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I am 16 years old, and I am sure you are on here for advice, not to learn about my life.
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Ok im cheatin on my boyfriend but i feel reeeeeeeeeeeeali sad bout it.....but i REALLI like dis other guy n i couldnt break up wit my bf cus i love him sooo much 2 n i dont wanna hurt him.How can i break it to my bf??
Just tell him that you are cheating on him. I think that should be enough for him to break it off with you.
"Ok im cheatin on my boyfriend but i feel reeeeeeeeeeeeali sad bout it...."
How dare you cheat on your boyfriend, and then feel bad about it. If you feel bad about it, why do it!? Big contradiction right there.
"but i REALLI like dis other guy n i couldnt break up wit my bf cus i love him sooo much 2 n i dont wanna hurt him"
You really like this other guy? Then break up with your boyfriend. Simple as that. Do not say you love your boyfriend if you are cheating on him. You don't want to hurt him? Then stop cheating on him. If the only reason you are still with him is because you do not want to break up with him, then you need to cut the crap and just end it.
However true all that is, you did asked how to break it to him. If you still want to be with your boyfriend, break it off with this other guy. And I mean for good. No communication whatsoever. That way when you tell your boyfriend about what you did, you can say that it is over with the other one and you want to be with him 100%. Do not expect him to take this lightly though. What you are doing is not fair, for either boy. So I suggest you figure out what you want before it ends up getting worse than it already is.
My best friend has been going through a lot of trouble involving her family. the problem is even though i know she is going through lot she keeps saying she will talk to me about it but doesn't. we are really close and i don't know how to help her. recenlty she has started flaking out on classes. how can i help her out?
Kudos for caring and trying to be a good friend, but you cannot force her to talk to you. It is her personal business and will share it with you if she pleases, and if she does not want to then she won't The only thing you can do is just let her know that you are there for her IF she needs you, then back off. You may not know how hard she's having it right now, so give her some time to collect herself.
ok so i had to choose between a sleepover at my bff's house or spending the afternoon with my bf. i dont see either of them often. i chose my bff cause she and i never get to just hang out but i really wanted to hang my boyfriend. i will see him but not really spend a lot of time with him. like one-on-one. i wanted to see him more but i dont want her to feel bad. i love her and she and i never get to hang out. buuut i wont see my bf nxt weekend either and nxt mon. is our 3 month anniversary but i can probably see him nxt thu or sumthing like that. did i make the right choice? i kno i will have fun either way :) thanks
Including your friend would make her feel like the third wheel, and that is never any fun.
In my opinion, I say you made the best choice (not the right choice, because there is no right choice here.) I, personally, hate it when my friends and I make plans and then she is like "Well, I want to hang out with so and so tonight." Your friends were there for you before your boyfriend, and will hopefully be there after. You do not want to put all of your attention on your boyfriend. You friends will get fed up with being second best compared to him and eventually bail, and in the end they will not be there for you because you were not there for them. My friend just went through that, and she pretty much has no one backing her up anymore because she is with her boyfriend 24/7, and you cannot hang out with her without her texting him or calling him to hang out. Spend as much time with your friends as possible. If you hang out with them one day, hang out with your man the next. Sure it is hard. I do not see my boyfriend all week because he goes to a different school and work, and I have school and track and other stuff. Fridays is usually my time with friends, and then me and him spend all Saturday and after I go to to work on Sunday together, which is nice. Plan your time with one another so it does not intertwine with anything else. "Chicks before dicks."
Can anyone think of a country song that can say all of the following:
I'm sorry that you love me unrequietedly, and now that you are off at war, I want you to know that you're in my prayers, and I never want to lose you as a friend
?
Travelin' Soldier - Dixie Chicks.
at summer camp my friend was the most popular one in our cabin i didnt know how she did it she is ssssssssssssoooooooooooooooooo tom boyish i dont know why she was so popular yes she is one of my best friends i just want to know how she was so popular so i can be like her next year
She was herself. You should be too.
is it wrong to hang out with my best friends boy friend when she is not there even though we were friends before they started going out...
