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Hi Everyone. I'm Alli. ♥

So after a 3 year break. I'm back and ready to answer any of your questions you may have. I hope to help anyone & everyone as best as I can. Have a good day!

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19/f

Hey. I'm just an ordinary girl at college, and well I have a lot on my mind. My roommate is never around and we don't get along really well. I have a lot on my mind regarding life, love, and struggles that I'm going through. The one thing I really want is just someone to really talk to about these things. I do consider myself social :) but none of my friends really help me out, or I just kinda feel like a burden to them and guilty for always coming to them for help. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to find someone that I can talk to about personal things and not feel ashamed? Oh and I don't have a lot of money so I can't get a counselor or anything. Plus I think that would be awkward.

Sometimes I can really relate to what you're going though. I do have a lot of friends but I noticed as I got older, they didn't have as much time for me as they used to, especially for advice. I'm not sure what social groups are like at your college, but you could definitely join one and make friends there. Never feel ashamed about asking for advice or talking about personal things, because almost always, people are going through the same things you are! Also, I don't know what you're relationship is like with your parents but I've always found that my Mom is a great person to talk to and get advice from when there is no one else. :)

♥ Alli

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so, my best friend, can treat me like DIRT.
i mean horrible. she's just sooo rude! what do i do? i mean i love her so much, and shes amazing. but when shes rude i dont know what to do! i just take it. beucase i NEVER want to loose her. i NEED HELP!
15fem.

You just have to own up to what she's doing and tell her what she's doing wrong. Don't make it so she gets mad, if there's an easy way to just sit down with her and explain how you feel, maybe she can change her ways and you can enjoy her company again.
It's really not that hard, I promise.

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my friend ran away from his house today, walked for about 2 hours, then went over to my boyfriend's house where we both were. my boyfriend and him a tight friends. can my boyfriend get in legal trouble for letting my friend into his house?

cuz really, my boyfriend did good, because my friend was walking through some sketchy neighborhoods. he could've gotten shot or stabbed, or jumped.

Your boyfriend did good for letting your friend in to keep him safe, so no he won't get in trouble. I'd really recommend trying to talk to your friend and get him to call his parents immediately and let them know where he is. You wouldn't want his parents think he's gone missing and make it a bigger deal then it's supposed to be.

Good Luck.

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My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago and promised that we would continue to be friends. Well, he hasn't talked to me since and has told everyone that he won't. Should I still occasionally try and be friends, or leave it alone? He was my best friend before we went out.

Sorry to hear that.

He might just be needing some time to think about wether or not you guys can remain friends. Just give him some time, do you have his screen name? If so, just IM him and say hi, and see what his reaction is. Sparking up something is the best way to attract his attention.

♥ Alli

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Dear Alli,
I have this friend, named Kirsten, who is very self conscious in MANY ways. For one thing, she goes to a gym all the time! And whenver she hears her name. she assumes-which i might add makes an "ASS of U and ME"- that we are gossiping about her, and that we hate her. She has her friends, who are great people. She is also a different person around them. She switched classes to be with me and my friends, which i do not understand. She is basically the needy, jealous, friends that butt into everything and just dont leave me alone!!! I understand that she feels left out, but it is a part of life. How do i DEAL?!?!?!?
~/Lindsay age 13

Hi, Lindsay. :]

Let me start here, what do you mean by the "ass of you and me".. thats a little unusal. But..

I can guess this girl may have some issues. Why on Earth would she put the pressure on you of being self conscious, thats not right. Tell her to keep it to herself, especially if she goes to the gym. Theres no reason to start any of that drama.

Well, why don't you tell her that you don't hate or and that your not talking about her. See what she says, If she comes back at you with something negative.. Tell her what's up. Say, i'm telling you the truth, and hang out with your true friends. This girl is obviously in dinial.

How does she feel left out if she has her "other" friends? Really weird.

I actually don't know what to say. Personally, if i were you, i'd stay away from her. Hang out with your real friends, and just stay away from stupid drama queens like this girl obviously is. Or you will get yourself into more trouble. Trust Me.

Good Luck, Take Care.

♥ Alli

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anyone know any sites where i can get quotes of friendship? like distance friendship quotes? thanks

firehotquotes.com

♥ Alli

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i have 2 friends i will name them bob and mary

ok my 2 friends dont like each other like for a hour they like each other than hate each other well my friend mary i knew her longer than bob they both like me always but mary some times ditchs me in school for like 10 mins than comes back and bob never does that. but every word bob says just seems like a lie i dont know why maybe so i can like her better dont know and i only knew mary only a year longer than bob. mary seems funner to hang around with but i dont want to let bob go cause we are in the same grade and me and mary arnt so we dont really spend as much time in school together but on the phone yea i dont know what i should do i kind of dont want to get them to be friends cause than mary takes bob away from me please help me.i like them the same

Hey,

I guess i can see where your coming from, a little bit.

But take my advice here:

In friends theres only this,
1 friend you think is true, and 1 friend that IS true.

