sure it will work out. I'm sure he knows exactly what your friend is like.
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Doesn't seem like this girl is your best friend. It seems like he wants to be friends again though so invite him over some time. If your best friend doesn't want him to go or would rather have you not you invite remind her of what she did to you. Tell her how you feel and give her a good understanding.
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Well, ok if this guy doesn't want to go out with you because he always known you as family and just nothing more than a friend or best friend then I would agree with him and just get over him and find someone new like they say *there's more than one out there*! :) But if your friend says she can't garauntee that she won't hurt your feelings then that's not a true friend either becuase 1) I would ~Never~ do that to one of my friends nor would they do that to me 2) You deserve to be treated better most likely because you sound sweet and all. But you do need to get over him because first of all if you and your friend and him are hanging out and he *Finally* notices you that means that he needs someone there to show off that he can get you. That's my advice to you. Talk to your friend once more and if she don't listen screw her *Not litterally* haha but yeah and get over that guy. Becuase if he really cared or had feelings for you then he wouldn't be all up in your bestfriends shit ya know? Well hope i helped good luck :)!!
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Well your friend is obviously putting one over on you if he is acting interested yet she's telling you something else. The fact is she's interested and wants to make you feel like he's not interested in you so it's easier for her to have a go at him. That's wrong and you should not let her do that. You should maybe call him up and just hang out with him just the two of you, before she has a chance to screw your chances up.
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I think YOU should talk to him! It seems like your friend is talking to him more than you are. You should tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same or if he's into your friend. I think there's a good chance he's into you - you should take the chance and go for it, maybe things will work out! Tell me how it goes!
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ok .. shes not being a good friend if shes gonna go and try to .gET WIth. the boy you like. shEs obviously lying to you if he acts like that towards you. try talking to him yourself. hope i helped.. goOd Luck hun.. [xO_heAtHEr]
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Hun, I really think your friend is lying to you. If this guy is acting like that when he's around you, he would not say that about you. He's acting like he's interested in you, but your friend is so jealous she's making up these lies. If he doesn't seem to like her at all, he wouldn't sleep with her. If you can't get through to her, maybe he can. Take him aside and explain what your friend is attempting. Ask him to set her straight if he really doesn't like her, which it seems right now like he doesn't. You've been suffering without him. I really hope you tell him how you feel, because it's possible he feels the same way. Try calling him more. If you see him in the hall or something, catch up with him and have a chat. Really, if this guy doesn't like her you don't need to be feeling so bad. =)
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Well your friend is being a butt! He may like you by the way he is acting around you but is doesnt want to start anything because he doesnt want to ruin the good friendships that you both have. i mean if you two went out and then broke up..but families still hung out..wouldnt that be weird? But if you think he does like you..dont wait for him to come around...just go ask him out! xoox muuahh
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sometimes friends just dont get it try to tell her' hey listen i really liked this guy and still do so could you plz not sleep around w/him' it might help if it doesnt try to turn the tables and give her an example of maybe if she liked some1 for a while say oooo i like him and see her reaction it might work but not always tell her that she even made you cry cuz if a friend does that thats just pretty low excpecially when they no your feelings about it
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Aaaawww...Why is that girl your best friend???? First off, it's gross that she sleeps around. And second, it's really bitchy that she says she's gonna' try to have sex with the guy you're madly in love with, and that she doesn't care what you think. I think you need to talk one-on-one with the guy ASAP. Find out from him what's going on. Ask him if he likes your "friend", and tell him what she is planning to do. Tell him that you really care about him and don't want him to do that. And get a different best friend!!!
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