Well, I know I wouldn't want my boyfriend hanging out with another girl without me, even if it is my best friend. To me, it just doesn't seem right.
is there anything someone needs to know how to be preppy, u know like if your emo you cut yourself, adn if your goth you dress in black, if youre redneck you where boots and huge belt buckles....etc.........whats the thing with the preps.......what makes a prep a prep?!?
You seem to be very stereotypical, which is how most of society is anyways. Like the person said bellow me, just because you cut does not make you "emo." Emo shouldn't even label a person, because it does not even mean "emotional." "Preps" as you put it, are said to wear only designer brands; Hollister, American Eagle etc. I think you need to expand your horizons and be more open minded on these kinds of things. If you keep viewing the world in this kind of perspective, you will never get anywhere in a social world.
Can someone please tell me what to do? I'm really crying my heart out right now because I think my best friend is mad at me, but I don't know what I did! It was maybe 2 days ago that when I'd try talking to her, or asking her why she's mad, she would just ignore me. She used to hate these 6th graders on my bus because they were annoying but now she's talking to them like she's their best friend. (We're in 7th grade) I don't know what I did! Sometimes she'd talk to mee like nothing was wrong, and then I'd try to talk to her again, she'd ignore me! Then it would happen again. I'm not sure if she's mad at me and my other 2 best friends, or just me. Sometimes she'd make gestures that told she was annoyed or something. Yesterday I asked her why she was mad, and she said she wasn't, she said it over and over again, but I know it's a lie, you can tell she's lying. Today she ignored me, and then again I tried asking her why she was mad, guess what? She STILL ignored me, and I was literally about to burst into tears but I held it in. I can barely breathe now because I'm crying so hard. We ARE really good friends, I swear we are, or maybe were, I could tell her ANYTHING, we've been BESTIES since last year. A LOT of people which most are my friends, would make fun of her all the time! And she wouldn't mind! We've been doing it since last year! I don't think she minds, but if she did, she would've been mad wayyyy earlier last year. I keep saying sorry, even if I didn't do anything, I don't know what I did. Please don't say to back off because I know! I just really want to why she's mad, and what's wrong. Please help me, tell me what to do. She's changed. She's plays this game "Maplestory" and she's obsessed with it! I'm SERIOUS. She's going to marrry some guy she met, and maple, her maple BF and friends are consuming her life, I miss my old friend. I know she pick her BF over her friends anyday. Then her Maplestory friends. I think it's really stupid that she's LOVE some guy over the internet, I just can't convince that it's wrong. I've told her plenty of times how dangerous it is, and how it's just useless, but nothing works. This isn't just with her. Last year I had the BEST OF FRIENDS. Now I barely get to see HALF of them, they moved, they don't have ANY of my classes, OR they've moved on and made new best friends. Yes. They ditched me. This one girl we were BEST BUDDIES last year. We could tell eachother ANYTHING. We hung out a lot. If she had a Myspace last year, she would be my #1 in my top friends, now I wouldn't even put her in there. I think her preppy life has changed her. Same with some of my other friends. I just miss my old friends. Where did they go? Maplestory has changed my friend. Most of everyone changed, and I feel like a piece of old trash/news to them, cause they have "better" friends to hang out with. Trust me, I DO NOT have the guts to confront them. I just can't. So please, someone help, I'm stilling crying HARD. I just miss my friends.
She's also keeping me as friend on Myspace, and I'm still number one on her top friends! I just don't understand. Why won't she tell me? I'll understand. I'll understand if she thinks I'm annoying, I know I am, if that's the case. It also seem like she would talk to everyone else, except for 3 CERTAIN people. I'm one of them, and the 2 are my other best friends. We're the top 3 who like to make fun of her. In a funny way. On Myspace, she still talks about her BFF's which she states, is us 3, but she's probably lazy to delete it. If she does decide to stop acting this way, then I won't know if she's just faking our friendship, which I know I'm not faking.
You are a true friend, I respect you greatly.
