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Member Since: April 2, 2006
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Last Update: February 13, 2007
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I feel pretty stupid for asking this, but what are all the "bases"? (Ya know, like some guy is bragging "Oh, we made it to 2nd base last night!" (link)
first base is french kissing, that is, with the tongue. Second base is hands on breasts, no shirt or bra or anything in-between. Third base is hand-on vagina, and home run is penis-in-vagina


well im almost 14 and i just started masterbating a little. it feels good but i feel like i shouldn't be doing it.

i was with my friends and they were talking about it and saying how gross it was. i was just like playing along and agreeing even though i do it.

am i too young?.. is there anyone my age that does it too?

thanks in advanced (link)
You're not too young, I started when I was thirteen and so did many of my friends. A few if yours probably have too, and those who haven't will follow soon. If you're male, that is, if your female, many start at your age but some never masturbate. I know several girls who've reached adulthood without masturbation, because of the additional stigma. You shouldn't feel gross though, it is perfectly normal.


how can you stop yourself from being ticklish.
i know a few people who taught themselves not to be ticklish. how can you stop yourself? (link)
One's ticklishness seems to increase when the muscles are tightened, especially on the sides. If you can learn to keep your muscles relaxed despite the surprise of the person jabbing their fingers into you, that will help you alot. As for lighter sorts of ticklishness, all I do is deadpan, and even though it's hard, the person gives up after a few seconds concluding that I'm not ticklish.


I'm 13, 5"1.5 and 90 lbs. I know I'm fairly thin, but the muscles around my stomach are rather soft and flabby. Does anyone know of any exercises that might tighten up my stomach muscles a bit? I'm not talking 6-pack abs or anything.... (link)
You can do the bicycle exercise, which helps more on the side of your abs where regular situps are weak. Lie on your back with your hands behind your head, elbows out, like peope do situps. Pull one leg up and touch your knee to the opposite elbow, repeat on the other side. Make sure when you do this exercise you are squeezing yourself together with your stomach, not just pulling your knee way up.


*13 years old
*5'2
*100 pounds

dont really mind the weight, just that i look fat. also advice for flatter abs...besides the basic crunches? please help. it would be muchly appreciated. (link)
Doing crunches will make your abs harder and more muscular, but it will not burn fat in that one particular area, so if you feel like you have a nice flat set of abs hidden under a little belly fat, burn the fat the fastest way possible: run.


should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?

please explain too ♥ thanks. (link)
Your boyfriend and best friend should be on the same side.


Alright, I think this may have recently been asked, and I'm sorry if it was, but I need help.
I have the hardest time calling people, I only call people if it's an absolute emergency. Like, I can't even call my boyfriend, or best friend.
I hate it, I always want to call them, but I just can't do it. I don't know why. It's actually really affecting my relationship with my boyfriend, he's threatened to break up because I have probably only called him 2 times since I've know him (which is about a year or so). Can anyone help me get over this? (link)
This is what I told the last person to ask about this:
"I have this problem too, I get performance anxiety kind of, plus paranoid that they might screen my call, not be home (then you have to perform for the answering machine), be busy or just not want to be bothered. Try setting a time for yourself, (I call new girlfriends at 9 on the dot) and if you have a push button phone (not cell) then turn it on before you dial the numbers so you don't have to decide whether or not to press 'call' (or on, whatever)"


What are some good love songs? or one that has good lyrics about love? please and thank you ! (link)
Peaches & Herb- Reunited
Al Greene- Let's Stay Together

Etta James-At Last
Etta James-I Just Wanna Make Love to You
Etta James-I'd Rather go Blind
Etta James-Son of a Preacher Man
Etta James-You Can Leave your Hat On

Curtis Mayfield-The Makings of You

Teddy Pendergrass-You Got What I Need
Teddy Pendergrass-Turn off the Lights

Bootsy Collins-I'd Rather be With You
Bootsy Collins-Munchies for your Love

Teddy and Bootsy are rather funky, but if you are down, they are great


Where I can purchase it from?
How much will it cost?
Side effects
Is it sold at CVS?

I need it as a back up contraceptic (sp) for when I have sex tuesday (b-day) I will have condoms but I want to be safe cuz my sis is already preggie n I don't wana b. The thing is, I still wana have sex, ima nympho lol!! But seriously, any help is appreciated!!!! (link)
I saw in the paper that wal-mart has begun carrying them too


ok well i love music but i only have like 600 songs on my ipod and i wanna download some more but i dont really know what to get. I like bands like fall out boy, panic at the disco, nickleback, alkaline trio. I dont really like rap, r&b and that stuff.

any suggestions??(spelling?) (link)
The Violent Femmes


there's this guy that i really like and he likes me to. But, he has a girlfriend and he pretends that he doesn't have one when he's with me. I don't want to put the moves on him because he has a girlfriend. But he told me that he likes me and that he is going to dump her. But so far he hasn't, so should i still persue this guy, becasue i really like him, but will it be wrong?
I am 16 and a girl. (link)
I have an unpopular opinion when it comes to this sort of situation, which is that the ends justifies the means. Yes, it would be wrong to steal him away form his girlfriend, for him to cheat on her, but some time from now, if you and he are ina great monogamous relationship, what's wrong with that?


