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ok so i had to choose between a sleepover at my bff's house or spending the afternoon with my bf. i dont see either of them often. i chose my bff cause she and i never get to just hang out but i really wanted to hang my boyfriend. i will see him but not really spend a lot of time with him. like one-on-one. i wanted to see him more but i dont want her to feel bad. i love her and she and i never get to hang out. buuut i wont see my bf nxt weekend either and nxt mon. is our 3 month anniversary but i can probably see him nxt thu or sumthing like that. did i make the right choice? i kno i will have fun either way :) thanks
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I think you made the right choice. Chicks before dicks.
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Including your friend would make her feel like the third wheel, and that is never any fun.
In my opinion, I say you made the best choice (not the right choice, because there is no right choice here.) I, personally, hate it when my friends and I make plans and then she is like "Well, I want to hang out with so and so tonight." Your friends were there for you before your boyfriend, and will hopefully be there after. You do not want to put all of your attention on your boyfriend. You friends will get fed up with being second best compared to him and eventually bail, and in the end they will not be there for you because you were not there for them. My friend just went through that, and she pretty much has no one backing her up anymore because she is with her boyfriend 24/7, and you cannot hang out with her without her texting him or calling him to hang out. Spend as much time with your friends as possible. If you hang out with them one day, hang out with your man the next. Sure it is hard. I do not see my boyfriend all week because he goes to a different school and work, and I have school and track and other stuff. Fridays is usually my time with friends, and then me and him spend all Saturday and after I go to to work on Sunday together, which is nice. Plan your time with one another so it does not intertwine with anything else. "Chicks before dicks."
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best case scenario is to include both ang get the best of both world but if that can't happen it really depends on how understanding your friend and your boyfriend are. since its pretty obvious that you wanted to hang out with them equally as much then the best way i think to make a decision is to figure out which one will be more understanding if you can't hang out with them.
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