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My name is Abby. I'm 14. I am a freshman at DHS. I live in MA. I like to sing dance, write songs and poetry and I play softball.I can give you advice on friendships, school, sports, things on your appearance, and relationships/love life.
I'm here to be honest, and give REAL advice. I won't lie to you to make you feel better about yourself, I won't tell you that you are gorgeous and perfect, and I will not judge you just because of some of the things you ask me advice about are sleezy and what not.
If you have any questions just come to my inbox. I'll be happy to answer them =]
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well theres this boy i like and my best friend knew him before me but never talked to him or anything. she said he was ugly but after i said he was cute and that i liked him she said it to and she starts flirting with him and kissin him on the cheek when im standing right there. He wants us to blow him but take turns. Have one of us blow him while the other one makes out with him then switch. my {best} friend is all like "ya lets do it sexy" and stuff like that and im soo freakin mad cuz she knew i liked him alot!! i told her about this and she just said that im makin a big deal out of nothing and that hes mine. what do you guys think am i overreacting or should i be mad? i mean would you want your best friend making out and givin bj's to the boy you like?
I understand where you are coming from. I know you like him but if he's going to flirt with your best friend, and ask BOTH of you to give him a blow job and shit, that's ridiculous. If I were you I'd tell your best friend how you feel, if she was your best friend she wouldn't have done that, and she would listen to you and understand why you feel that way. You aren't over reacting and you deffinately have a reason to be upset. But the thing is, he isn't yours. He isn't going out with you, he just likes you so its alright if she does that if you think about it. But as your best friend thats messed up and I wouldn't give either of them the time of day.
Just talk to your best friend and don't even waste your time with that jerk.
Hope I helped =/
Sincerely, Abby
ugh.. i don't know what to do! there's so many things that go wrong in my life, i just don't know how to handle it all..
first off my friends are making me feel like poop, just because i've messed up. they call me a slut and stuff too.. when i don't see how i am..
then there's this guy i like, and he just acts so mean to me, even though he knows i like him, and he told me that he doesnt want to be like all the other dick face guys that just use girls and be mean to them
also, there's this guy that i've had tiny feelings for since last year, and i just recently got over him, because he was so mean to me, and just used me. and then this girl told me that he never liked me and stuff.. but he's being so nice to me, and i'm afraid of liking him again, because i know that he'll just end up making me feel terrible again.. and i don't know how to stop myself from liking him
I just dont know how to handle life.. i used to not have anyfriends, because i was different and out there, and i was overweight and annoying.. but now that i have friends, and relationships, everything just seems to go wrong, its like once one problem is fixed another one pops up..
can someone help me with what to do to help straighten my life out?!
Ok I know the feeling, and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. Let me give you an example. I liked this kid for about 6 years. Well for the last 2 and a half, he's been sweet talking me, getting me to do shit with him, and then as soon as I'm done he goes out with a different girl and treats me like shit. All my so called friends called me a slut, but I didn't understand because even though I wasn't going out with him, I liked him for soooooo long. He was my first kiss, make out and first bj. I didn't think I was that big of a slut.
Well anyways, he basically kept pushing me to the side making me think I wasn't skinny enough, or pretty enough, or popular enough for him.
All I know is that no matter what you do, people will try to bring you down.. People are fake and only care about themselves. If you don't see how you are being a slut, then you most likely aren't a slut. Don't listen to them... they are assholes anyways.
And if this guys keeps being mean to you, chances are he's like every other guy. Tell him how you really feel and tell him if he isn't gonna be straight with you, then you're gonna have to let him go.
And don't fall for this guy.. he's being nice because he knows it works. If he used you once, he will use you again trust me.
The first time you let someone fool you, its their fault... But the second time around they fool you.. It's yours.