Okay, I have a boyfriend and I love him more then anything. Only theres this little problem. I haven't gotten over my ex boyfriend. Me and him have been goin on and off for the past year or 2. He's moving at the end of the year and he now has a new girlfriend. He told me that once he could drive he would come back for me. (We're both 13) Only he told me that a few months ago before we went out again. I sort of flirt with him alot and don't realize it. My question is, am I cheating on my current boyfriend in anyway by flirting with my ex? He doesn't flirt back or anything because im pretty sure he doesnt like me like that anymore. I dont want to cheat on my boyfriend, and if I did i didnt mean to. Please help
I'll rate high im desparate for help =[ (link)
Cheating? No, everybody needs to flirt to keep their self-esteem up. It would understandably concern your boyfriend though, that you're flirting with someone who you might actually become involved with. It's not wrong yet, but it is not the right track.


u momma bitcha (link)
u momma bitcha? what?


Sometimes when people answer questions they leave this box that you can click on and it says GOOGLE and it has the thing already typed in and you can search it from right there. How do you do this? (link)
They do it by copy-pasting the adress of the google results, and posting them as a link.

1. run a search on google, then when you are at the search results page, copy the address, then use it as the target address in a link tag.


All my life, every best friend I had has eventually left me. Moving away, losing touch, or a terrible fight has broken us apart. All I've ever wanted was one good friend who would never leave me.

This is my year so far: Met a girl in my new school, became best friends for half a year until she left me for a guy. My old best friend and I fought so he ignored me until we stopped talking. My other best friend became sort of slutty and we stopped talking.

What can I do to find a person I can have a lasting relationship with? How can I tell if our friendship will survive? (link)
The magical thing about a forever-type friend is that no matter how much time has elapsed, or how much you each change, you still stay chill with eachother. I think you should try to give your friends more personal space, and judge them less. Think of all the mistakes you've made, and understand they're like you. You can't wait for someone who'll never do something you don't like, you have to pick someone you will like no matter what.


i'm 17, and i like this guy who is 27. usually i like guys who are within my age range.. but i suppose you can't help who you fall for. he's very quiet and seems very lonely.. hes doing law so he spends a lot of time studying and doesn't go out too much. he always jumps at the opportunity to speak to me when we see each other. well, i'm not sure what to do about this. 17 is legal for consent and all where i live (so its not a legality thing) but i guess it does sound kinda bad that hes 10 years older than me. i'm wondering whether i should just try and forget about him or whether i should try for this. i don't really care about age, but he might feel differently, and society always views these kind of things as unacceptable. so just curious what everyone thinks of the age gap, and whether it's worth pursuing or not.....?

thanks. (link)
I guess I have a minority opinion here but I think you should not pursue a relationship with him. Yes, people can be happy with someone much older, but I think that at your age, they are the exception to the rule. I have known many girls who got hurt by an older man while they were about your age. The fact is, he lives in a different world than you do, the rules are different and people get hurt more. I think you should try and find someone your age.


Hi, everytime I open Windows Media and try to play one of my songs, it says a license is acquired. What does this mean/how can I fix it? Becuase I used to be able to play any song, now it gives me this message. Thanks. :] (link)
Sounds like stolen music. Try realplayer.


I caught my husband looking at things he shouldn't be on the internet. He has promised it won't happen again, but I am currently having a hard time trusting him. He knows how to delete his hisory and "cookies." Is there another way to track what he has been looking at? (link)
Is your husband a grown man? Unless he's looking at something illegal I think you need to back off. It seems to me that you're just upset that he's looking at porn, and that is way , way too controlling. Even people in a committed relationship need fantasy lives, and pornography is a part of a man's. You wouldn't want him standing over all your private thoughts with a club, would you? If you must insist on it, you can get a program called windows washer, which you can use to delete all the files even after they're gone from the temp. internet files and history, and while you're deleting, you can also check them out.


I'm 16/male. I was just thinking about[and no not willing to try this] two ways that I heard to minimize the effect of drinking, mostly hangovers.

1. Drink a cup of olive oil before you drink

2. Take Tylenol before you drink

I think the second one causes problems if you do that too often with your liver. Can anyone verify any of these two? Is it true or not. And again I have never drinked and plan not to, but I was curious when I heard these statements. Thanks. (link)
Hangovers are dehydration. Drink a lot of water when you wake up, or maybe something with electrolytes, like gatorade or pedialite.


Are they the same thing? How are they differnt? (link)
They are not the same thing. French kissing is a kiss that involves tongues, making out encompasses french kissing, regular kissing, petting, nibbling, blowing in the ear, rubbing cheeck/necks together etc., etc., etc., in a mixed fashion. For instance, before kissing (that is, when it was onlybetween mother and child) lovers would rub cheeks and necks together. This was still making out. When people aregetting married and dude says "you may kiss the bride" they may french kiss, but they do not make out.

Generally, when someone says they made out, they include french kissing as part of the definition.




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