It is nothing you did, she is just being a jerk, she seems to be trying to get a reaction out of you, which seems to be working.
My advice is to don't bother anymore.
Let her talk to her cool 6th grade friends and whatnot. Take a break from her, just don't talk to her. Don't get me wrong, if she talks to you, be friendly. But it seems to be time to find some other friends. Talk to someone new. This girl seems to be playing with your mind, and you don't need that right now.
Try not to put people under the "best friends" catagory, it always seems to blow up in your face one way or another. Stick with being friendly to everyone and making friends. She might crawl back, if she does don't expect everything to be hunky dorry forever, because she might just do it again. Be friends with her, not best friends.
You are mature and very caring, possibly try making friends a little older than you, you would probably get along better with them.
My best friend, Claire, is basically the leader of the 'bad crowd' at our school. She started drinking/having sex at the age of 13, and we are now 16. We've been very best friends since age 12, but I on the otherhand follow all the rules. She got arrested for having alcohol/getting drunk on school property. She swore she wouldn't drink after a near-death drinking expeirence that hurt everyone around her when she wasn't expected to live through the night. We fought on and off about her problems, but finally she toned down the drinking and we became closer then ever. She truly is my very best friend, she's been there for me with everything.
Now, she's skipping school again, she's drinking every weekend, and having sex with random guys more then ever. I want to save her again. I can't fight against her. When I do, she pushes me away and does more and more illegal things. I don't want to lose my best friend again, it hurt too bad the first time. Please help.
Don't fight her! As you said, it only makes it worse. You'll probably get a bunch of advice like this, but you need to sit her down and talk with her. If that doesn't work, I think the best thing to do is to scare her out of it. Tell her parents if it gets way to out of hand, or if you are that worried about her, calling the cops might have to be an option. I know you love her, but if you want to help her, the best thing to do is to let her learn from her mistakes. Also, theropy might work out too. Be a friend to her, that's probably what she needs right now.
15/f
this is gonna sound way conceited, but i promise, im not trying to be. im much prettier then my friend. i mean, shes like fat and everything, so i mean obviously, guys dont like her much. plus she acts really stupid alot. anyways, since im a freshman, ive made alot of new friends. and so when me and her will be wlaking down the hall, just about every person says hi to me, and i stop and talk and make yano small talk. and she gets mad, and walks away. anyways, whenever i talk about like guys or something, she like finds some way to insult them. and its just really annoying. what should i do?
Way to contradic yourself.
You seem like a sucky friend.
Might as well tell her what you said to us, then you won't have a problem with her anymore.
my friend, ill be like mad at her over something. and like ill act cold. and then she just doesnt even care. its like ,it doesnt matter if i get mad or not. she just acts like its no big deal. uhh i hate her so much right now.
Cause she doesn't want to get caught up in all the drama you are throwing at her.
Hello one rating.
Why does everyone hate me so much. I don't have to do anything to them and they hate me. Tell me why?
I know what you mean.
Going through that now.
Don't even worry about it, focus on yourself.
We don't really need people.
This whole summer i hung out with 5 people. I LOVE THEM!! THERE MY LIFE!! THERE AMMAAZZIINGG!! now summers over everyone is home and i wen ton town and saw my EX-FRIENDS. they all looke dlike they were having so much fun wth each other and i was like embarresed to be seen. like i ahte when people see me because wer not friends anymore. and i was so jelous that they were with everyone and all i had was like 4 friends. i have the best friends in thr world. why am i so depresssed. what can i do??
WOW, life story right here.
I hung out with the same 4 people all summer, and I can honestly say it's been the best time of my life so far.
Your old friends are Ex friends odviously for some reason or another, and you shouldn't have to worry about what they are doing. You have your new friends whom you seem to care about a lot. It's like those questions you are asked where it is like "Would you rather have 10 aquantences, or 2 best friends?" Best friends are those kind of people where it's like, I have what I need, and need what I have. Your other friends could be having fun, but you never know what goes on behind the scenes.