To help you feel better, try to find some new friends that are supportive and caring. Boost your appearance by getting newer and prettier clothes, go on a diet or exercise more if you think that will help, do different things with your hair, and try to make your make up look natural but gorgeous for more people to notice you. It will help you have better confidence.
hope I helped
well my "friends" Audrey and Emily got involved with a teacher harrasing them and he only said he wants to have sex with me. Well this guy Nelson told everyone about the harasing thing and some a couple of people came up to me and asked me if I got harrased and i said "He just said some things to me but it was mostly Audrey and Emily" but the people are telling my friends that i spread the thing about the teacher and they are saying i said I was the one mostly involved but i didnt say that. so now all my friends think i am a liar and stuff but i didnt lie. and they wont believe me, and they dont want to talk to me..
How can i make them believe me? i basically have no one to hang out with at lunch now because theyre accusing me of something i didnt do. i even told them that if they were my true friends they would believe me and theyre like "We just dont believe you"
please help me...
First of all, you are right. If they were your true friends they would believe you. But its a tricky situation and with everyone else who shouldn't be talking is, it gets hard to believe anyone. Trust me, I know...
What I think you should do is go up to them and say look, I don't care if you don't want to be friends with me, or if you don't believe me, but I have something to say. Obviously this happened to me to so I don't understand why you won't listen to me. Yes the teacher said something to me but its no one elses business, its a private thing and if I wanted to let everyone else know about it I'd be a jerk and scream it out loud. Does it look like I'm doing that, no. If we were friends you'd listen to me. I seriously don't want people to know that this happened to any of us, its embarressing and people are fake. So if you are going to listen to a bunch of idiots before one of your close friends go for it, be my guest. But I hope you know you guys are gonna feel like assholes when you find out I was telling you the truth.
Just say something like that. It makes them think hard, and really gets to them. Who cares if your by yourself, say it to them like that.. walk away like they don't phase you because you did NOTHING wrong. Just let it go, and when people see it doesn't bother you they will get bored of it.
I'm sure this will work.
And I'm very sorry that your own teacher is doing this bullshit to you guys... it sucks, I've been there before. GOODLUCK
In the past, my best friend, used to ditch me alot. We had a big discussion on it. I said how it really hurt my feelings & all this stuff. So then she told me, she didn't mean to do it, & she was very sorry, & would never do it again. She promised & everything.
Then, just yesterday, she did it.
I went to this beach, like I don't know a week or two ago? & thats basically, all I've been talking about. & I kept saying I'm gonna invite you ok? & shes like ok, I can't wait. So I was all excited right? & then I'm like.. "I think were gonna go down there tomorrow. I was wondering if you can go?" & shes like "Yeah!" & so then.. around 6ish that day, I went to the park with my family & got ice cream. So, when I get back, shes all.. I can't go with you tomorrow, I'm sleeping over Kahlies house. & I got really really reallly really mad & upset. Because, I've been looking forward to it, for forever. So, since I was so angry, I just blurted out, I don't wanna talk to you anymore. & like stuff about being her best friend. So, then when she got to Kahlies shes all.. "Well, I can't believe your doing this when Kyle is about to dump me!" & then I just signed off. Because, I got mad.. that shes more worried about her boyfriendm, then losing her best friend? So yeah, I don't know what to do. I acted like I didn't care anymore, because I was tired, & wanted to go to bed.
What should I do? Should I continue to be mad at her? Or should I just forget about it.. & forgive her? I'm just upset, & need some advice. ASAP.
thanks
Ok, I'm going to give you true advice, even if it's not what you want to hear. My friends do it all the time. It's not just you who gets it. Seriously, all she did was ditch you. It's not like she went behind your back and started talking shit about you. Or spreading rumors or telling people your secret. If she's your true best friend. you'd let it pass over. It's not that big of a deal. Sit her down and tell her that you are really upset, and that she said she wouldn't ditch you again and then she did. Tell her you'll give her another chance and then that's it. If she is really your best friend then why get mad over something really dumb. So what if she skipped out on going to a beach with you, the beach will always be there, but best friends will come and go.
