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How to begin a conversation.
Ah yes, silly as this may sound but I am in my twenties and having trouble striking up a conversation with this girl whom I happen to like. I have no problem smiling, winking, or saying hi, but thats it. Than i get nervous and words disappear. How do I strike up a conversation with her and actually get her interest. That without saying something silly. I don't mean over coffe or dinner. Just a random approach. Your tips and advice will always be very much appreciated.
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First of all, don't be ashamed of being in your twenties and not know how to approach a girl. Men older than you STILL don't seem to know how to treat us. But, to tell you the truth, a little shyness in a guy is adorable. So embrace it. (Just not to the point of anti-socialness.)
It's hard to give you a line that is going to be universal enough for you to use. It's much better if you look specifically at what is around her, what she is doing, or who she is talking to. (Don't, however, look at what she's wearing and compliment her on it. If you haven't had a full conversation with her before, or you're not really friends with her, it will make you seem a little less straight. It is only okay to compliment when you are kind of friends with her.)
Anyway, let's say she is reading a book. Ask her what it is, who wrote it, if it's any good. Mention your own favorite book, ask her what hers is...Voila, you have just started a conversation about books.
Also, for a first conversation, make sure it is not too lengthy. You don't want to seem to be trying too hard to come on to her. Keep it nice and short. That way, later, she'll think, "That was kind of cool of him to be interested in what I was reading," rather than, "He talked for about twenty minutes about Ernest Hemingway when all I really wanted to do was get back to my book."
Now I obviously don't know if she reads a lot of books, or if you do for that matter, but it's all relative. Maybe she is listening to music, or eating something interesting...I don't know, that was kind of random, but whatever works.
Remember, just stay confident when you talk to her. The way you carry yourself is important. She has no reason to shut you down if you be yourself and stay polite!
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Think about stuff you are interested in. Think about the wheather, or an animal that you see. I mean, you can bring up anything. Sometimes girls like it when a guy uses really old or stupid pick up lines and then laughs about them. I mean, don't be mean or really stupid. Maybe try to find out something about her and what she likes before you strike up a conversation....I don't know. It depends on her. But if you don't just go for it, it will get harder. I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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good luck!
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Look around when ou're near her, and pretend you are out with someone ou know well. Say whatever comes to mind. Starting a conversation, as long as you don't say something horrible, it doesn't matter how interesting you are. She's already decided how interesting you are, you just have to give her opportunity to express it.
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