Sick with your real friends, don't forget the good times. You don't have to snub your old friends, try and be nice to them.
Treasure what you have.
Yesterday I went to a funeral for a friend that recentley died (june 16, 07) Its so unreal, I cannot believe that it had happened.
Our whole school was basicly at his funeral, or thinking of him and his family.
It was so unexpected and random, why him?
I'm having sucha hard time grasping the fact that he's gone, and I could cry and cry,
I wasnt even that CLOSE to him, like some others, and I seem to be showing so much more emotions about it.
What do I do? Have any of you ever lost any friends?
he was only 16.
I know you have gotten many answers like this one, but I, too, went through this perdicament.
I did Cross Country for my school, and I was having a hard time with certain things. There was a guy whom was a Senior. He had a heart of gold and a smile that could cheer anyone up. He helped me through so much.
After the season ended, him and I didn't really talk anymore. Just a simple Hi in the hallway on occation. Couple months later, 4/20 to be exact, all of the teachers were told to read an email that they have received. My english teacher read out loud that someone had committed suicide the night before. We asked who it was and he said the guys name. It was so unreal.
So unreal.
Everyone who knew him in some sort of way went down to the library. Though I was not close to him, it still hurt that someone I knew hurt so much to kill himself. He was 18 years old, and 2 months away from graduating.
That whole day was just a blur. I was with my friends the whole time just walking around.
What made it worse what that I wasn't close to him either, but seeing his best friend's faces was heartbreaking.
My best friends were close to him, and it was the first time I have seen any of them cry.
Just knowing someone who has died is a horrible feeling, a feeling that you cannot decribe.
It makes you realize that it can happen to anyone, and to really pay attention to different feelings of people.
Cherish your friends and your family, they are there for you no matter what.
Don't forget him, pray for him.
It's a hard concept, but if you keep him close to your heart, and stay close with your friends, you will be able to handle it.
Be strong, and I am sorry for your loss.
I wanted to send an e-mail to one of my best friends have always been there for me no matter what and that I can tell anything to and let her know how much I appreciate her. I've been best friends with her since third grade and I am now in seventh. I was going to put all of our good times in the e-mail, but I don't know what else to put. Does anyone know of something else that I can put in the e-mail?
Hello (=
Wow, you are such a good friend. And being told that you are appretiated really means alot. Putting in the good times you've had would be amazing, also you can put the things that she has helped you with, all of your firsts together (if you have any, like first rollercoaster or something) and how if you didn't have her you wouldn't be the same person you are today. Just really nice things that pop into your head. When you start writing it will be hard to stop. Trust me. lol
Good luck and keep being a good friend (=
hi,14/mif it helps. well yesterday my friend accidently told me that she liked this guy that she used to go out with. the thing is, he treated her really bad, as in cheating, and makin her cry. and after that i never really liked him much, until a lesson we were made to work together. and we were kind of talking and then a couple days later(yesterday) she tells me that she likes him again. the thing is, im just so frustrated about the fact that she still likes him after how he treated her. Im really angry at her, even though i know she cant help her feeling. what do i do?
hey there (=
welp, i'm 14/f and i have a friend doing the EXACT same thing. she is going out with this kid who already has a bad rep. the first time he cheated on her, same with the second time. after the second time he told her to cut herself to death and die. BUT she STILL went back out wtih him! third time he cheated on her twice and she finally realized he was a dick and broke up with him. hmm i think you should just let her do what she wants and have her learn herself that he is an asshole. then you can be the shoulder to cry on. telling her might just make her mad.
hope i helped (=
mkay this is going to be long hehe. So i liked this guy for a week and i thought he liked me back but my friend talked to him and stuff and it turned out that he didnt even know me when i was in 2 of his classes. so i moved on to another guy. and my best friend told my best guy friend that i like to many guys and stuff and that i'm ending up like my other friend. becuz my other friend goes out with anyguy and i've only had 1 boyfriend in my life and i am 12 in 7th grade. Because most of my friends tell me i shouldnt wear make-up because i have natural beauty. But i like so many guys and i am not popular.And my best friend told me i'm rolling in guys. becuz everyday i find a new crush and stuff. But right now i like this one guy and he kinda knows me but he doesnt know my name and stuff. i'm asking you for boy problems because my older sister is way older than me and it seems awkward talking to her. so what should i do about liking so many guys.
