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Best friend gone wrong.
My best friend, Claire, is basically the leader of the 'bad crowd' at our school. She started drinking/having sex at the age of 13, and we are now 16. We've been very best friends since age 12, but I on the otherhand follow all the rules. She got arrested for having alcohol/getting drunk on school property. She swore she wouldn't drink after a near-death drinking expeirence that hurt everyone around her when she wasn't expected to live through the night. We fought on and off about her problems, but finally she toned down the drinking and we became closer then ever. She truly is my very best friend, she's been there for me with everything.
Now, she's skipping school again, she's drinking every weekend, and having sex with random guys more then ever. I want to save her again. I can't fight against her. When I do, she pushes me away and does more and more illegal things. I don't want to lose my best friend again, it hurt too bad the first time. Please help.
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I know exactly what you're going through. And it's hard. First, try talking to her. =Maybe that will work, maybe it won't. If it doesn't, you have to learn something. That you don't have to completely abadon her, but oyu can't get to colse. Because I have ahinch she's one of those people that takes takes and akes and never gives anyhting. So you have to just figure out that it costs to much to give yourself over:(
I'm really sorry, and I hope this helped.
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You have to keep trying to talk to her and have her listen, and when you feel that she's endangering herself, don't hesitate to tell someone of authority who can help. It won't be "betraying" her like she might make it sound, because as a friend, you need to care about whether she's alive and healthy, rather than if she's mad at you.
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Don't fight her! As you said, it only makes it worse. You'll probably get a bunch of advice like this, but you need to sit her down and talk with her. If that doesn't work, I think the best thing to do is to scare her out of it. Tell her parents if it gets way to out of hand, or if you are that worried about her, calling the cops might have to be an option. I know you love her, but if you want to help her, the best thing to do is to let her learn from her mistakes. Also, theropy might work out too. Be a friend to her, that's probably what she needs right now.
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