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I am alone. How do I find someone that I can talk to about personal things and not feel ashamed?
19/f
Hey. I'm just an ordinary girl at college, and well I have a lot on my mind. My roommate is never around and we don't get along really well. I have a lot on my mind regarding life, love, and struggles that I'm going through. The one thing I really want is just someone to really talk to about these things. I do consider myself social :) but none of my friends really help me out, or I just kinda feel like a burden to them and guilty for always coming to them for help. I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to find someone that I can talk to about personal things and not feel ashamed? Oh and I don't have a lot of money so I can't get a counselor or anything. Plus I think that would be awkward.
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I know u posted this a while ago but if u still want someone to talk to I will listen and I don't judge 18f melissahigdon7@yahoo.com
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The most frustrating thing for friends is when they give you advice and yet you don't follow through on it. Now I can understand that if it's bad advice, but if, for example, you have a rocky relationship with your boyfriend and you ask what you should do about him and they tell you to break up with him because he's bad for you and yet you don't split and insist on continuing to ask your friends for advice then they feel like you're an emotional vampire and will shut you out. There are way too many women who are emotional vampires.
One thing that could help avoid being shutout is if you specify what it is you want. "I just want to vent" is a good way to preface what you're going to say if you just want someone to listen. Unfortunately, too many women will use the gambit of supposedly wanting advice when they actually just want to vent. So say you want advice only when you will seriously entertain the ideas of others for solving a problem. Otherwise, tell them you just need s shoulder to cry on.
By honestly specifying what it is you're doing your friends will have a lot more sympathy for you and you won't be a burden to them.
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Sometimes I can really relate to what you're going though. I do have a lot of friends but I noticed as I got older, they didn't have as much time for me as they used to, especially for advice. I'm not sure what social groups are like at your college, but you could definitely join one and make friends there. Never feel ashamed about asking for advice or talking about personal things, because almost always, people are going through the same things you are! Also, I don't know what you're relationship is like with your parents but I've always found that my Mom is a great person to talk to and get advice from when there is no one else. :)
♥ Alli
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Hi,im also 19/f and i no exactly what your going through,im a really outgoing and social person and even though im surrounded by friends i find it hard to talk about certain things, maybe its because i dont actually think they will want to listen or they simply just dont understand me, to be honest i love meeting new people but its hard to do that were im from.Im allways free & here to talk about anything, i dont judge & im realy honest :)if you feel you need advice or just someone to open up to you can e.mail me privately if it helps.
LF xx
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I mean I guess you could maybe try meeting new people or maybe if you are going to school you could speak with someone within the school. I have an email for anyone who wants to talk about anything and I don't judge.
My email: ohthatgirl1987@yahoo.com
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im free and im here if you need me =)
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Well you can talk to me :P haha, just sayin'. But in all seriousness, I've found it very helpful to talk to people who share a common interest with me, such as theater and the arts. Once you get going on one topic, you will end up expanding to other things and becoming closer. I hope this helps somewhat, and if I think of anything else (or if you have more questions) my user's Hollywood22 :D
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