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i'm 17, and i like this guy who is 27. usually i like guys who are within my age range.. but i suppose you can't help who you fall for. he's very quiet and seems very lonely.. hes doing law so he spends a lot of time studying and doesn't go out too much. he always jumps at the opportunity to speak to me when we see each other. well, i'm not sure what to do about this. 17 is legal for consent and all where i live (so its not a legality thing) but i guess it does sound kinda bad that hes 10 years older than me. i'm wondering whether i should just try and forget about him or whether i should try for this. i don't really care about age, but he might feel differently, and society always views these kind of things as unacceptable. so just curious what everyone thinks of the age gap, and whether it's worth pursuing or not.....?
thanks.
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well this is kind of hard... age doesn't really matter that much. But, a 10 year age difference is one thing when one of you is 30 and the other one is 40, and it is a completely different thing when one is 17 and the other is 27. you are still in high school... but he's already gone throught high school, college and now law school. basically he has seen and been through a LOT more than you have... i mean let's face it, a lot of things change for people in their late teens and 20s! so you two might have different views on life and what you may want out of a relationship. i suggest staying friends with him and casually dating... basically take things very slow! if after a while things seem to be going well and you both want to get more serious, then that's great! but if there seems to be a lot of problems early on, then it will only get worse! good luck! hope that helped!
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I completly agree with the person below me. Who cares what other people think? What if you guys turn out to be great together? Go for it! I think you should ask him if he ever thought of you guys being more than friends -- and see what he thinks about the age difference. Good luck ! =)
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go for it. Its not society that you want to date its this guy. So why let thatage thing stop you?
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Hi,
Theres nothing stopping you from trying, it could be that you dont get along very well after a while, take it easy & im sure your instinct will tell you xo
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I guess I have a minority opinion here but I think you should not pursue a relationship with him. Yes, people can be happy with someone much older, but I think that at your age, they are the exception to the rule. I have known many girls who got hurt by an older man while they were about your age. The fact is, he lives in a different world than you do, the rules are different and people get hurt more. I think you should try and find someone your age.
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I believe that age does not matter. When you are 27 and he is 37 it will not matter at all because you are both responsible adults. If you like him and he likes you, go for it! Good Luck! ♥ kendall
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Personally, as long as it's legal and the relationship makes both happy, I've never had a problem with age. My husband is more than ten years older than me. Yes, we have got some strange looks and rude comments, but the important thing is we make each other happy. If people can't see that, then it's their problem.
A lot of people assume that there will be a difference in maturity levels in an age-gap relationship. However, they fail to realize that age doesn't necessarily bring maturity. I've met older people that showed less maturity than a younger person would.
If this guy makes you happy, I say go for it. It sounds like he's interested already. Don't let society's interpretation of what's acceptable be the deciding factor. If you care about each other, the age difference and what others think won't be important.
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Hey Umm... with your sittuation i also dont really care about age.... although you know how older guys are and usually what there after so either way you do have to be careful im not saying to leave him alone but if i were you i would remain just friends for now go out occasionally get to know eachother better and then see where you want to take things considering the age difference but as long as both of you are happy thats all that matters. Just remember to take things SLOW! Well hope this helps if you need anything else you can e-mail me at NELLYLOVA1489@AOL.COM
have a good day buh bye
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My fiancee is 10 years younger than me. Age differences mean less as you get older. I don't think it is a problem really by your age.
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i had this problem aswell but i couldnt go out wiht him because it was illegal but in your case seeing as its not i think you should give it a shot try speaking with him and see maybe he likes you aswell adn i dont think age matters love is love and that doesnt change
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