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In the past, my best friend, used to ditch me alot. We had a big discussion on it. I said how it really hurt my feelings & all this stuff. So then she told me, she didn't mean to do it, & she was very sorry, & would never do it again. She promised & everything.
Then, just yesterday, she did it.
I went to this beach, like I don't know a week or two ago? & thats basically, all I've been talking about. & I kept saying I'm gonna invite you ok? & shes like ok, I can't wait. So I was all excited right? & then I'm like.. "I think were gonna go down there tomorrow. I was wondering if you can go?" & shes like "Yeah!" & so then.. around 6ish that day, I went to the park with my family & got ice cream. So, when I get back, shes all.. I can't go with you tomorrow, I'm sleeping over Kahlies house. & I got really really reallly really mad & upset. Because, I've been looking forward to it, for forever. So, since I was so angry, I just blurted out, I don't wanna talk to you anymore. & like stuff about being her best friend. So, then when she got to Kahlies shes all.. "Well, I can't believe your doing this when Kyle is about to dump me!" & then I just signed off. Because, I got mad.. that shes more worried about her boyfriendm, then losing her best friend? So yeah, I don't know what to do. I acted like I didn't care anymore, because I was tired, & wanted to go to bed.
What should I do? Should I continue to be mad at her? Or should I just forget about it.. & forgive her? I'm just upset, & need some advice. ASAP.
thanks <3
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what kind of friend would ditch you like that so many times? if you talked to her about it already i would give her one more chance if you really want to be friends. but it sounds to me like she isn't really commiting to her friendship. i would give her a few more chances and tell her how you feel. say something like:
"i feel like you've been ditching me a lot and i feel really used and left out. i dont know why you're doing this but i want to be friends..but i'm getting sick of you ditching me" ect..
then try to make up with her and give her more chances (but obviously dont say you have 3 chances or whatever, keep that to yourself. then if she continues to ditch you..shes not a good friend. if she stops ditching you..shes there for you..hope i helped..please rate me high!!
(: Rachel
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spend some time away from her then maybe shell take you allitle more seriously if not ditch her for good
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I have a lot of experience with this as well. I'm not sure you want to hear this, but lay off of her. Don't talk to her unless she talks to you. Test her. See if she really DOES pay attention to you and that she wants to spend time with you. If she does, talk to her about how you feel you're being ditched all the time while she's sleeping over or something. Tell her not to take it personally, but it's the way you feel. I had that experience and told my friend, and now we're really close again. She hasn't ditched me yet and it's been about 4 months. So, give her a chance if she's willing to take it. Don't be mad, and don't just be a pushover and forgive - just act normally and see if she talks to you. :]
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Ok, I'm going to give you true advice, even if it's not what you want to hear. My friends do it all the time. It's not just you who gets it. Seriously, all she did was ditch you. It's not like she went behind your back and started talking shit about you. Or spreading rumors or telling people your secret. If she's your true best friend. you'd let it pass over. It's not that big of a deal. Sit her down and tell her that you are really upset, and that she said she wouldn't ditch you again and then she did. Tell her you'll give her another chance and then that's it. If she is really your best friend then why get mad over something really dumb. So what if she skipped out on going to a beach with you, the beach will always be there, but best friends will come and go.
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HI good question. First of all I just want to let you know that it was great that you stood up to her and told her the truth about your feelings. I had trouble with that a couple years ago too. If she keeps on ditching you are going to have to get used to it and realize she probably is not going to be as loyal to you as you would like. As far as the boyfriend thing, to me it sound like she is more in to boys and relationships then you. ( no offense ) I am more into friends to. If she is more worried about her boyfriend you should talk to her about her boyfriend and comfort her if he does break up with her. I think you should talk to her again and hopefully it will smooth things up a bit. But do let her know that you will be there for her if she ever needs you during bad relationships. If you love her as much as it sounds, you should not stay mad at her, but you should not just forget about it.
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She promised. Since she hasn't been loyal as a friend, it's okay to be angry at her. But quickly forgetting about it and forgiving her, is not. She's trying to make you forget how she ditched you. I let people do this to me and it's.. just no good.
I don't know if her boyfriend really is going to break up with her or anything but she may be looking for an excuse so you wouldn't 'hate' her.
A best friend shouldn't make up excuses. Since she promised and then she flaked on you.. to go over some other persons house. She had an option to do so. There's no reason why she couldn't. Because she could have gotten a ride either way.
So she broke her promise.
You have a right to be angry at her.
Don't let your friends push you around and upset you.
Wait until she talks to you.
If she doesn't, you deserve a better best friend. <3
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