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my friend thinks shes ugly
My friend has tried to kill herself many times because she thinks shes ugly. I tell her shes beautiful but she won't believe me. People make fun of her and say shes ugly, but I told her its just because they are JEALOUS. I feel if I post a picture of her on here, and I want to know if you guys really think shes ugly. Honestly, I think shes really pretty but she thinks I'm just saying that. Do you think she's pretty? [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) I'd mostly like guys to answer this because most of the time she tries to kill herself is over guys, but girls can give there opinion too. I need a lot of answers so I'm going to rate everyone who answers. She wants me to help her change her appearence so if you think anything needs to be changed like her hair or whatever just tell me, and I will try to help her. I don't want her to die, so please answer as soon as you can!
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Well I think she looks beautiful, ONLY if she smiled! There was one photo in there where she's smiling a little bit, she was wearing a pink and grey top... she looked georgous!
But she obviosuly needs a bit more help then people telling her she looks good or not! Especially if she's trying to kill herself!
Maybe it's an attention thing! It happens sometimes.
Maybe she knows she looks good and she feels secure when people say she's pretty, she just wants to hear it!
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I was able to see the picture, but I'm not going to say what my opinion is, because it's irrelevant. She has bigger issues than her self-image.
You say she's tried to kill herself "many times". Here's the truth: she's not trying to kill herself, she's trying to make it look like she is. If she were really trying, she would have succeeded. It's not that difficult a thing to do. Heck, I can look around the room that I'm in and pick out at least twelve different foolproof ways to off myself.
The biggest danger is that she may inadvertantly succeed, and so this habit needs to be broken. It's a damned stupid way to try to get attention, and unfortunately, your well-intentioned efforts are part of the problem, not part of the solution. By giving her this kind of superficial attention (total strangers complimenting her picture on the internet), you are validating her tactics and giving her what amounts to a short-term fix.
This girl doesn't need a makeover; she needs an intervention. She needs those who love her to gather around her and say that enough is enough. She needs to stop these melodramatic tactics before they actually work. She needs professional counseling.
Don't delay - the next time she stages her own demise, she might accidentally go through with it.
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Well, I can't see the picture but I'm assuming the reason is that most people are either jealous, or they are just ignorant. Beauty is skin deep. And if her last resort is killing herself over what guys have to say about her, then she needs to realize that guys at your age I'm sure will say anything to make their ego bigger. Don't let her pay attention to them. Boys are stupid.
Maybe, if she is a little chubby, she could lose a little weight. If she has a little acne, she could go for a facial or some kind of topical creams to help her get rid of break outs, maybe she could go get her eyebrows waxed or something if they are really bushy. And when it comes to make up, use colors that compliment her skin tone. Blend really well. I use black eye liner: NYC; Dream Matte Mousse from Maybeline. Any kind of Mascara, blush, or eye shadow.
For her hair, she could straighten in with a straightener or straight iron; or she could curl her hair up: To curl my hair I use gel, mousse, and hairspray. First I put the gel in my hands, I run it through my hair and scrunch my hair up to my scalp, then I run LOTS of mousse through my hair, starting at the hairline/scalp. Then I put my hair up in a bun for about 5 mins, and then let my hair flow down and hairspray it.
It works really good and lots of guys think its pretty.
Or if she wanted, she could get her hair cut, angled and put layers in. She could even highlight it too.
If either of you have any questions or need more advice you can IM me @ BabyyGqirlx3
Love always, Abby <3
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well i could not see the pic. but i think she should listen to you because you are her friend and friends dont lie, and i would believe my friend over a jerk any day. and some times the reason for people being bullied is not because there is some thing wrong with them it may be because they lack confidence and the bullys know it, i think you should try to build her confidence as much as you can and she might not be so down in her self , and you should try to get her some help if it has gone so far that she has try to hurt her self. hope i could help !
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the link isn't working for me. you could host one on tiny pic. com...
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you should talk 2 her family about her killing herself.so they can talk 2 her and so they can help her
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i think shes pretty maybe getting her hair styled a little more. and some color to her hair. maybe some make up.
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hey, i think shes pretty. maybe you could put some makeup on her. her hair is gorgeous, maybe some highlights?
-caitt<3
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shes not ugly at all! shes a very pretty girl. well you might want to inform an adult if she tries to committe suicide again. that could really be dangerous.
as for changing her appearence; try new make-up ideas; darker or lighter; new hair cut; new hair color; new clothing style; better attitude helps you come off as a pretty person in general.
you need to explain to her that guys dont like girls that are very self concious. its a major turn off.
i hope i helped just a little bit at least.
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OH MY GOD! She's freaking gorgeous!!!!! I wouldn't change anything about her, but if she really wants it --
1. Haircuts make a ton of difference. she could get her hair layered or cut shorter, that would be very pretty.
2. Experiment with make up. Find what looks good on her.
3. Go shopping with her, pick out colors that look good on her.
Good luck, and I'll pray for her. =]
triciaXterror
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