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jelousy is taking over!
okay so I have known this girl (my best friend) for years we are both 17 and almost 18 and latley she has been totally ditching me, and this guy I have liked for many years just home because he moved for 2 years and now she tells me she likes him, and whenever we hang out she'll say how she got to spend so much time with him or whatever it really bothers me though what should i do, is she jelous? and also when people give me compliments she tries to tell me that they didn't mean it or it isn't true!! HELP.
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Niiiiiiice. Yes, she is very jealous of you and she's not a very good friend to you either if she can try to deny you some deserved and well meant compliments.
It sounds to me as though she suffers from low self esteem, as the majority of people who suffer from jealousy, do so because of their own personal insecurities. After all, why envy someone else's lot when you're happy with your own?
Next time she does any of this, just look at her and tell her that it's fair enough if she has low self esteem but she shouldn't use that to make you feel bad about yourself. Misery may love company but it's a selfish way to be.
If she still won't get her jealousy under control after this, you'll need to decide whether you want to continue your friendship with her. If you decide not to, explain to her that you can't be friends with someone who spends so much time going out of her way to make other people - namely you - feel bad about themselves and maybe now she'll realise there are consequences to her behaviour.
She should come to her senses after that or she'll be trapped with her bitterness for a very long time.
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Since she has recently started acting that way, you should talk to her about it. Tell her you don't like the way she is acting. Just give her a chance to get things together. If she continues the jealousy, maybe you two should take a break from each other awhile. You also might want to talk it over with the guy you like, to make sure he understands.
♥ laura
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