You need to find out for youself who your true friends are, If someone ditches you, How is she your friend? If someone repetitly lies to you, how is she your friend? If one of them gang up one you, their NOT your friend.

I suggest making sure you know who your friends are.

I'm sorry i couldn't really word this any nicer,but im being completely honest.

Think about it.

♥ Alli*

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ok me and my friends never really go any where what are somethings we can do and how do i tell them to go places

Umm, Well, You guys should make plans to do something. Like maybe during the weekend?

You guys could go to the Mall, Go see a movie, maybe go out to lunch? Or you can always hang out at your houses! It's always fun, and no cost twoards anything :)

♥ Alli*

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my best friend is depressed. and it makes me so sad! she says shes fat when shes NOT she says shes ugly when shes NOT and this one guy was like do you have a myspace so she gave him the link and said ew your ugly and signed off.. so she is really sad about that.. i keep telling her that if she thinks shes fat she should just go on a diet and i would go on it with her. she doesnt need to make herself prettier cause shes pretty enough! what can i do to make her feel better?

Aww, I'm terribly sorry to hear that.

I go through this TONS of times.

You should talk to your friend, tell her your deep feelings & what you really think.

Make her understand that you love her and her other friends love her the way she is, she doesn't need to be "perfect" tell her her personality is the only thing that counts.

That kid has no right saying what he said, HELL HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW HER! Thats terribly wrong.

Tell her that kid must have something wrong with himself if he has to bring a nice girl like your friend down..

Tell her whats true to your heart, thats what makes a great friend. =]

Take Care.
♥ Alli*

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my bestfriend lives across the street from me.. well she talks to this guy who is 16 on aim and we are both 13 well hes not a virgin... since shes been talking to him her personality has changed big time. hes smokes pot and drinks all the time and shes starting to act like him. heres the bad thing she sneaks out of her house at 2 a.m and doesnt get back until 5 a.m. well she has done this the last 2 nights and im worried that something bad will happen.. they almost got caught out by the police 2 times.. id this keeps up shes gonna end up getting raped or something by him.. how can i tell her to stop this or something might happen.. any advice will be helpful and most appreciated..
thanks

signed
worried friend

OH Dear!

Worried Friend,

You need to SERIOUSLY talk to your friend. Tell her parents whats going on, it doesn't matter if she will be mad at you in the end, because you helped her and thats all that matters.

We both know probably what shes capable of getting herself into..

Tell her you need to talk to her, what your feeling, and what you can do to help.

Take Care my dear.. :)

♥ Alli*

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I just found out that one of my best guy friends likes me...I don't feel the same about him,but I have no idea how to tell him other than "i dont like you" and thats kinda mean *lol* I'm also afraid it will be awkward around him, any ideas how to make sure it's not?

Just simply tell him, i don't want to date you, and i'd just like it if we're friends as we are now. It can't hurt a bit, but if you leave the part out of being friends, then yes..that would be sad.

♥ Alli*

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I move here about 11 months ago,and i made friends. Everything was good until the ending of the year. My friends became friends with this girl,and she seemed to make them not pay attension to me,not that she didnt like me,she just would push me away. And i got all sad about that.Well i gave up being there friends,i dont know why.I've been longing to move back to my city and my mom said she would.I keep avioding my so called "frineds" here any only playing with the ones from my old city. I find it easyer to have fun. But there's this grudge and i dont know why i have it,im starting to get really depressed and longing to move back everday. How can i fix this?!!? (no matter what i am moving back though...my mom is decideing and if she cant find a house im going to live with me dad when he moves to my city)

Well, it kind of sucks how that girl just took your friends away like that. Theres nothing wrong with your friends having new friends. You should have told your friends that you would like them to make time for you, and stop ignoring you. Its a great thing that you have friends that care about you back at your old house, my advice would be, talk to your new friends..tell them whatsup, and stick with the friends at the old home that have already embraced you. Fix it by talking to your new friends.

Take Care.

♥ Alli*

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I have a friend who says I am her "best friend". Well, lately she hasn't been inviting me places. Like, she is always with other people. I have caught on that everytime she invites me out her other friends are busy. Do you think I am her second choice or maybe I am just overreacting? I have talked to her about it but she makes excuses.

Well, thats not very nice what shes doing.

If she says you guys are "best friends" you would be hanging out non stop. It doesn't really seem like shes the true friend, you should tell her how you feel, and see what she says. In the mean time, find a great friend that can make time for you and make you seem like you know their your "best friend". To make this simple, shes using you.

Take care, Hun.

♥ Alli*

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i have many friends but they never call me or ask me to hang out. its always me talking to them or calling them or asking them to hang out. i have a boyfriend who ive been with for almost a year and they have kept in touch with me less and less since ive been with him. i really want my friends back and to make new friends. what can i do?

Stand up! Speak out, tell your friends that they never call. Ask them why. Thats not right, if they were REAL friends they'd actually call you once in a while, and even hang out with you. Your boyfriend doesn't call you!? what!? Thats unusual. Get some great people in your life, you desirve A LOT better. Be optimistic & friendly and make some new friends that you desirve. Take care hun.