hey there (=
ok let's see. you seem like a very sweet girl. guys in your grade are pretty much immature and weird (no offence to any of them) you are 12, you don't need a guy to make you happy. it's hard because when you like someone, you start to talk to someone else and start to like them. i'm currently going through that myself. i just started highschool and making new friends and i am changing who i like constantly. what i think you should try to do is stick to one guy. even if he doesn't like you. get to know him and become good friends with him. even if he doesn't end up liking you, you will have a good friend from the experience and probably more friends from him, which will also help. again, take it step by step. try and keep your mind on one person. also, it might help if you don't tell someone you like someone until you are absolutely sure that you do. if someone asks you who you like, you can say you are still debating or say no one until you are sure.
hopefully i helped a little (= good luck.
I met a new friend a few months ago. He's pretty cool but we are pretty much exact opposites. He can be really moody sometimes and takes things out on other people. He wallows in self pity and always complains about how life isn't worth it. Then he gets irritated by me whenever I have a different opinion and express it.
I've tried talking about this with him and it isn't working.
I really can't afford to lose him as a friend though even though he isn't much of a friend sometimes.
Still, I can't afford to lose him since he knows way too much about me.
And he is really fun to talk to when he's not in one of his moods.
Any advice on how to deal with him? Besides for talking it out, which I've tried numerous times?
oh WOW. the same thing happened to me too. i made a friend and he was a real jerk to me for a while, just like for no reason! butttttttt now me and him are best friends. and we were talking about it the other day, he said he was like that because he was going through alot of stress of liking a person who didn't like him back and his friends getting mad at him and homework that he would build up all the stress and explode on anyone. basically all i did was take it and give him advice. don't talk to him about it! it will only put him in a worse mood. if you really want to be fiends with him, listen to what he has to say and what he is mad about .. and try to help him figure it out.
hope that helps (=
my friend is in the shittiest situation. her mom is abitch, she fucks random guys, sometimes hits her, calls her fat and ugly, makes her cry, locks her in her room, and has mood swings. i honestly think her mom has some mental disorder or something. she doesnt deserve to have kids because she is a horrible evil bitch and makes my friend feel like shit. now i am the one she calls after she fights with her mom and is sobbing, and i feel so b ad beacause i dont even know what to say half the time. seh cant live with her dad, grandpa/grandma or anyone else. her mom hates me and my mom for no apparent reason and constantly says shit about us. now i do NOT know what to do and im on the verge of crying because i feel so stressed bcause i feel like it is my responsibility to help her, but i dont know what to do . i told her any time she wants she can stay with us for whatever amount of time, but since her mom hates us we're both afraid her mom would drive over here, steal her, and then yell or hit her or something. im trying to think whats best for my friend, but she doesnt want to have any people that are from like foster homes or anything get involved , and she doesnt want to switch schools or move because it is a big step for her. she is very afraid and i need to know how to help, and i know youre going to say get the police or something involved but i just dont know what to do because what if her mom gets pissed and like beats me up or something or if my friend moves away and becomes depressed and hates me for ratting her out or whatever i know its for her own good but that is the last thing on her mind.
please help me
oh WOW. well this is a REALLY tough siduation that i don't think you can handle on your own. Maybe talk to your mom about it. Maybe the cops or going to a principal is a good idea. You are a very good friend caring about her like this. If you call the cops make sure you explain everything that is going on. But i'm not sure if it sounds serious enough to go to the police. so maybe a principal or a counsilor or something will be better. but if things get too out of hand, cops are the best choice. if you tell the cops or something, she will have no chance to beat you up. and if she does this lady really needs help.
i don't know if i helped or anything because this is a REALLY big deal, but i tried. good luck.