My friend has tried to kill herself many times because she thinks shes ugly. I tell her shes beautiful but she won't believe me. People make fun of her and say shes ugly, but I told her its just because they are JEALOUS. I feel if I post a picture of her on here, and I want to know if you guys really think shes ugly. Honestly, I think shes really pretty but she thinks I'm just saying that. Do you think she's pretty? http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=21583599&imageID=983295681&MyToken=72866b2d-41b3-4a0f-89b8-e84a24a369a8 I'd mostly like guys to answer this because most of the time she tries to kill herself is over guys, but girls can give there opinion too. I need a lot of answers so I'm going to rate everyone who answers. She wants me to help her change her appearence so if you think anything needs to be changed like her hair or whatever just tell me, and I will try to help her. I don't want her to die, so please answer as soon as you can!
Well, I can't see the picture but I'm assuming the reason is that most people are either jealous, or they are just ignorant. Beauty is skin deep. And if her last resort is killing herself over what guys have to say about her, then she needs to realize that guys at your age I'm sure will say anything to make their ego bigger. Don't let her pay attention to them. Boys are stupid.
Maybe, if she is a little chubby, she could lose a little weight. If she has a little acne, she could go for a facial or some kind of topical creams to help her get rid of break outs, maybe she could go get her eyebrows waxed or something if they are really bushy. And when it comes to make up, use colors that compliment her skin tone. Blend really well. I use black eye liner: NYC; Dream Matte Mousse from Maybeline. Any kind of Mascara, blush, or eye shadow.
For her hair, she could straighten in with a straightener or straight iron; or she could curl her hair up: To curl my hair I use gel, mousse, and hairspray. First I put the gel in my hands, I run it through my hair and scrunch my hair up to my scalp, then I run LOTS of mousse through my hair, starting at the hairline/scalp. Then I put my hair up in a bun for about 5 mins, and then let my hair flow down and hairspray it.
It works really good and lots of guys think its pretty.
Or if she wanted, she could get her hair cut, angled and put layers in. She could even highlight it too.
If either of you have any questions or need more advice you can IM me @ BabyyGqirlx3
Love always, Abby
Ok so i have this friend...and I think he's bulimic. I saw him eating the other day and when he was done...he threw up and it looked like he made himself throw up.
What should I do? Should I confront him about it? Tell someone? Both? Please help, im really worried about him.
You should confront him, tell him the dangers and tell him that you are there for him. If the problem persits, tell someone. It might damage your friendship at first, but he could die from it. Would you rather have a friend mad at you or a friend that winds up dead?
Okay, let's get right down to it, I feel like I don't have any friends. I'm constantly comparing the amount of friends I have to the amount of friends other people have. For some reason, I always have less, and it is really starting to bother me. Also, I don't have that many guy friends that are my age and stuff (I'm a girl and I'm 14). I probably have about 10 good friends but I feel like I should have more. Is that an okay number, am I just over paraniod, or do I really not have that many friends at all? Should I make new friends and how? And pleas edon't suggest more actvities because I'm wicked busy during the school year.
By the way, I often suffer from lonlieness and depression.
Im 14/f too. I have plenty of friends but to me, all you need is one good friend. One friend you can trust your life with, can tell anything to, shop with, be yourself/stupid with, and be as comfortable with them as you are alone. Its not about quantity, its about quality. If you have 1 good friend, you're set. Who cares if you have ten friends... do you really think you can trust them all? Do you think they are all honest with you. If you can't answer those questions then you know they arent worth it.
HOPE I HELPED
my friend is alwayyss flirting with my boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. she even sleeps with them and it makes me soo mad. how can i overcome this feeling or deal with this problem?
Easy. If she was a real friend she wouldn't do that to you. Talk to her about it, tell her how you feel. If she doesn't care/ keeps doing what shes doing then get rid of her. You don't need bad friendships like that. TRUST ME.