♥ Alli*

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Me and my friend have been best friends forever! She reccently had a sleepover and when we were there we prank phonecalled a boy who likes me at 2 in the morning, even though he didn't even care that we did. Well her mom found out and got really mad...now I'm afraid to ask my friend to hang out with me over the summer because I'm afraid that my mom will find out and I'm afraid of my friends mom. So what should I do?

Just call your friend and tell her whats wrong and what ur feeling. She should clear things up for you. Dont be scared.

♥ Alli*

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My cousin julie is coming over in a few weeks and we are planing on having, well lets say fun. I have allready had fun, but i want my friends to do it. Alex is def. coming to try it, and i really want krissy to come, but i also want ina to come try it. Ina usually tells her cousin everything, and krissy dosnt want he cousin knowing about this. so krissy said if ina gos, she wont. SO i dont know if i should let just krissy go, or just ina go...Krissy said its fine if i let ina go and not her, but im going to feel bad... please help me choose which one i should choose. XOXO thanks!
-Rachel

What kind of fun? :x and what do you mean? Im sorry, but i cannot understand anything in this question. Or do you mean which friend of yours you should invite over? umm, i would say just bring all of them so one doesnt feel mad or jealous.

♥ Alli*

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Hey Alli,

Ok I have this one friend and she is totally changing herself for the worst. Since the beginning of the year, she's liked this one kid...and then she started dressing really preppy and hanging around with the "popular crowd" just to impress this kid and totally blowing off her true friends. Like once in one of the classes we had together, I called her name like a million times and she totally ignored me. And then her "popular friend" called her once and she answered like *snap* THAT. And there have been way to many other incidences(i dunno if i spelled that right)
to name. I've tried talking to her about it but she just doesnt seem to get where I'm coming from. I've even tried ignoring her but that brought up a whole new riot! So what can I do so she doesn't go too far with this "popularity" thing?

Hey Hun,

I totally see where your coming from. I have had MANY friends who have done this wayy before. Mostley everyone changes when they meet new people, especially in Middle School. Fighting doesn't solve the problem, maybe your friend just wants to make new friends. I honestly dont think its your friends fault, maybe its the new people shes hanging out with are changing her. Just explain to her that you dont care if she has other friends, just at least include you in the picture. If that doesnt help, that means shes not a true friend like you thought she was. And maybe you should consider being around your true friends, and even making new ones. Take Care.

♥ Alli*

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Well I'm not really getting invited to too many parties. A girl named Katee had a huge party and I wasnt invited...I feel like a loser and left out....any ways on how to have more friends or something like that?

Well, remember just always be yourself. It will backfire on you if you change yourself, or act differently. Its never true when you dont have "any" friends. Dont try to fit in with the "popular crowd". All you could do would be to not be an outkast, and be regonized. Take Care.

♥ Alli*

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ok well theres this new girl named kristen that came to our school like 4 months ago and she acts all popular and shes really mean.anyways one day our teacher was picking partners for a project and she picked my best friend diana and kristen:(then they started playing with each other and doing everything together.kristen is just taking diana away from me:(so what should i do?i want my best friend diana back!

Aww, i could really relate to what your talking about. I have had MANY friends taken away as well. What you should do is, talk to your friend diana. Tell her you don't want to lose her, and tell her how you really feel. If shes a true friend, she will listen. Take Care.

♥ Alli*

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So i have this "friend" that thinks everyone likes her and all and she's always like "oh everyone's posing me" and what not. and she CONSTANTLY wants to prove something to me, like she's better than me or something. and i frankly, don't care if she's better or not, but what really bugs me is that one of my bestfriends is ALWAYS complaining about how annoying she is but always goes out of her way to be nice to the "annoying" kid. i talked to her about it already and it didn't help but strain our relationship. and quite frankly, a lot of kids think she's kinda...awkward but they all STILL go out of their way to please her and all. it's gotten to the point that i just can't stand being around her because of her so focking annoying behavior. she ALWAYS wants people to pity her ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS and she ALWAYS thinks people are posing her when in reality, she's as much of a poseur as any of us. this has been bugging me for the longest time so what do you think i should do? sitting down and talking to her is definitely not a choice because she's such a butthole.

Hi Hun, Sorry to hear about this friend of yours. Hmm.. I know this sounds weird, but iv'e had a friend like this a while ago. I know it seems like she wants to be "miss popular", or the most beautiful, or anything like that. I know this sounds a little mean, but if your this annoyed of her behavior and/or personality, you should try making some new friends that you can actually hang around or thats more like you. Because every girl is beautiful in there own way, and if someone like this girl your mentioning is putting herself out there too much, then she really doesnt have a true beauty. It doesn't seem like shes really a poser.. but maybe sort of a "Push Out Girl". If you know what that means.. But like i said. If this has been annoying you long enough, you should consider making new friends. And in the end, she will finally realize what shes been doing wrong.
Hope i helped,
L0VE ALWAYS, ALLi * X0XO

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