What do you do when a friend for 9 years gets upset because they were told that you said something supposedly They won't talk about it. They say that they are upset and won't tell you what was said so that you can deny or explain
well a friend for nine years is important to keep. But it depends, I mean.. if they wont tell you its because its not true. tell her you didnt say anything and you arent going to be concerned because if she wont tell you, there is nothing you can do. Its just drama. it will pass. It happens all the time. I hope she will tell you though because I know how it feels to be in your position. I'm sure shes just over reacting. Just try to talk to her about it and sound really concerned; if that doesnt work then like i said before, dont let it phase you.
I'm a guy and when I talk to my guy friends I can really express myself but when I talk to a friend thats a girl I act all different and shy....now I know when people say guys act different around girls
I need help just expressing myself and I usually and talk about anything but im having some trouble. O if anyone could give me some advice and some topics to talk about to my friends that are girls please tell me.
Hey.. im a girl so i can give you some tips.
When boys talk to me, they are either too quiet or they are perverted. Girls don't really like either. Girls like guys that can tell them anything * except the gross stuff - unless she asks you * Girls like it when a boy is sensitive but at the same time wld defend them if another guy was being rude. Girls like boys that can be theirselves and not care.
When you talk to a girl just be like, hey how are you.. what did u do today.. hows ur summer been.. and dont be afraid to talk about her. Girls like it when you keep the conversation on them. If shes pretty tell her she is. If shes ugly.. well dont tell her that. haha. just give her compliments and even if you dont like her, girls need it sometimes from her guy friends.
Uhm, if there is anything else you need help with feel free to IM me - Babyy Gqirl x3
love always, Abby
Okay, so i don't have any friends. frankly alot of people don't like me because of all the drama that went on last year in 8th grade. Now i am really scared to be going into freshman, when almost everybody hates me when i only have about 4 girl friends.. and would've i`m not in any classes with them? well thats not my problem.. my problem is.. the people that don't like me are going to harass me and get everybody to gain up on me.. i`m now a religious christian && not many people know that, except for the people that went to church camp with me. i don't know what i am going to do. what should i say to people who are trying to fight with me.. should i like apologize to them.. so that they don't cause drama for me in 9th? i really just wanna stay out and be like unknown.. but thats not going to happen.. what do i do :[[ please please help.
Hunny, it's highschool. Through out your life people will try to bring you down. But kids in highschool HATE drama. And if you cause it, they will turn you away. You have to act like none of it phases you. Just go with the flow. If people start with you be like look I'm sorry for whatever happened in the past, and if you don't like me I don't care. Get over it. You don't have to explain to people your reasons for being you. Just be yourself, stay away from drama, and don't let jealous people ruin your freshman year. There will be tons of new faces for you to be friends with. Forget the people who try to bring you down; they aren't real friends anyways.
im sitting her bawling. heres the story, ok well my friend (matt) was talking to my friend (susie) and they were both talking to me too, ok well susie ims me and shes like matt just said im pretty lol. then i say to matt you think susies pretty and it was all like a joke and everything but susie got mad b.c i told him and all this stuff, so i apoligize 43 times (literally) and she dosnet even talk to me i know it might seem like it is my fault but u have to kno my friend, she stabs me in the back alot and this one little thing didnt even matter i think she just wanted to get mad or something so im like begging for her 4giveness and ive never even like been mad at her or showed me being mad b.c i value my "friends" and i dont like confrontantions...well eventually she forgave me but acted like it was a privilagge or something but now i just feel so small and used like i should have stood up for myslelf, i dont really have a ? i guess i just need some guidance or soemthing
thank you
Look, I have this friend named Brittany. We are pretty close and stuff and I tell her all my secrets n shyt. But I can honestly say that I've caught her talk so much crap about me behind my back that I just know that there is no use in our friendship if thats how she feels. I have this 3 strike thing. After my friends have hurt me 3 times I know it is not acceptable and I realize they arent true friends. In your case, you shouldnt have to apologize that many times. If I were you Id tell her how you feel and say that you are a damn good friend and dont deserve to be walked over like that. Just talk to her. It will help.
xo Abby